Brilliant Balance

Being able to articulate what you want so you can get it is a powerful skill.

It's also a foolproof way to take one step closer to achieving your dreams.

But after taking calls with some listeners of this podcast, I discovered most of them weren't getting what they wanted simply because they were afraid to speak up about what they wanted.

Here's the thing…

If you want to claim what you want in life, one big step you need to take is to declare it - to yourself, your friends, your family and your colleagues.

But this is hard for a lot of people. They struggle to articulate and claim what they want or stick to it.

But why?

Why do they choose to put their desires on the back burner?

If this is you, it doesn't have to stay that way.

In this episode, you'll discover the limiting beliefs keeping you from declaring your desire and attaining your dreams. You'll learn how to shut them down and destroy the fear you have and speak up.

Listen in…

Show Highlights Include:

• The three levels you need to scale past to attain and obtain what you want. (5:21)
• The 3 beliefs to dismantle so you can easily declare your desire and get what you want. (7:12)
• How to destroy your fear of being judged by others (and do what you want without having to apologize for existing). (8:08)
• The mechanism in your mind that protects you from embarrassment (but also robs you of potential success) (10:40)
• Why you think you will lose out if you talk about your dreams (and the true cost of not talking about them (13:07)
• How the dynamics of your relationships can make it difficult to declare what you want (and an environment you can do it without overthinking). (18:10)

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Taking time for yourself is a powerful practice that allows you to reflect and reset from the stress of everyday work, life and family.

But most women don't do it.

Why?

They think they're busy with everything going on in their lives, so they can't afford the time to decompress.

And that's normal.

But there will never be a perfect time to do it, so in order to have these experiences you have to acknowledge that you have to make time.

When you make time for yourself, you will return from your experience refreshed, stronger and more vibrant. The people important to you will see and reap the benefits of you taking time for yourself.

In this episode, you'll discover the power behind taking a break for yourself. You'll also learn how to relax, tap into renewed energy and decompress so you can enjoy the benefits of this experience.

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Show Highlights Include:

• The value of setting aside time for yourself (and how it helps you shift into reflection mode faster) (6:00)
• The magical calming effect of having someone else take care of you (instead of taking on everything yourself) (9:41)
• The debilitating effects of negative feelings when you don't take enough time to process them. (11:20)
• How you can reap the restorative benefits of your childlike energy. (12:52)
• Why you shouldn't feel guilty about taking time for yourself. (16:26)

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We all have those seasons - the ones that we experience as a surge. Fast. Full. Little time to rest.

They take up most of our time and energy. And we need more concentration and agility just to stay afloat and not go under.

This can be hard, but it can also be JOYFUL and EXCITING.

The goal is to get through these busy seasons with your mental, emotional, and physical health intact and your relationships still healthy.

Because busy seasons never stop coming.

So how can you maintain a healthy lifestyle through these busy seasons?

Today I'll share a behind the scenes peek into my recent busy season and what I'm doing to handle it. You'll learn how to keep your health and sanity intact during your own surges!

Listen in…

Show Highlights Include:

• The simple language shift that instantly puts me in a better headspace (use this once you're in a busy season) (0:45)
• A behind the scenes peek into my recent busy season and how I'm handling it. (3:26)
• Why the traditional narrative around busy seasons is harmful (and a better mindset to approach it with). (10:29)
• How you can keep your health and sanity in check during these busy seasons. (13:14)
• Why it's critical for you to get through a busy season with your health and relationships intact. (16:23)

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The mass shooting at Covenant School in Nashville, Tennessee brought the school shooting count to 89 for the year in the U.S alone.

Guns are now the leading cause of deaths in children and teens. As a parent who speaks to an audience of parents, this is horrifying. We simply must find ways to curtail these acts of gun violence before they happen.

Why?

So we're not just left cleaning up the aftermath, putting traumatized children through therapy and counting our dead.

That's why I invited Dawn Lyons to join me for this episode.

Dawn is a former colleague and also a Brilliant Balance alum. She's now the COO of Sandy Hook Promise, an organization dedicated to preventing gun violence in schools, homes, and communities.

In this episode, you'll learn how to spot patterns of behavior that can precede violence so you know how to proactively deal with it. If you've found yourself wanting to DO something when you watch these stories unfold, listen in.

Show Highlights Include:

• The tragedy that led to building Sandy Hook Promise (and how they're making sure you don't experience the heartbreak and pain they did). (5:00)
• Why the weakened general mental health in teens and kids since 2020 along with the rise in gun purchases in the U.S should not be taken lightly. (9:35)
• The critical behavioral warning signs of impending gun violence (this will help you recognize and stop imminent threats) (18:40)
• Why you should curb violent language in children as early and frequently as possible. (20:44)
• Specific actions you can take in your own home and community to dampen the spread of gun violence. (23:42)

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We're wired to hustle. We've been trained to hustle since childhood and most of us don't know any other way.

From babysitting, to working through college, to working through grad school. We don't know any other way to navigate life than by grinding it out.

But there are certain seasons in which we should slow down, because rushing at the same pace during that time would be detrimental to our physical, emotional and mental health.

How do you know when to switch out of hustle mode and slow down?

In this episode, I'll give you some ideas about when you might want to switch into your anti-hustle mode for a while. You'll learn why slowing down is important, even if it feels foreign at first.

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Show Highlights Include:

• How my maternity leave allowed me to soak up the experience of being a mother and bond with my babies. (and why you might consider taking one if you can). (3:23)
• Could a gap year be the right step for your child?. (8:09)
• The characteristics of a season to dial it back and switch into anti-hustle mode. (13:46)
• Why it's important to should slow down when you're between chapters (19:34)

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Conflict is something we often try to avoid.

But that's not something to be proud of. Want to know why?

If you'd rather be a people pleaser and ignore the things that bug you rather than face them head on - it can fester resentment and erode your relationships.

Or…

You can face the situation head on and have a courageous conversation. You can soften the conflict and move the relationship forward.

So how can you learn how to have these courageous conversations?

In this episode, I'll show you how to avoid unproductive, emotional conflicts. I'll give you the exact framework you can use to build conversations that lead to conflict resolution.

Listen in…

Show Highlights Include:

• The two ways you can approach conflicts (and why the second one will relieve you of emotional burden). (1:39)
• Why approaching conflicts with raging emotions resolves nothing (and an alternate way to handle conflicts that leads to resolution). (9:48)
• A framework you can follow to hold conversations that lead to healthy conflict resolution. (18:25)
• Why it is important to shift into 'listener' mode after airing your frustrations. (22:24)

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Finish lines have a powerful allure to them.

They inspire us to begin important journeys and give us strong motivation to go after our goals.

However, sometimes we misinterpret which parts of our lives need finish lines, so we approach everything the same way and wind up overloaded.

If this sounds like you, there's a way you can find a cadence you can sustain as you pursue your goals all while reserving essential energy.

How?

In this episode, I'll reveal how using finish lines the wrong way can drain you mentally and physically. You'll discover how to mentally reposition yourself so you can attack your goals and achieve them with the same vigor but at a sustained, healthy pace.

Listen in…

Show Highlights Include:

• Why finish lines have a powerful allure (and how they help drive us towards our goals) (4:46)
• The dark side of finish lines we need to be aware of. (8:03)
• How using finish lines can overload you and drain your mental and physical stamina completely. (9:09)
• Why planning finish lines around positive behaviors is unsustainable in the long run (and why some finish lines aren't really finish lines) (10:15)
• The mental reframe you can adopt to reserve energy to sustain those positive behaviors. (15:39)

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You might be a perfectionist if…

You're restless and discontent with anything that is incomplete, operating at over-capacity and running yourself ragged to get things just the way you like them.

Or you might start LOTS of projects and never finish them. Or you might work REALLY hard to get people to like you.

It turns out there's not just one kind of perfectionist, but nearly all the faces of perfectionism cause the person exhibiting them to be labeled negatively.

The truth is: perfectionism has gotten a bad rap.

But what if we can own our perfectionism and reframe it as an integral part of our personality. And what if we can even transform that perfectionism into a powerful force?

In this episode, I interview the brilliant Katherine Morgan Schafler, a seasoned therapist who has worked with ambitious perfectionistic women for years. She enlightens us about the different types of perfectionism, and how to own our perfectionism and harness it as the powerful force it is.

Listen in…

Show Highlights Include:

• Why perfectionists feel disappointed by imperfection (and how you can be a healthy perfectionist) (8:54)
• The biggest misconception about perfectionism (and what perfectionism really is). (14:26)
• The 5 perfectionist types (and the pros and cons of each). (22:31)
• Why this category of perfectionists should endeavor to manage their perfectionism (and what happens when they don't.) (27:37)
• How to accept your perfectionism and channel it to produce real power (and why not everyone can be one). (31:55)

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There's a voice in our head…and it isn't very nice.

Labeling us, attacking our insecurities, and constantly making us feel like we're just not good enough..

If we let it, this negative inner dialogue can really take us under, keeping us stuck and even making us question who we truly are.

But we can change that negative dialogue to a positive one. We can start our day motivated and move through it full of energy. We can be inspired to take action on your goals.

How?

In this episode, I explain how to give that inner voice a character and quality that supports you, motivates you, and drives you to take action.

Listen in…

Show Highlights Include:

• The two types of inner dialogue that can incapacitate you (and how to recognize them). (2:00)
• How to tune into your inner voice so you can successfully shift your inner dialogue (and build your truest, wisest and most embodied self). (6:14)
• 3 inner voices you can adopt to pull yourself in a positive direction) (instead of engaging in negative inner dialogue). (7:57)
• How developing a 'dog-voice' can improve your mood and keep you rooted in the present. (8:04)
• The kind of inner voice you can use to provide insights for yourself to take action. (10:39)
• How being a coach to yourself can give you encouragement and motivation exactly when you need it. (13:21)

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We are working all the time. And not always in the classical sense: going to an office, burning late hours etc.

Instead, we use most of our waking hours to do things that feel like work. Whether it's calls taken from the car, scheduling people to do other work, taking care of our parents, or organizing new projects.

There is always something to be done. And we never feel like we are ever completely finished.

That's why we don't know how to truly rest, how to savor the peace that comes with recharging and having a life outside work.

So how do we find time to rest? And how do we maximize that rest period without being unsettled about what we've left undone?

In this episode, I reveal how you can build tolerance for "the undone". You'll discover how to use your rest time to properly recover yourself without fretting over what is still waiting for you…

Listen in…

Show Highlights Include:

• What 'otium' is and how Ancient Romans used it to participate in stimulating activities (and how you can use it to move to a state of flourishing). (4:06)
• Why we spend hours mindlessly scrolling instead of truly resting. (9:43)
• Four ways you can build tolerance to manage the undone (so you can fully have time to yourself for noble leisure). (17:44)
• The critical first step to wrapping your head around how much undone activity you have to tackle. (12:35)
• Why you should use this 'time-limit' method to manage the undone and finish tasks. (15:41)
• How to give yourself mental freedom to tolerate tasks being undone. (20:16)

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