Are you functioning but not really feeling?

If you grew up in dysfunction, emotional neglect, addiction, chaos, criticism, or unpredictability, emotional numbness may have become a survival response.

In this episode of Tammy’s Takes, Tammy Vincent follows up on her conversation with Megan Margherio to explore why adult children of dysfunction often feel disconnected from themselves, struggle with nervous system dysregulation, and stay stuck in survival mode long after childhood ends.

Tammy breaks down:

✔ Emotional numbness and childhood trauma

✔ Nervous system healing and regulation

✔ Why peace and safety can feel uncomfortable

✔ Survival mode, hypervigilance, and emotional shutdown

✔ Why adult children struggle to feel joy

✔ Body awareness and emotional healing practices

✔ How to stop spiraling and reconnect with yourself

✔ Practical nervous system tools you can use today

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I feel numb even though my life looks okay?” this episode is for you.

Because you are not broken. You adapted.

Listen to Tammy’s full episode with Megan Margherio for deeper healing around emotional numbness and trauma recovery.

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What happens after survival?

If you grew up in dysfunction, emotional neglect, abuse, addiction, or chaos, chances are you learned how to survive. But what happens when survival mode becomes emotional numbness? What happens when you no longer feel the pain… but you also can’t fully feel the joy?

In this deeply powerful and validating conversation, Tammy sits down with trauma-informed embodiment coach, speaker, and author Megan Margherio to talk about healing trauma through the body, reconnecting with safety, and learning how to feel alive again.

Together, they unpack how childhood dysfunction shapes the nervous system, why so many adult children of dysfunction struggle with numbness, hypervigilance, anxiety, and emotional shutdown, and why healing is about so much more than “thinking positive.”

Megan vulnerably shares her own healing journey and explains why survival is only half the story. The real work comes in learning how to trust yourself again, reconnect with your body, and create enough emotional safety to let joy, peace, delight, and goodness back in.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why dysfunction impacts us even without addiction in the home

• Emotional numbness and feeling like a shell of yourself

• Why trauma survivors often struggle to feel joy

• How trauma gets stored in the body

• Nervous system regulation and survival mode

• Somatic healing, trauma-sensitive yoga, and body awareness

• Why talk therapy sometimes isn’t enough

• EMDR, breathwork, and healing stored trauma

• Learning to feel safe enough to receive good things

• Why healing is not about perfection — it’s about becoming more alive

One of the biggest takeaways from this episode: you did not survive everything you survived just to exist. You survived to experience joy, connection, peace, and a life that feels safe to live.

Connect with Megan Margherio:

Website: MeganMargherio.com

Instagram: @megan_margherio on Instagram

TikTok: @megan_margherio on TikTok

Grab Megan’s book: Everwoven: A Memoir, A Reckoning

If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs the reminder that survival is only half the story.

Healing is possible. And you deserve all good things

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My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,

Find ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here

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In this powerful Tammy’s Takes episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent expands on her conversation with Irin Rubin, founder of Mama Zen, to explore a difficult but important truth:

Your child may not actually be the trigger… your nervous system is.

If you’ve ever found yourself snapping, yelling, shutting down, feeling overstimulated, or wondering:

“Why am I reacting this strongly?”

This episode is for you.

Tammy dives into how childhood dysfunction, emotional neglect, trauma, and growing up in chaotic environments shape the nervous system and influence the way we parent today. She explains why many parenting reactions are not about the child’s behavior—but about old wounds, subconscious survival patterns, and nervous system dysregulation.

Most importantly, Tammy shares a practical 3-Step Nervous System Reset for Parenting Triggers to help parents pause, regulate emotional overwhelm, stop reactive patterns, and begin breaking generational trauma in real time.

This episode covers emotional regulation, co-regulation, repair after conflict, parenting after dysfunction, and why healing yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children.

Because your children don’t need perfect parents.

They need healing ones.

• Why your child may not actually be “the trigger”

• How childhood dysfunction impacts parenting reactions

• The connection between trauma and nervous system dysregulation

• Tammy’s 3-Step Nervous System Reset for parenting triggers

• Why co-regulation matters more than control

• How repair builds emotional safety with children

• Why shame keeps generational trauma alive

• The difference between reacting and responding

If you’re tired of feeling emotionally flooded, reactive, overwhelmed, or stuck in survival mode, Tammy created a simple, practical guide to help.

Grab the Nervous System Reset Guide here:

https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/y4ucfW2w/checkout

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As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.

My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,

Find ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here

Did you know I also offer access to an amazing travel savings program that can help you save up to 70% on hotels, resorts, cruises, and more? Let’s compare your next upcoming itinerary and see how much you could save.

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In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with Irin Rubin, Founder and CEO of Mama Zen, a global mental wellness platform helping parents regulate anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and parenting triggers through nervous system support and emotional regulation tools. Inspired by her own motherhood struggles, Erin created Mama Zen as a practical solution that is now being used in over 45 countries.

Together, Tammy and Erin explore the hidden roots of parenting triggers, nervous system dysregulation, childhood trauma, emotional overwhelm, and why so many parents react in ways they never intended. They unpack how unresolved childhood experiences shape adult emotional responses and why healing yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children.

This episode dives into powerful concepts like co-regulation, emotional regulation, parenting anxiety, guilt, perfectionism, repair after conflict, and breaking generational cycles. Erin shares practical tools to help parents move out of fight-or-flight mode, regulate their nervous systems, and respond more calmly during difficult parenting moments. Tammy also opens up about her own experience growing up in dysfunction and the importance of modeling emotional safety for children.

If you’ve ever worried about repeating unhealthy family patterns, feeling emotionally reactive, or struggling with parenting stress, this episode offers practical tools, compassionate guidance, and hope that healing and change are absolutely possible.

• Why your child isn’t actually “the trigger”

• How childhood trauma impacts parenting reactions

• What nervous system dysregulation looks like in parents

• The power of co-regulation with children

• Why repair matters more than perfection in parenting

• How guilt and perfectionism affect motherhood

• Practical tools to calm your nervous system

• How to break generational cycles of shame, yelling, and emotional overwhelm

🌐 Website:

www.mamazen.com

📱 Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/mamazenapp

📘 Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/mamazenapp

🎵 TikTok:

https://www.tiktok.com/@mamazenapp

📱 Download Mama Zen in the App Store and start your free trial today.

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As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.

My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,

Find ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here

Did you know I also offer access to an amazing travel savings program that can help you save up to 70% on hotels, resorts, cruises, and more? Let’s compare your next upcoming itinerary and see how much you could save.

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In this powerful Tammy’s Takes episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent expands on her conversation with Lori Montre and explores one of the biggest frustrations in healing: Why do we keep repeating the same patterns even when we know where they come from?

If you’ve ever thought:

“I know why I do this… so why can’t I stop?”

This episode is for you.

Tammy dives into why awareness alone does not heal trauma patterns, and how nervous system regulation—not just mindset—plays a critical role in changing behaviors like people-pleasing, emotional eating, anxiety, overthinking, shutting down, and emotional overwhelm.

Through a trauma-informed lens, Tammy explains why many survival patterns were learned as protection in childhood and why trying to “think your way out” of them often doesn’t work. Instead, she shares a practical 3-Step Pattern Interrupt Reset listeners can begin using immediately to create more emotional safety, regulate their nervous systems, and begin changing patterns from the inside out.

If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same cycles, this episode offers hope, understanding, and practical tools to begin healing.

• Why awareness alone doesn’t create lasting change

• How childhood survival patterns become adult behaviors

• Why nervous system regulation matters more than mindset

• The hidden reason you keep repeating old patterns

• Tammy’s 3-Step Pattern Interrupt Reset

• How to stop shame and start healing

• Why healing begins with safety—not perfection

If this episode resonated with you, Tammy created a practical guide to help you begin calming your nervous system and interrupting survival patterns in real life.

Grab the Nervous System Reset Guide here:

https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/y4ucfW2w/checkout

In this deeply healing episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with Lori Montre, trauma-informed coach, former corporate lawyer, and author of You’re Not the Problem, for a powerful conversation about childhood trauma, nervous system regulation, emotional eating, people-pleasing, hypervigilance, and healing the patterns that keep us stuck.

Lori shares her personal story of surviving childhood sexual abuse, growing up feeling like a burden, and turning to food as emotional comfort and protection. Together, Tammy and Lori unpack how trauma — whether “big T” or “little t” — shapes the way we see ourselves, the world, and relationships. They discuss why understanding your patterns logically is not enough, and why healing must start in the body before lasting change can happen.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why nervous system regulation must come before mindset work

• How childhood dysfunction creates survival patterns like people-pleasing, anxiety, overthinking, and emotional eating

• Why trauma changes the stories we tell ourselves about worthiness and safety

• How to stop scanning for danger and begin rewiring your brain for safety

• The difference between calming your nervous system and actually processing stored stress and emotions

• Practical body-based tools to reconnect with yourself and feel safer in your body

• Why healing isn’t about “fixing yourself” — because you were never the problem to begin with.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I still struggle even though I know better?” this episode will help you understand the deeper roots of your patterns and remind you that healing is possible.

You are not broken. You adapted to survive. And what was learned can be unlearned.

Connect with Lori

Website: www.LoriMontry.com

Youtube: Lori Montry -Somatic Healing Practitioner - YouTube

www.facebook.com/LoriMontry

https://www.lorimontry.com/book-intro

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As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.

My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,

Find ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here

Did you know I also offer access to an amazing travel savings program that can help you save up to 70% on hotels, resorts, cruises, and more? Let’s compare your next upcoming itinerary and see how much you could save.

👉 Try the Trip Check: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/trip-check

📺 Subscribe to My YouTube Channel

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In this heartfelt Tammy’s Takes episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy expands on a powerful concept from her conversation with child advocate and trauma-informed clinician Paula Yost: sometimes healing doesn’t begin with perfect circumstances—it begins with one safe person.

Tammy explores how childhood dysfunction shapes the nervous system and why so many adults struggle with anxiety, people-pleasing, emotional overwhelm, overthinking, and relationship challenges later in life. Through a trauma-informed lens, she explains the powerful role of co-regulation—the way safe relationships help calm and retrain the nervous system—and why many adult children of dysfunction never received enough of it growing up.

This episode is a compassionate reminder that healing happens in safe relationships, not perfect ones. Tammy also shares a practical 3-step process listeners can begin using today to create more emotional safety in their lives, improve relationships, and start becoming the safe person they may have never had.

If you’ve ever struggled with feeling emotionally unsafe, overwhelmed, or disconnected, this episode will help you better understand why—and offer hope for what healing can look like moving forward.

• Why one safe person can change a life

• What co-regulation is and why it matters

• How childhood dysfunction impacts the nervous system

• Why healing happens in safe relationships, not perfect ones

• The hidden effects of emotional unpredictability growing up

• A 3-step process to begin creating emotional safety today

• How to become the safe person you may have never had

If you’re tired of survival mode and want help understanding the patterns keeping you stuck, book a free Clarity & Calm call:

https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/clarity-and-calm-call

Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you.

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As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.

My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,

Find ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here

Did you know I also offer access to an amazing travel savings program that can help you save up to 70% on hotels, resorts, cruises, and more? Let’s compare your next upcoming itinerary and see how much you could save.

👉 Try the Trip Check: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/trip-check

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In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with attorney, licensed mental health clinician, child advocate, and author Paula Yost to explore the complex intersection of trauma, foster care, mental health, and advocacy. Paula shares her unique perspective as both a legal professional and trauma-informed clinician, bringing deep compassion and real-world insight into what children in foster care truly need to heal.

Together, Tammy and Paula unpack the realities of childhood trauma, the lasting impact of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), and why many foster children struggle with trust, regulation, and connection. Paula shares the deeply personal story of becoming the adoptive mother of a former foster youth and explains how healing often starts with one stable adult who refuses to give up.

This conversation highlights the importance of relationship repair, trauma education, emotional safety, and why behavior is often a trauma response—not a reflection of who a child truly is. Paula also sheds light on the foster care system, mental health advocacy, and how society often misunderstands children who are acting out from pain rather than defiance.

Most importantly, this episode is a reminder that healing is possible—and sometimes all it takes is one person who believes in you.

• Why foster children need trauma-informed support

• The hidden realities of childhood trauma and neglect

• Why behavior is often a trauma response, not defiance

• The importance of relationship repair and emotional safety

• How one stable adult can change a child’s future

• Understanding ACE scores and childhood adversity

• Why hope and advocacy matter in healing

00:00 Introduction to Paula Yost

01:12 Paula’s legal and mental health background

04:00 Mental health, the justice system & missed intervention

10:30 Foster care and trauma education

13:00 Why foster children act out

17:00 The power of one safe adult

21:00 What a child advocate really does

24:00 Paula’s adoption story

31:00 Trauma-informed parenting tips

35:00 The heartbreaking realities many foster kids face

39:00 Paula’s final message: There is always hope

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulajyostauthor/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/paulayostauthor

Follow Paula for practical insights, child advocacy education, trauma-informed perspectives, and updates on her work and new book.

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As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.

My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,

Find ALL THE THINGS HERE: Anything that I have to offer is right here

Did you know I also offer access to an amazing travel savings program that can help you save up to 70% on hotels, resorts, cruises, and more? Let’s compare your next upcoming itinerary and see how much you could save.

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Why do you keep repeating the same patterns… even when you know exactly where they come from?

In this powerful Tammy’s Take, Tammy Vincent breaks down one of the most misunderstood parts of healing: awareness.

Because awareness is not just understanding your childhood or knowing why you react the way you do. Real healing begins when you can catch the pattern while it’s happening.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “I know better… so why do I still do this?”
• “Why do I keep people pleasing, overthinking, shutting down, or abandoning myself?”
• “Why do I still react this way even after all the work I’ve done?”

This episode is for you.

Tammy explores how childhood dysfunction, trauma, and nervous system survival responses can turn coping strategies into what feels like personality traits. You’ll learn why intellectual awareness alone is not enough and how to begin interrupting old emotional patterns in real time.

In this episode, Tammy shares 5 practical ways to build real-time awareness, including:

✔️ How to notice what your body is trying to tell you

✔️ Why your triggers hold important clues

✔️ How to pause before automatic reactions take over

✔️ Why self-judgment keeps you stuck in survival mode

✔️ Small ways to interrupt patterns and create real change

If you grew up walking on eggshells, people pleasing, fearing conflict, overthinking, or struggling to feel emotionally safe, this conversation will help you understand why your nervous system reacts the way it does and what healing can actually look like.

Because awareness isn’t the finish line.

It’s the beginning of healing.

🎧 Listen now and start learning how to respond instead of react.

✨ Ready for support in your healing journey?

Hey there, I’m so glad you’re here and tuning in! If this episode spoke to your heart, just know there’s even more support waiting for you.

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If you are curious about where you stand energetically, or just need a frequency boost, book your FREE biofrequency voice scan here: https://calendly.com/tammyvincent/complimentary-scan-demo if you want to take part in an amazing club, where you can get unlimited scans and free coaching every month, sign up here: $25 ($250 Value) Join For One Month Here https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/JQz3QDrr/checkout

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Trials To Triumph: An Adult Child's Emotional Freedom Blueprint: Use code THRIVE25 for 75% off today. https://workshops.tammyvincent.com/offers/DSbcgrZZ/checkout

As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.

My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,

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In this episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with trauma-informed therapist Scott Stolarick to explore the true complexity of trauma—and how it impacts both victims and those who cause harm.

With over 30 years of clinical experience, Scott brings a rare and powerful perspective, having worked on both sides of trauma in the correctional system and private practice. Together, Tammy and Scott unpack how trauma is not defined by the event itself, but by how it is experienced and processed—and how unresolved trauma can quietly shape behaviors, relationships, and patterns throughout life.

Scott shares a powerful analogy of trauma as a small crack in a windshield that spreads over time if left untreated, illustrating how trauma can expand into multiple areas of life if not addressed.

This conversation also dives into the role of shame, denial, and support systems in healing, and why being seen, heard, and validated is often the first step toward recovery. Most importantly, Scott emphasizes that trauma does not define you—it is only one piece of your story.

• Trauma is defined by your experience—not the event itself

• Unresolved trauma expands and impacts multiple areas of life

• Healing requires safe spaces, validation, and willingness

• Shame and denial are major barriers to recovery

• Your past influences your present—but does not define your future

• True healing comes from integrating, not avoiding, your experiences

• You are more than what happened to you

00:00 Introduction to Scott Stolarick

01:15 How Scott got into trauma work

03:30 Understanding trauma from both sides

11:15 What trauma actually is

15:50 The “windshield crack” analogy

19:00 How trauma spreads if untreated

22:00 Shame, disclosure, and healing

25:00 Trauma, patterns, and perception

31:10 Final message: Your life is a mosaic

Website: http://www.mosaicpathwaycounseling.org

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scott-stolarick-lcpc-cctp-298734252/

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As an international inspirational speaker, NLP Practitioner, Trauma-Informed Coach, Neurofit Trainer, and Best-Selling Author, I bring both deep personal experience and professional training to the work I do. I believe in prevention, not just intervention — and use a body, mind, and spirit approach to guide others toward becoming the happiest, healthiest versions of themselves.

My holistic toolbox includes nervous system regulation, trauma-informed coaching, nutritional support, and natural healing strategies,

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