In this Agony Aunties episode of Therapy Works, Julia, Emily and Sophie respond to a deeply moving letter from a listener questioning whether her long, emotionally disconnected marriage can be saved. They explore the complex layers of love, duty, financial dependence, neurodivergence, resentment, and midlife awakening - offering thoughtful reflections on grief, desire, the cost of staying, and the cost of leaving. With compassion and clarity, they discuss how therapy, imagining possible futures, practical planning, and understanding neurodivergent dynamics can help illuminate a way forward. They also share book and podcast recommendations, discuss the emotional impact on both partners, and remind listeners that meaningful change - whatever form it takes - doesn’t have to be rushed.

Links & Resources Mentioned

• Email your questions: [email protected]

• DM Julia on Instagram: @juliasamuelmbe

• The Honesty Box by Lucy Brazier

• Therapy Works episode with Lucy Brazier

• The Four Minds by Miranda July (book referenced in the discussion) is called All Fours: https://mirandajuly.com/all-fours/

• Esther Perel x Miranda July conversation (podcast interview)

• Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women by Oona Metz (guest mentioned as upcoming interview)

If you need help finding a therapist, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠The Samuel Therapy Practice⁠⁠⁠

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