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ADHD is Not An Excuse But An Explanation - with Luke Gordon


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Is your partner using ADHD or another diagnosis to excuse deception and bad behavior? In this episode, Alana and Amie welcome Luke Gordon (cofounder of Choose Recovery Services and certified betrayal trauma coach) back to their podcast. Luke gives his perspective on how ADHD can explain certain behaviors but should never be weaponized or used as an excuse for acting out. This episode will get you thinking about the interplay of mental health, healing, accountability, and recovery.

Listen to learn:

  • The difference between using a mental health diagnosis as a valid explanation vs an excuse for harmful behavior

  • The responsibility individuals have to manage symptoms, limit impact on others, and take ownership when they have a diagnosis

  • The importance of getting professional support when dealing with mental health conditions while healing

  • Referenced in this episode:

    • Connect with Luke Gordon and book a session with him HERE.

    • Fierce Intimacy by Terry Real

    • Should I Stay or Go? - Amie’s self-paced guide that empowers you to learn how to choose the next right step for you.

    • Coming Soon!

      • Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveil layers of shame, and reclaim their authentic selves. Intensive will be held May 16-18, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.

      • More from Choose Recovery Services

        • Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

          • Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust and finding joy once again.

            • Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. 

              • Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

                • ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

                  • Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

                    • Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

                      • Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability and camaraderie.

                        • Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

                          • Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

                            • Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

                              • Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.

                                • Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

                                  • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

                                    • Dating From Within - Amie hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. 

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