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Bonus Coaching Session: When Abusive Exes Team Up: Custody Threats, Coercive Control, and What to Do


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A mother of three is navigating ongoing post-separation abuse from two different ex-partners. After disagreeing with a proposed school and therapist change, her second ex escalated with threats of full custody, weaponizing her trauma history and mental health. Shortly after, her first ex announced a move near the second ex, and she discovered the two men have been communicating.

With limited financial resources, no attorney, and little outside support, she is trying to understand what is happening, how to protect herself and her children, and how to respond without making the situation worse.

This episode explores coordinated coercive tactics, fear-based legal threats, and how protective parents can ground themselves, preserve stability, and respond strategically without escalating conflict.

Questions Answered in This Episode

  1. Have you ever seen two abusive ex-partners coordinate or team up, and why does this happen?

  2. How should a protective parent respond when custody threats and mental health accusations are used as leverage after saying no?

  3. What practical steps can you take to protect yourself and your children, especially when you cannot afford an attorney and want to avoid court?

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