Becoming UnDone® with Dr. Toby Brooks

Toby Brooks reflects on the concept of enablers, disablers, and unablers in our journey to success. He shares his thoughts on how some people are in our corner, cheering us on no matter what, while others secretly or openly want to see us fail. Toby emphasizes the importance of not assuming that everyone is either for us or against us, as there are also people who are neutral and indifferent. He shares a personal story from his childhood to illustrate this point. Toby concludes by encouraging listeners to give people grace and not pass judgment based on their level of support.

Key Takeaways:

1. Enablers are the people who support us and help us make our dreams happen.
2. Disablers are those who want to see us fail or contribute to our failure.
3. Unablers are neutral and indifferent, not actively supporting or sabotaging us.

Quotes:

• "Just because someone isn't my friend doesn't mean they are my enemy."
• "Some people aren't even living in a common environment. We don't register in their world."
• "I'm going to find a way to win whether you want me to or not."

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Summary:

Ron McKeefery shares his inspiring journey from growing up in a broken family to becoming a successful strength coach. He recounts how a chance encounter with a football coach as a child changed his life and set him on a path towards his dreams. Ron discusses the importance of overcoming setbacks and embracing failure as a means for growth. He also emphasizes the value of building strong relationships with athletes and the impact that coaches can have on their lives beyond the sports field.

About The Guest:

Ron McKeefery is a highly respected and sought-after strength coach in the world of athletics. He has worked as a head strength and conditioning coach at the University of Washington, as well as with professional football teams such as the Tampa Bay Buccaneers and Cincinnati Bengals. Ron has been recognized as a two-time collegiate Coach of the Year and is also a best-selling author and motivational speaker.

Key Takeaways:

• A chance encounter with a football coach as a child changed Ron McKeefery's life and set him on a path towards his dreams.
• Overcoming setbacks and embracing failure is a crucial part of the success journey.
• Building strong relationships with athletes and having a positive impact on their lives beyond sports is a key responsibility of coaches.

Quotes:

• "That one split second decision literally changed my life." - Ron McKeefery
• "You never know who's watching. You don't know who's going to lead to your next job or your next opportunity." - Ron McKeefery

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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About The Guest
Tim Kight is the founder and CEO of Focus 3, a company that teaches individuals and organizations how to develop a winning mindset and achieve their goals. He is a former track athlete and has worked with elite high performers in various fields, including sports and business. Tim is known for his expertise in observing and documenting the behavior patterns of high achievers.
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Summary
Tim emphasizes the importance of developing a winning mindset and competing against the things that hold us back. He shares his personal journey of battling stage four cancer and how he approaches it as a competition for his life. Tim discusses the five decisions that high achievers make to overcome challenges and achieve breakthroughs. He also highlights the significance of taking ownership of our 20 square feet, the sphere of control where we can make decisions and choose our responses.
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Key Takeaways

• Develop a winning mindset and compete against the things that hold you back.
• Embrace productive discomfort and use mistakes as feedback for growth.
• Defeat fear and be coachable to continuously improve.
• Take ownership of your 20 square feet, the sphere of control where you can make decisions and choose your responses.
• Focus on your response (R) to events (E) to create the desired outcomes (O).

Quotes:

• "Your job is to be the best version of you and to develop a winning mindset to live the life you want." - Tim Kight
• -"The number one person you compete against is the person you look at in the mirror." - Tim Kight
• "If it doesn't challenge you, it ain't going to change you." - Tim Kight
• "Don't let the frustration on the outside diminish the fire on the inside." - Tim Kight
• "You are responsible for your second impulse, not your first." - Tim Kight

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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Toby Brooks shares his journey of discovering his purpose and aligning it with his podcast, "Becoming Undone." He reflects on the impact of Viktor Frankl's book, "Man's Search for Meaning," and how it led him to redefine his mission, vision, and core values. Toby introduces his new program, GEAR UP, which aims to help aspiring high achievers define and achieve their goals through encouragement, accountability, and connection with like-minded individuals.

Key Takeaways:

1. Toby Brooks revised his mission, vision, and core values after reading Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning."
2. His purpose in life is to help others discover and pursue their own purpose.
3. Toby plans to launch GEAR UP, a monthly cohort program that provides encouragement, accountability, and connection for individuals striving to achieve their goals.

Quotes:

• "The meaning of your life is to help others find meaning in theirs." - Viktor Frankl
• "By connecting with you and your big goals, you're actually gassing me up to get after mine." - Toby Brooks

Link:
http://www.undonepodcast.com/gear

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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In episode 43, we got to meet the fantastic Chris Carr, a seasoned NBA veteran who overcame humble beginnings in small town Missouri all the way to the NBA stage and beyond. In part 1, we got to hear Chris’s story of stolen skateboards, carried shoes, and incredible growth spurts on his way to a D1 scholarship at Southern Illinois University Carbondale, where he helped the team to three straight NCAA appearances before declaring for the NBA draft. W heard Chris tell his tale of draft night, of making the crowded roster with the Phoenix Suns his rookie year, and going to the finals against an 18-year old Kobe Bryant in year two, In this episode, we get gritty and discuss the end of Chris’s playing career and the start of Chris 2.0 and now 3.0, a life as a basketball business owner and eventually a coach with dreams still ahead.

I’m glad you came back to give the second half of Chris’s story a listen. Stay tuned for 

EP44: ELEVATE PART 2 with Chris Carr, NBA Veteran and SIU Saluki Basketball Legend, Assistant Men's Basketball Coach, Drury University

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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Growing up in a rural southeast Missouri town as the only African American family in the community, Chris Carr’s earliest dreams formed thanks to the example of Blair Underwood and the TV show LA Law, where he expected to become a lawyer and live the good life after college. However, the appeal of the game of basketball loomed large, with several family members before him paving the way to scholarships and championships. By middle school, Chris had decided to become a pro skateboarder, however, after his prized and hard-earned Santa Cruz skateboard was confiscated by a well-meaning basketball coach, he basically had no choice but to go all-in on hoops. After a stellar high school career, he ended up at SIU Carbondale where he led the Salukis to three straight NCAA tournament appearances before being drafted in the second round with the 56th pick by the Phoenix Suns in the 1995 NBA Draft. Today a coach at Drury University, Chris is proof positive that hard work and dedication can pave the way to a lifetime of achievement. Join me in a first for the show: a two-part episode where Chris talks about his humble roots all the way to the NBA’s brightest stage in, fittingly, episode 43: ELEVATE

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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In this episode of Word to the 3rd on Becoming UnDone, I reflect on the challenges I've faced this summer and share a personal story about my son's journey in baseball. Taye is a talented baseball player who had to make a tough decision about his future in the sport. Despite facing setbacks and injuries, Taye has shown resilience, determination, and a team-first attitude. I also discuss own experiences as a youth sports coach and the lessons I've learned about the importance of character over flashy appearances.

Be sure to check out the show notes at www.undonepodcast.com/ep42 

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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For Dr. Quincy Conley, days spent today helping faculty improve their teaching at AT Still University have become highly rewarding and fulfilling, but they weren’t exactly always what he’d expected or planned to do with his life. Self-described as a mediocre high school student who found most of his earliest successes in sports, it wasn’t until a mentor emerged later in high school that ideas of becoming an electrical engineer took root. He found himself in snowy North Dakota nearing the end of a degree with plans to be on the beach on the sunny island of St. Thomas—that is, until the terrorist attacks of 911 closed that door. A gifted teacher, Dr. Conley is also a skilled interviewer, as you’ll hear he turned the tables on me and got me monologuing about my past as only a talented researcher can. But above all, Quincy’s story is one of never being satisfied with what you know today and to relentlessly pursue your better, no matter what direction that pursuit might take you. I hope you’ll enjoy episode 41: LEARN with my friend Dr. Quincy Conley.  

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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Roger Lipe, a longtime sports chaplain and author, shares his journey from a (his words!) mediocre high school wrestler to a successful sports chaplain and character coach. He discusses the importance of building trust and connection within teams, and how he helps athletes discover their purpose and passion. Lipe also talks about his new book, which focuses on developing the faith of elite sportspeople. Overall, his message is one of encouragement and inspiration, urging athletes and coaches to take risks and pursue their dreams.

Long serving Southern Illinois University Carbondale and around the globe, his most recent move is as a Character Coach for Nations of Coaches where he helps teams connect and build trust while they compete. Now a 15-time published author, his work has been translated into countless languages and has been used around the globe. I hope you’ll enjoy episode 40: CHAMPION with my dear friend Roger Lipe.  

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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It is Word to the 3rd: my reflections on purpose, life, and growth. I’m Toby Brooks, and I am a speaker, author, professor, and forever student. Each week on Becoming UnDone, I bring you guests who have dared bravely, risked mightily, and grown relentlessly—high achievers who have transformed from falling apart to falling into place. But every third episode, it’s my turn to reflect, refine, and reprocess—on Word to the 3rd.

Great to be back in the studio for another episode of Becoming UnDone! Continuing our reboot of my first foray into podcasting, a fairly short-lived show called “Better Every Week” co-hosted with my daughter Brynnan Brooks, I thought it would be great to dust this episode off, recut it a bit, and reproduce it here for my show. Now--as I was listening to our conversation, I was struck by the notion that it is pretty cool that we discussed the importance of being brave, of viewing failure through the lenses of growth, and the show was a little rough around the edges. Our microphones were pretty sketchy. The refrigerator kicked on mid-conversation. I mumbled into the mic too often. But we did it anyway. The best way to get better at something is to withstand sucking at it for a while. And we did.

But after just four episodes, our good intentions were overtaken by pressures, packed calendars, and in some cases good old-fashioned excuses. But as disappointing as that may seem on the surface, there were victories. I learned how to host and post a show. I discovered some ways NOT to record and how NOT to edit. And while I’m still and forever will remain a work in progress, I got better. I persevered. And now we are closing in on our 50th episode.

The conversation was a good one, too. In this installment, then-University of Oklahoma freshman and now Junior Texas Tech University vocal performance major (and my daughter) Brynnan Brooks leads the way to talk about all the ways that competitive athletes and professional artists are different. And even more so how they are a lot alike. It’s a fun topic that I hope you’ll find informative and thought provoking.  I hope you’ll enjoy episode 39: COMPETE 

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Becoming UnDone® is a NiTROHype Creative production. Written and produced by me, Toby Brooks. If you or someone you know has a story of resilience and victory to share for Becoming Undone, contact me at undonepodcast.com. Follow the show on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn at becomingundonepod and follow me at TobyBrooksPhD. Listen, subscribe, and leave us a review Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 

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