It’s not often that we get a listener question from a man, and less often that we actually answer it. But today’s question of, “Should I continue to hold out hope for my marriage after abusing my wife? Should I fight for my wife? And what, in your opinion, does that look like?” struck me as being a question that we could all benefit from, so I’m going to give you my honest answer and hopefully help all of the women in this community as well as this seemingly well-intentioned man.

Let’s talk about what taking responsibility looks like, why advocates and victims of emotional abuse using sarcasm and satire to make their points, how abusers who want to change and actually love their wives can do that well (hint: it isn’t by trying to stay in power and control over the wife), and why my book may help you figure out if you are in an abusive marriage. 

Key Points From This Episode:

• What taking responsibility for your actions may look like
• What triggers abusers and how an abuser’s mind thinks
• The best way an abuser can “fight” for their marriage (if they truly have changed)
• What the secret ingredient to a healthy marriage is
• Why giving your wife an amazing divorce may be the best way to show her that you love her 
• A run-down of my book and why it may be helpful for you as you figure out if you are in an emotionally abusive marriage

Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here

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