Speaking out about abuse is never easy.

For survivors of coercive control and domestic violence, telling the truth can feel like reclaiming your voice and your dignity, but telling the truth often comes with a significant cost: retaliation.

In this episode I do a deep dive (and a bit of a rant) into the reasons why a narcissist feels the need to retaliate and the steps that they take to silence you and anyone who supports you.  They use threats, smear campaigns, and then move to revenge on a larger scale.

This doesn’t only impact the survivor…an abuser will also retaliate against those who support their victim in order to maintain control over the narrative.  The consequence of this is fewer who are willing to stand up and support those who need it the most.

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Family court can feel like a battlefield — especially when your ex-partner uses the system as another tool for control. But what if advocacy didn’t have to mean becoming hardened or adversarial?

In this episode of The Rising Beyond Podcast, Sybil is joined by Becky Sampson, founder of a subpoena support service and a survivor who turned her own three-and-a-half-year divorce battle into a mission to help others navigate family court with confidence, compassion, and strength.

Together, they discuss:

• Why knowledge is your greatest form of protection — from learning court terminology to understanding your rights.
• How documentation can make or break your case (and what judges actually look for).
• The role of subpoenas, when to use them, and why they can be a game-changer in uncovering hidden information.
• Balancing empathy and boundaries — learning to lead with heart without letting it be weaponized.
• What self-advocacy looks like for survivors representing themselves in court.
• Why your worth and your parenting are not defined by the outcome of a case.

Whether you’re preparing for your first hearing, fighting post-decree motions, or simply trying to stay steady through the process, this episode offers both practical tools and deep validation.

Connect with Becky:

• Website: https://beckysampson.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcingstrongbeckysampson
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/beckysampson/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beckysampson11/

📚 Resources Mentioned:

• Becky’s free 100 Divorce Terms You Need to Know download — available at beckysampson.com
• The Rising Beyond Podcast episodes on documentation, parenting plans, and preparing for court.

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Do the double standards that show up in a narcissistic relationship and “co-parenting” relationship drive you crazy?

Double standards are a hallmark of narcissistic abuse and are pervasive even (maybe especially) after you have left the relationship.

In this episode we explore why someone with narcissism requires these double standards to work in their world and how the larger system allows and supports them to continue.  We also discuss ways in which you can lessen their emotional impact, decide if and when to engage and point the double standards out, and how best to do this to present as a good “co-parent.”

While the double standards will always be a part of any relationship your ex partner has, you can make shifts to not allow it to take so much of your emotional energy.

Be sure to listen to Episode 83: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Modifying the Parenting Plan - https://www.buzzsprout.com/1991648/episodes/14356912-ep-83-co-parenting-with-a-narcissist-strategies-for-modifying-the-parenting-plan

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In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a mom’s heartfelt question that so many survivors share:

“How do I support my children’s relationship with their dad—because the court says I have to—while knowing he is emotionally and psychologically abusing them every week?”

This episode dives deep into one of the hardest balancing acts for protective parents: offering emotional honesty and safety without crossing into parental alienation.

You’ll hear strategies and validation around:

• How to build felt safety for your children when the other home is unsafe.
• Why it’s vital not to gaslight your kids—and what to say instead.
• How to reflect what you see (“Your body looks like it needs to move after visits”) instead of judging or rescuing.
• Using simple rituals and routines to help kids regulate after contact with the abusive parent.
• How to teach emotional intelligence and discernment so your kids can identify safe people and unsafe behaviors.
• Ways to contrast your safe home environment with the other parent’s behavior—without speaking negatively about them.
• The truth that children need one consistent, unconditional, loving caregiver to build resilience—and that person can be you.
  
  

This episode is a compassionate guide for every survivor-parent navigating the impossible tension between protecting your children and being forced to “support” a relationship that hurts them.

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How do you communicate with someone who continues to abuse you post separation?

I cannot stress how important it is to learn how to communicate with your “high conflict” co-parent in ways that will protect you and your mental health in order to better protect your children.

In this episode I talk with Jill Kaufman about how she supports those going through a “high conflict” divorce and post separation abuse find peace in their lives while also having to communicate with their coparent about their children.  We discuss the pitfalls that many survivors fall into, how to pick your battles, and how to stop taking everything said personally to protect your peace.

Jill Kaufman is a Therapist, Divorce Coach, Mediator & Co-parenting Expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, she made it her life’s mission to help others not have it so tough. Her book, online course and transformative group coaching program help parents navigate the overwhelming process of divorce both emotionally and strategically with less stress, more confidence and a greater sense of peace. 

Connect with Jill:

• Website: www.divorcecoachjill.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoachjill/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jill.kaufman.353, https://www.facebook.com/groups/separationanddivorcesupportcommunity

If you are struggling with communicating with your ex, Rising Beyond Power and Control offers many resources including our Canned Responses that can help when you just can’t find the words.

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Family court can feel like it’s designed to wear you down. The long waits, the unpredictability, the endless back-and-forth with your ex — it can seem impossible to get through without breaking.

But what if you didn’t have to let court define you?

In this episode, Sybil shares how survivors can walk through family court with steadiness and strength. Instead of waiting for one big “final win,” you’ll learn how to find momentum in small victories, focus your energy where it counts, and adopt key mindset shifts that protect your well-being along the way.

You’ll hear about:

• Small wins that matter — how to recognize progress in the middle of a long battle.
• Control vs. no control — a practical way to separate what deserves your energy from what doesn’t.
• Mindset shifts that sustain you, including:
  • Court is a chapter, not your whole story.
  • Your strength is not defined by the outcome.
  • Preparation is power.
  • The courtroom doesn’t define your parenting.
  • Endurance over perfection.
  • Anchoring in values when the process feels chaotic.

Court is difficult — but with these strategies, it doesn’t have to break you.

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In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a listener who’s six years post–custody loss and doing her best to stay connected with her teen daughter—while being accused of crossing boundaries and “embarrassing” her.

This mom wonders: “Am I doing okay? Or am I being walked over by my child and my ex?”

It’s a question many protective parents ask themselves when trying to balance compassion, boundaries, and the constant pressure to appear “perfect” under the court’s microscope.

In this episode, I explore:

• What it means to show unconditional love without losing your footing.
• How to reframe communication to focus on love, connection, and curiosity instead of control.
• The difference between compassionate boundaries and compliance.
• How to handle teens who use “therapy language” to push back or deflect.
• Why you can (and should) stop caring what outsiders think.
• Hope for parents who’ve lost time with their kids—how consistent, grounded love can bring them back in the long run.

This episode is for every parent who’s been told they’re “too soft,” when in reality, they’re showing incredible restraint and resilience in the face of impossible systems and emotionally complex parenting.

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Walking into family court is intimidating enough — and then your ex smirks, rolls their eyes, or drops a lie designed to rattle you. On top of that, opposing counsel may throw you questions that feel like traps or come out of nowhere.

In this episode, Sybil breaks down how to keep your composure in court when your ex tries to provoke you, and how to handle curveball questions during cross-examination.

You’ll learn:

• Why abusers use provocation in court and how judges often notice your reaction more than the provocation itself.
• Simple emotional defense strategies — like the “poker face,” grounding tools, and focusing only on the judge.
• The most common types of curveball questions attorneys ask (from vague to rapid-fire) and how to respond without being trapped.
• Practical scripts for redirecting with calm and keeping the focus on your child’s needs.

These strategies don’t make court easy — but they can help you feel steady, credible, and prepared in a system that often feels stacked against you.

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Family court is often the last place survivors expect to or actually find safety, yet for so many, it’s where their battle continues. What if we could do something to change that?

I’m talking with Jill Montes and Dr. Ramona Probasco from the Healing While Living Free Foundation to talk about the systemic failures of family court, why survivors often lose their voice in the process, and what can actually be done to shift things, starting with training attorneys.

Together, we dive into:

• Why family court isn’t designed for abuse cases and how survivors end up at a disadvantage from the start.
• How abusers present in court vs. how survivors show up in trauma—and why courts often misinterpret both.
• The dangerous myths that persist, like “mutual abuse” or “false reporting,” and how they harm protective parents.
• Their new resource for attorneys and judges: practical do’s and don’ts to represent survivors safely and effectively.
• The role of “super traits” like empathy and loyalty that make survivors vulnerable to abuse—and how to reclaim them as strengths.
• Why training attorneys now matters for the future of family court.

We share with full honesty, lived experience, and hope for change. If you’re navigating family court or supporting someone who is, you’ll walk away with clarity, validation, and concrete ideas for next steps.

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In this week’s Friday Coaching Corner, I respond to a heartbreaking listener story that highlights just how overwhelming it can feel to keep fighting for your child when the family court system and even your own attorney seem to be standing in the way.

This listener’s ex-partner is refusing to comply with the court order requiring their child to participate in family therapy, therapy that could be covered by Medicaid, while continuing to manipulate both the child and the process. The result is devastating: a protective parent with only a weekly phone call and a mountain of grief, legal obstacles, and financial strain.

Questions Answered in this Episode:

• How to use the exact language in your court order to advocate for family therapy.
• The difference between family therapy and reunification therapy (and why it matters for insurance coverage).
• Practical steps for documenting refusals and setting up a motion to compel, rather than just contempt proceedings.
• Strategies for getting your unresponsive attorney to act, including how to organize your communications using the Rocks in a Jar method.
• Where to turn for ADA accommodation requests or grievances in Colorado.
• Speaking to the grief of being kept from your child—and why your early bond still matters.

This is a tough but important conversation. If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the whole burden of advocacy while the system lets you down, I hope you find both validation and practical direction here.

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Rocks in a Jar video - https://www.canva.com/design/DAGv_UPUPeA/aGbiC6yT5hNhbsoevU-cQQ/edit
Project Justice USA Survey - https://www.projectjusticeusa.com/

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