(00:00:00) Introduction

(00:02:53) Radical Candor and the Holidays

(00:04:36) Generational and Cultural Differences

(00:07:11) Family Role Expectations and Childhood Patterns

(00:09:18) Taking the Bait: Avoiding Escalation

(00:20:20) Overreacting to Advice

(00:24:37) Why Gifts Sometimes Backfire

(00:28:42) Gifts Gone Wrong

(00:33:33) The Strain of Gift Giving

(00:35:59) Setting Boundaries with Family

(00:39:22) Gifting with Intent

(00:43:51) Radical Candor at Family Gatherings

(00:50:12) Appreciating Moments Together

(00:54:50) Radical Candor Tips

(01:00:01) Conclusion

Practicing Radical Candor with your family members this holiday season.

Holiday communication with your family can be rife with stress. And while you love your family, let’s be frank, family togetherness during the holidays often goes sideways. So much so that it’s become a trope that’s spawned dozens of holiday movies. But you can survive it by practicing Radical Candor with your nearest and dearest this holiday season to avoid defaulting to Obnoxious Aggression, Manipulative Insincerity or Ruinous Empathy.

Get all of the show notes at RadicalCandor.com/podcast.

Episode Links:

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• The Overton Window – Mackinac Center
• How to Use Radical Candor to Communicate Clearly With Your Family During the Holidays

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Chapters:

(00:00:00) Introduction
Kim, Jason, and Amy introduce the topic of navigating difficult family dynamics during the holidays.

(00:02:53) Radical Candor and the Holidays
The struggle with practicing Radical Candor with families during the holidays.

(00:04:36) Generational and Cultural Differences
How cultural and generational gaps complicate family communication.

(00:07:12) Family Role Expectations and Childhood Patterns
Reverting to childhood behaviors and role expectations during family visits.

(00:9:18) Taking the Bait: Avoiding Escalation
Strategies for turning down conversational "volume" and avoiding conflict bait.

(00:20:20) Overreacting to Advice
How understanding intent can improve family dynamics.

(00:24:37) Why Gifts Sometimes Backfire
The alternate perspectives on gifts dependant on the giver or receiver.

(00:27:42) Gifts Gone Wrong
Personal anecdotes of gift-giving mishaps and lessons learned.

(00:33:33) The Strain of Gift Giving
How gift giving can be especially hard in strained family dynamics.

(00:35:59) Setting Boundaries with Family
Asserting personal boundaries when saying yes takes its toll.

(00:39:22) Gifting with Intent
Releasing the obligation of the perfect gift for the giver and receiver.

(00:43:51) Radical Candor at Family Gatherings
Guidance on when to lean into Radical Candor and when to let things slide.

(00:50:12) Appreciating Moments Together
The finite nature of time with loved ones and making the most of family gatherings.

(00:54:51) Radical Candor Tips
Tips on setting boundaries, practicing care, and avoiding unnecessary conflict.

(01:00:01) Conclusion