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What if the church hurt you terribly? Can you still heal? Today Ryan George joins us to talk about how his fundamentalist family covers up his father’s sexual abuse of others—and how Ryan eventually learned the truth and turned his father in. And then Ryan deconstructed so much of what he had been taught—and found the real Jesus. Join us as Ryan George talks about his book Hurt and Healed by the Church.

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What happens when your family gets sucked into fundamentalism, and your father insists on controlling your life, including who you will marry? You grow up under Christian patriarchy, and you experience serious emotional abuse. Today Cait West joins us to talk about her absolutely beautiful memoir Rift, about how and why she had to break free. Then Keith and I talk about why people are deconstructing, and why it’s so desperately important to listen to stories like Cait’s.

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• Find Cait on Twitter and Threads 

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Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

• Our post on 8 things to know about deconstruction
• Our book The Great Sex Rescue 
• The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to help people understand why certain teachings hurt people

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People who deconstruct are often accused of never believing in the first place, or of just wanting to sin. But those who deconstruct are often those who have been hurt the most by toxic teachings. Today Sarah McCammon joins us to talk about who are “ex-vangelicals”, and her own story of deconstruction. And then Keith and I talk about what it means to create a safe and just community that honors people’s fears, betrayals, and concerns.

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• Find Sarah's book The Exvangelicals on Amazon
• Follow Sarah on Substack

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Things Mentioned in this Podcast:

• Our book She Deserves Better
• The Great Sex Rescue Toolkit to help people understand why certain teachings hurt people
• Marg Mowczko's site analyzing the biblical passages pertaining to women
• The saga of Robert Morris’ abuse, from Dee at Wartburg Watch who broke the story 
• Larry Linn’s Twitter thread about righteousness 

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Why is a frequenty-used book in teen girls' Bible studies focusing on Satan and not Jesus?

A deep dive into the book Lies Young Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and Dannah Gresh. Let's see what is being taught to teen girls--and why it's so problematic. We can do better, church!

Get our Downloadable One Sheet of the problems with the book Lies Young Women Believe:

Thanks to our sponsor, the book The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman 

And listen to our interview with Sam about the book! 

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Things Mentioned in this Podcast:

• Our podcasts about the book Lies Women Believe: Part 1 and its treatment of abuse and Part 2 and its portrayal of God
• Our downloadable onesheet about Lies Women Believe
• Our book She Deserves Better 
• Our podcast going over the problems with how Dannah Gresh teaches about modesty
• Why do women support modesty messages? 
• Dannah Gresh's submission quiz

About Johnna Harris

• Follow her on Instagram and X, and find her podcast Bodies Behind the Bus

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 Every Father’s Day, there’s a rallying cry in many conservative evangelical spaces that men are losing out and fathers are under attack. Where’s the truth in this? And what are the problems with talking about marriage like this? Plus we rewrite Harrison Butker’s commencement speech!

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Things Mentioned in this Podcast:

• Focus on the Family Broadcast, Finding the Hero in Your Husband (Part 1) 
• Harrison Butker Speech  and Transcript 
• Our Bare Marriage podcast on the idea that women talk too much (put forward by Focus on the Family under James Dobson)
• My post from last Father’s Day about framing your husband as the hero

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What if purity culture didn’t just steal sexual health from women, but stole it from men too? What does it mean for a man to have healthy sexuality? Today licensed counselor Sam Jolman joins us for The Sex Talk You Never Got.

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Pastor Joey Willis, Lead Pastor at New River Fellowship in Hudson Oaks, Texas.

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Evangelical conservatives too often portray masculinity as if men are supposed to be the “Alpha male”—aloof, emotionless, vying for control, and bullying. Today we look at how, even in nature, this concept of the Alpha Male has been overblown. And we present a better picture.

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Things mentioned in the podcast:

• Let Men Be Men podcasts, and Let Men Be Dads
• Josh Howerton about Evangelical Honeymoons
• The Desiring God article where Greg Morse bemoans all the safe men
• The TED Talk from Frans de Waal about Alpha Males
• Rick Pidcock analyses the Stronger Men’s Conference with Mark Driscoll’s “Jezebel” outburst 
• This week’s article on turning the other cheek 

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Pastor Joey Willis, Lead Pastor at New River Fellowship in Hudson Oaks, Texas.

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Church is messy. Friendships are hard to find. Life in a fishbowl is awkward. But what if…it’s worth it? Such a great convo with Stephanie, Jessica, and Jenna about their new book Pastors’ Wives Tell All!

Whether you're a pastors' wife, or a female pastor yourself, living life in a fishbowl can be hard. We talk about parenting, marriage, and finding friends when you're in church ministry.

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With the release of so many books critiquing purity culture, what has the backlash been like? Well, let’s talk about it with Zachary Wagner, the author of Non-Toxic Masculinity as we celebrate the one-year anniversary of the launch of She Deserves Better.

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Things Mentioned in the Podcast: 

• Our book She Deserves Better!
• Zachary's response to the review from Shane Morris on The Gospel Coalition
• Bob and Dannah Gresh's appearance at Cedarville University
• Information about Dannah calling 8-year-old's bellies intoxicating
• Fred Stoeker's appearance on Focus on the Family
• Matthew West's podcast discussing Modest is Hottest

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We've got such a compelling interview with Lauren Rose from Called to Peace Ministries. She's telling her story--and it's a mesmerizing one--of what happened as her family got more and more into the Bill Gothard movement (and she was eventually one of the ones he allegedly abused, and was part of the lawsuit).

But when you grow up feeling like your main role is to submit, are you even able to recognize abuse?

Lauren tells her story of being in an abusive marriage, and how she eventually realized something was wrong and came out of it.

(Also: at the beginning I quoted a Bible passage and said Matthew 18. I meant Matthew 15. Sorry!)

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About Lauren Rose and Called to Peace:

• Called to Peace Ministries
• Find Called to Peace on Facebook, including my interview on how Sexual Coercion is Domestic Abuse

Things Mentioned in the Podcast: 

• Our podcast with another Gothard Survivor, Emily Elizabeth
• Our interview with Alyssa Wakefield, who grew up in a Gothard home and was groomed for abuse (Part 1, and Part 2).
• Our podcast episode 229 with Jay Stringer about Josh Howerton's wedding night advice
• My Twitter thread about Josh Howerton's "apology"
• The original thread that went viral, as well as a viral follow-up dealing with Josh's comments

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• The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
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And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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