Executive coach and bestselling author Amina AlTai joins Karena to unpack the hidden psychology behind burnout, overachievement, and what she calls the "ambition trap" — the exhausting space between feeling too much and never enough. After her own health crisis brought on by relentless overworking and undiagnosed autoimmune disease, Amina went back to study coaching, nutrition, and mindfulness, and built a practice helping high-achieving women reconnect with purposeful ambition. In this episode, they explore the five core childhood wounds that quietly shape our careers, how invisible labor fuels resentment, and the concrete steps to set boundaries, stop tolerating what's costing you, and find work that's truly yours.

Recognizing the core wounds quietly driving your hustle is the first step toward breaking free from the ambition trap and reclaiming a life that's actually yours.

(00:16) The Burnout That Nearly Broke Her

• Amina's origin story: marketing career, immigrant family pressure, and the relentless pursuit of achievement

• How two autoimmune diseases became the catalyst for an entirely different life

• Why burnout isn't just exhaustion; it's what happens when achievement becomes identity

(03:01) The Five Core Wounds Driving Your Ambition

• Amina's framework: abandonment, rejection, humiliation, betrayal, and injustice, and the masks we wear for each

• Why the control mask often leads directly to burnout

• Awareness is the first and most powerful step to breaking the pattern

(10:44) How Core Wounds Show Up at Work

• The withdrawal mask: avoiding opportunity out of fear of rejection

• Masochism and martyrdom as the blueprint for burning out

• Perfectionism (the rigidity mask) and why waiting for 110% keeps you stuck

• The real cost of micromanagement and what it signals about the betrayal wound

(16:07) Boundaries, Burnout & Invisible Labor

• The SBIS model (Situation, Behavior, Impact, Solution) for navigating hard workplace conversations

• Invisible labor = the unpaid, unseen work women carry at home and at the office

• How tolerations silently drain your energy and how to start raising the standard

(31:13) Reinvention, Purpose & the Passion Myth

• Why the idea of one singular career no longer fits how long or how fully we live

• The crucial difference between passion and purpose 

• Amina's five elements of purposeful work 

• Joy sparkers vs. fire starters: a practical tool for building more of what lights you up into daily life

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