Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Can Love Survive the Shadows of the Past?


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Can love truly heal the wounds of the past? It’s a question many of us ask ourselves when past traumas creep into our relationships, casting long shadows over the love we’re trying to build. For Brian and Stacey, one of the amazing couples who come on the show to get support, this question isn’t just philosophical—it’s a daily reality. How do you rebuild trust when intimacy feels like a minefield? How do you show affection when touch triggers painful memories? And can love, no matter how strong, truly heal the wounds of the past?


In this Language of Love Session, we dive deeper into the emotional rollercoaster of Brian and Stacey’s relationship. Will they find a way to bridge the growing distance between them, or will past traumas continue to pull them apart? If you’ve been following their journey, you know this is a story filled with raw emotion, vulnerability, and the struggle to heal. If you’re new, buckle up—this is a journey you won’t want to miss. And if you would like to come on the show to get some support, make sure to email us at [email protected]


Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

  • How past sexual trauma can distort feelings of love and connection
  • Why physical affection can feel both comforting and threatening
  • The double bind of wanting closeness but fearing intimacy
  • How to create non-sexual physical touch that fosters connection
  • The importance of tuning into your partner’s emotional needs
  • Practical tools for building warmth and trust in a relationship
  • How to navigate the Drama Triangle without blaming each other
  • The power of pausing and shifting energy during conflicts
  • Why avoiding each other can feel safer—but isn’t the answer

  • Check out my free quiz and 7 Days to Better Sex to start improving intimacy today. Healing and connection are journeys best taken with the right tools. For trauma recovery, tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle can be incredibly helpful. 


    Got questions or stories to share? Email me at [email protected]—and don’t forget to share this episode, because love is a journey we take together.


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