In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman chats with urologist and women's sexual health advocate Dr. Kelly Casperson. They delve into the myths and fears surrounding hormone replacement therapy (HRT), particularly focusing on menopause and its implications. Dr. Casperson explains why many common concerns, such as the belief that HRT causes breast cancer, are unfounded. She also emphasizes the importance of individualized care, informed consent, and the numerous benefits of hormone therapy, including improved sexual function, mood, and overall quality of life. The conversation covers bioidentical hormones, testosterone for women, and the often overlooked role of progesterone. Jessa and Dr. Casperson aim to empower listeners with knowledge so they can make informed choices about their health and wellbeing.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:53 Meet Dr. Kelly Casperson: Advocate for Women's Sexual Health

01:09 Debunking Myths About Hormone Replacement Therapy

01:52 The Impact of Menopause on Sexual Health

02:54 Understanding the Role of Hormones in Women's Health

10:04 The Controversy of the WHI Study

17:38 Invitation to Share Your Story

18:08 Addressing Myths and Misconceptions About Hormone Therapy

21:32 Hormone Myths and Breast Cancer

22:24 Individualized Hormone Therapy Decisions

23:42 The Safety and Benefits of Estrogen

26:34 Testosterone for Women: Myths and Facts

35:41 Progesterone: The Overlooked Hormone

40:26 The Future of Menopause and Hormone Therapy

41:36 Conclusion and Resources

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Dr. Kelly Casperson is a board-certified urologic surgeon, renowned public speaker, sex educator, and host of the top-ranking podcast You Are Not Broken. Dedicated to empowering women, Dr. Kelly blends humor, candor, and science to demystify sexual health, intimacy, and midlife wellness. Through her podcast and online courses, she tackles myths about desire and normalizes conversations around healthy, fulfilling sex. Her work also provides essential education on hormones and midlife health. Connect with Dr. Kelly on Instagram (@kellycaspersonmd) or visit kellycaspersonmd.com.

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman delves into the topic of eroticism and the empowering act of writing one's own erotica. She discusses how writing personal erotic stories can help individuals explore their fantasies, reclaim power, and ignite their arousal. Jessa also introduces her new project, Women Writing Erotica, a community for women to share and discuss their writings in a safe and supportive environment.

00:00 Introduction

00:45 Exploring Eroticism Through Writing

01:42 Benefits of Writing Erotica

03:46 Jess' New Project: Women Writing Erotica

05:57 Conclusion

06:31 Credits

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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

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In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses faith transitions and the impact on intimate relationships with guests Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema, co-hosts of the Sex Evangelicals podcast and founders of an international coaching business. They delve into deconstructing purity culture, gender roles, and high-control religions, sharing personal stories and professional insights. They emphasize the importance of communication, managing stress, and supporting each other through deconstruction processes. The episode offers valuable strategies for individuals and couples coping with these complex dynamics.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:46 Introducing Guests: Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema

01:47 Jeremiah's Journey: From Faith to Sex Therapy

04:18 Julia's Story: Overcoming Purity Culture

06:46 Defining Purity Culture and High Control Religion

10:53 Deconstructing Harmful Beliefs

13:30 Reconstructing Values and Desires

17:15 Triggers for Deconstruction

19:35 Managing Differences in Relationships

23:05 Break and Resources from Jess

23:45 Navigating Different Paces in Deconstruction

25:02 Gender Dynamics in Deconstruction

27:55 Challenges in Mixed-Faith Relationships

29:22 The Role of Therapy in Relationship Dynamics

31:35 Purity Culture and Its Long-Term Impact

40:55 Resources and Support for Deconstruction

42:18 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Work with Jessa: https://www.intimacywithease.com

Bio:

Julia Postema and Jeremiah Gibson are the co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. They are both Boston-based licensed psychotherapists and certified sex therapists. They have a relationship coaching practice called Let's Heal Together which helps couples with negative religious backgrounds discover sexuality and communication that works for their partnership. They enjoy traveling to places that tend to fly under the radar, long-distance hiking, cooking very spicy food, unexpected conversations, and introverted days filled with reading and drinking fancy tea.

www.letshealtogether.org

Sexvangelicals podcast

www.sexvangelicals.substack.com

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The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman delves into the fun and crucial topic of eroticism. Building on her previous discussion of nine competencies necessary for a great sex life, Jessa focuses specifically on the ninth competency: exploring what truly turns you and your partner on. She defines eroticism as more than just physical acts but the subtleties and energies that arouse us. Jessa provides strategies to identify and discuss erotic preferences with your partner, encouraging a shame-free and understanding conversation. She emphasizes the importance of finding overlap in erotic preferences to enhance intimacy and enjoyment in intimate relationships. The episode includes valuable tips like sharing scenes from media and using a 'yes, no, maybe' list to navigate these discussions.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:47 Exploring Eroticism: The Ninth Competency

02:20 Understanding Your Erotic Template

05:21 Communicating with Your Partner

07:04 Finding the Overlap and Playing Together

09:50 Conclusion and Resources

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Podcast with Michael Bader:

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of Better Sex, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses body acceptance, freedom from body shame, and the broader implications on sexual intimacy and pleasure with guest sex therapist Nikita Fernandes. They explore the sources and impacts of body shame, the unique challenges faced by diverse communities, and practical steps towards body acceptance and empowerment.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:46 Jessa's Intro on Body Shame

01:52 Nikita's Background and Motivation

04:32 Populations and Approaches in Therapy

06:39 Low Sexual Self-Esteem and Intimacy Issues

10:47 Sources of Body Shame

26:37 The Role of Media and Queer Communities

27:16 Closing and Contact Information

28:41 Final Thank Yous and Outro

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Bio

Nikita Fernandes (she/her) is a psychotherapist and certified sex therapist in New York City. She is an active member of the kink scene and brings her lived experiences to her work. Nikita's clinical identity lies in supporting people seeking culturally sensitive, poly & kink-friendly, and gender-affirming therapists. She works with individuals and people in relationships. Nikita prioritizes fostering self-compassion in the face of systemic oppression, rather than just numbing pain. Rooted in evidence-based techniques, her methods acknowledge the impact of trauma and embrace diverse cultural perspectives. Nikita graduated from New York University with a Master in Mental Health Counseling and is also an AASECT certified sex therapist.

healingwithnikita.com

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the significance of sex in intimate relationships. Addressing the common concern from lower desire partners who often feel misunderstood or inadequate, Jessa delves into why sex is more than just a physical act—it is a profound emotional connection. She explains how openness and vulnerability during sex create a unique bond between partners. By exploring these dynamics, Jessa offers insights and strategies for both lower and higher desire partners to improve their intimate relationships. The episode encourages open communication and understanding, highlighting the multidimensional nature of sexual intimacy.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:49 The Importance of Sex in Relationships

01:15 Understanding Lower Desire Partners

03:21 The Emotional Significance of Sex

04:07 Vulnerability and Connection in Sex

06:10 Communicating About Sexual Needs

07:30 Conclusion and Listener Engagement

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Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Ann Russo, an expert on sexual empowerment. They discuss the concept of sexual empowerment, its importance for individuals across different sexual orientations and gender identities, and the benefits and barriers to achieving it. Ann shares insights from her work and personal experiences, exploring how societal and cultural messages, particularly around religion and female sexuality, contribute to disempowerment. They also discuss how people can begin to unlearn harmful messages and reclaim their pleasure and sexual identity. Throughout the conversation, they touch on topics such as trauma, marginalized communities, and practical steps for achieving sexual empowerment.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:56 Interview with Ann Russo: Sexual Empowerment

02:18 Defining Sexual Empowerment

03:48 Barriers to Sexual Empowerment

08:34 Unlearning Cultural Messages

20:06 Challenges for Marginalized Communities

23:18 Addressing Trauma in Sexual Empowerment

25:45 Finding the Right Therapist

27:48 Conclusion and Contact Information

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Bio:

Ann Russo, LCSW, MA, Theology is a mental health advocate, therapist, and thought leader specializing in healing religious trauma, sexual empowerment, ethical non-monogamy, queer identity, and inclusivity in mental health. With over two decades of experience, she combines professional expertise and lived experience to inspire transformation and foster meaningful conversations about often-stigmatized topics. Ann is currently writing her first book under contract with PESI, which introduces the Religious Trauma Treatment Model (RTTM). She is also the founder and clinical director of AMR Therapy, a boutique mental health practice serving clients with a focus on culturally competent, accessible care for marginalized communities.

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman addresses the complex question of whether individuals are entitled to sex within their relationships. She explores both sides of the argument, emphasizing the importance of mutual satisfaction and highlighting the pitfalls of entitlement. Jessa underscores the significance of a fulfilling sex life for both partners and the need for self-reflection and teamwork. The episode also discusses common misconceptions and harmful attitudes towards sex and provides strategies for creating a balanced, enjoyable, and sustainable intimate relationship.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:51 The Entitlement Question

01:58 Healthy Sexual Relationships

04:42 Addressing Desire Discrepancies

04:57 Listener Comments and Misconceptions

07:32 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with couples and sex therapist Dr. Emily Jamea about her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion.' They discuss the concept of achieving a flow state during sex, which involves being so fully absorbed in the moment that time seems to disappear and there's a profound connection with one's partner. Emily shares insights from her research, including the importance of curiosity, adapting to life's challenges, and maintaining emotional intimacy. She also emphasizes that this state is accessible to everyone, regardless of age or physical condition, as long as both partners are equally committed. Additionally, the episode covers practices for individuals to explore their own sexuality and ways to integrate small, novel changes to enhance sexual experiences.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex

00:52 Meet Emily Jamea: Author and Sex Therapist

01:03 Exploring the Concept of Flow in Sex

01:54 The Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets

04:37 Research Findings on Flow and Sexual Satisfaction

06:38 Practical Tips for Achieving Flow State

09:16 The Role of Emotional Intimacy and Vulnerability

12:26 Flow State Beyond the Honeymoon Phase

22:52 Applying Flow State Principles to Self-Pleasure

26:00 Conclusion and Where to Find More

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Bio:

Dr. Emily Jamea is an award-winning sex and relationship therapist and USA Today best-selling author of Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion.

Emily speaks nationally and internationally to a diverse range of audiences including educators, health and mental health professionals, executive and corporate groups, and the general public. Her expertise has been featured in Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, and more. She offers online workshops as part of her mission to make her knowledge accessible to everyone. Dr. Jamea is an award-winning columnist for Healthy Women. She hosts the Love and Libido podcast and writes for Psychology Today. She posts across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. 

In her free time, Emily enjoys spending time with her husband and children, traveling as much as possible, and salsa dancing and painting when she gets the chance.

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass

In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the challenges faced by the lower desire partner in a relationship. She addresses the common issue of desire discrepancy and emphasizes the importance of empathy and understanding. Jessa shares insights from her work with clients and highlights the guilt and feeling of brokenness that often accompany lower desire. By changing the conversation and creating a safe space, couples can co-create a better sexual relationship. Real-life feedback from her Intimacy With Ease program illustrates the positive impact of this approach.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

01:01 The Plight of the Lower Desire Partner

03:40 Understanding the Lower Desire Partner's Struggles

06:34 Changing the Conversation and Finding Solutions

07:26 Success Stories and Positive Feedback

10:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass