Ask The Betrayed

By Sharon & Rae

The Ask The Betrayed podcast provides tangible hope to those in crisis and a safe place for Betrayed Partners to find healing and insight into the behaviors of the Unfaithful (who can also to learn ho... more

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Number 1: THERAPEUTIC SEPARATION: CAN BEING APART BRING YOU BACK TOGETHER AFTER BETRAYAL?
Could a therapeutic separation actually save your relationship after infidelity? Many couples fear that a separation means the marriage is over. But what if a carefully planned, intentional, and therapeutic separation could actually create the space needed for healing, clarity, and lasting recovery? In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most misunderstood interventions in betrayal recovery: the therapeutic separation. You'll learn what a therapeutic separation is - and what it is not - when it may be appropriate, how to know if the timing is right, and the essential elements that make it therapeutic instead of simply becoming time apart or a prelude to divorce. Whether you're considering a therapeutic separation or simply want to understand this important recovery tool, this episode offers practical guidance, hope, and a thoughtful roadmap. In This Episode You'll Learn: • What a therapeutic separation actually is - and what it is not. • When a therapeutic separation can help save a relationship. • Why timing matters. • The difference between crisis intervention and therapeutic separation. • How to create clear goals, measurable outcomes, and a mission statement. • Why therapeutic separation is a break in unhealthy patterns—not a break from recovery. • How to establish communication boundaries, financial agreements, and living arrangements. • Why no-contact periods can create unexpected peace and clarity. • Common mistakes couples make during separation. • How to know when it's time to end—or extend—a therapeutic separation. One of the most powerful reminders from this conversation is this: A therapeutic separation isn't a step toward divorce. It's a courageous attempt to preserve a marriage when old patterns are preventing healing. If you're navigating betrayal trauma, recovery doesn't always mean staying together every day under the same roof. Sometimes creating intentional space allows both partners to heal in ways that aren't possible while unhealthy patterns continue. While recovery isn't about avoiding discomfort; it IS about creating the conditions where genuine healing can occur. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast. If this episode encourages you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share to help others recovering from betrayal trauma find hope and practical tools for healing. 🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: [email protected] 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: [email protected] ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: [email protected]) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery
August 20, 202647min
Number 2: When Has The Unfaithful Had Enough Attention?
Are you constantly watching your unfaithful partner, hoping they'll finally make you feel safe again? After betrayal, it's completely understandable to focus on what your partner is doing. They're the source of the trauma. But what if true healing begins when your sense of safety no longer depends entirely on their choices? In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon and Rae explore one of the most important—and often overlooked—concepts in betrayal trauma recovery: building internal safety. You'll learn why hypervigilance, while a completely understandable trauma reaction, can keep you trapped in survival mode, and how shifting your focus back to yourself creates the stability needed for lasting healing. In this episode, you'll discover: Why betrayed partners naturally become hypervigilant after infidelity. The difference between external safety and internal safety. Why your healing cannot depend entirely on your partner's recovery. How betrayal trauma disrupts your sense of trust in yourself and the world. Five practical ways to build internal safety. How learning to trust yourself again becomes one of the greatest gifts of healing. Learn how your greatest source of safety can become you. Healing isn't about pretending the danger never existed. Healing is about re-learning that you can navigate life - even when uncertainty remains. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast. 🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: [email protected] 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: [email protected] ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: [email protected]) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery
August 05, 202631min
Number 3: HOW TO TAKE BACK CONTROL OF YOUR HEALING AFTER BETRAYAL
Healing from betrayal trauma doesn't happen by accident. It happens one intentional step at a time. In this episode of Ask the Betrayed, Sharon Rinearson, LCSW, CCPS, and Rae explore practical tools and takeaways that can help betrayed partners become more intentional, thoughtful, and compassionate in their healing journey. From journaling and nervous system check-ins to goal setting, somatic interventions, and recognizing signs of healing, this episode is packed with actionable strategies that you can begin using today. If you've ever wondered: • "What am I supposed to do with all of the information I'm learning?" • "How do I know if I'm actually healing?" • "How do I stop feeling stuck?" • "How do I reconnect with myself after betrayal?" • "What tools actually help betrayal trauma recovery?" This episode is for you. In This Episode You'll Learn: • How to identify and apply the "gold nuggets" from therapy, podcasts, and recovery work. • A powerful tool for tracking healing and identifying patterns. • How to use morning and evening check-ins to support nervous system regulation. • Practical somatic exercises to calm your body and reconnect with yourself. • A method to heal yourself in the moment. • How to set measurable healing goals that actually move recovery forward. • Why betrayal trauma is never your fault, yet healing is your responsibility. • How to identify signs of healing that you may be overlooking. • Why intentional self-care is one of the most powerful forms of recovery. • How to move from simply surviving betrayal to actively participating in your healing. One of our favorite reminders from this episode is: "You are not broken. You are wounded. And there is wound care that must take place." You didn't cause the betrayal. You don't deserve what happened to you. But you do deserve thoughtful, intentional healing. Healing isn't about doing everything perfectly. It's about learning to listen to yourself, honor your nervous system, celebrate the smallest signs of progress, and take one meaningful step at a time. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast. 🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: [email protected] 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: [email protected] ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: [email protected]) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com Follow CORE Relationship Recovery (James & Sharon) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CORERelationshipRecovery
July 23, 202638min
Number 4: SURVIVING LIMERENCE
When the unfaithful partner is in limerence, it can feel like emotional chaos - confusing, and deeply painful - for the betrayed partner. In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae break down what limerence really is, why it feels so powerful, and most importantly—how you can survive it without losing yourself. If your partner seems "in love" with someone else… If you feel compared, replaced, or not enough… If you're stuck trying to understand what they see in the affair partner… This episode is for you. You'll learn: • What limerence actually is (and why it's NOT real love) • Why the unfaithful partner's brain becomes "hijacked" • How limerence functions like an addiction • The critical boundary every betrayed partner must understand • Why comparing yourself to the affair partner retraumatizes you • What real recovery requires from the unfaithful partner – and how to spot if they're doing it • How to reclaim your self-worth and identity after limerent betrayal This conversation also addresses: • Emotional affairs vs. fantasy-based limerence • Why cutting off the "limerent object" is essential for healing • The difference between a "soulmate" and a "wound mate" • How betrayed partners can stop the cycle of self-abandonment that can result from their unfaithful partner's limerence Most importantly, this episode offers hope: Limerence can end. Healing is possible. And you can come back to yourself stronger, clearer, and more grounded than before. Related Episodes: • ATU E48 – When the Unfaithful Is "In Love" With the Affair Partner • ATU E58 – Limerence: Can the Damage Ever Be Repaired? If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast. 🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: [email protected] 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: [email protected] ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: [email protected]) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com
April 15, 202629min
Number 5: EMPATHY IN ACTION - WHEN THE UNFAITHFUL IS TRYING, BUT THERE'S SOMETHING MISSING
What do you do when your partner is trying after infidelity… but they haven't yet moved from their head to their heart? In this episode of Ask The Betrayed, Sharon and Rae respond to a powerful listener question about a common but confusing stage of recovery: when the unfaithful partner says the right things, shows up, and is committed to healing—but still feels emotionally disconnected or "robotic." If you've ever thought: • "They're doing everything right… so why doesn't it feel better?" • "Is this normal in recovery?" • "Am I expecting too much—or not enough?" You're not alone. We break down: • Why empathy is not a thought—it's an action • The difference between intellectual responses vs emotional connection • Why this is a predictable, and nearly universal, stage in recovery • How to offer grace for growth without lowering your standards • Where the line is between supporting vs over-functioning • How to invite deeper empathy without becoming your partner's therapist • Practical phrases to help your partner move from words → felt connection We also explore: • Why healing often happens in the messy middle (not black and white) • How unfaithful partners develop emotional literacy over time • Why this stage can feel confusing—but is often a sign of progress This episode is for betrayed partners who are: ✔ Trying to understand emotional disconnection in recovery ✔ Struggling with "they're trying… but it's not landing" ✔ Learning how to hold boundaries while staying open to healing Key Takeaway: Empathy isn't something your partner understands. It's something they do—and learn to feel over time. If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps others find support and hope after betrayal. 💬 Please comment - We'd love to hear what you took away from this podcast. 🔔 Please Subscribe (and Like) for More Join Sharon and Rae every two weeks for grounded, empathetic conversations about healing after betrayal, rebuilding your identity, strengthening your voice, and reclaiming your life. Please share this video with someone who needs encouragement in their healing journey. 📬 If you have questions you'd like us to answer in an episode, or would like to inquire about coaching with Rae or therapy help, including intensives, with Sharon and James, please reach out to us at: [email protected] 🎧 You can also find us on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere podcasts are found. 🔗 Need help healing? Find James & Sharon at the CORE Relationship Recovery website: www.HopeForUs.com (Email: [email protected] ) or find Rae at www.HealingTalksBack.com (Email: [email protected]) Our Website: https://www.AskTheBetrayed.com
April 03, 202628min