Can you meditate with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic traits in your divorce? Although you might see it as a waste of time, there is actually some good that can come out of it even if you don’t settle.  Our experienced accredited mediator and also experienced family law specialist will guide you through how you can make your mediation for family law matters (like property or parenting) work for you. Learn some strategies and steps you can take if you are dealing with someone who has narcissistic traits. Don’t waste your precious chance to settle or find out more about your ex’s plans. Listen to this episode today and get your agenda and strategies sorted. 

Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

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 Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and Negotiation Tips when divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours

You Don’t Want to Miss Out On

• What might surprise you at a mediation with a narcissist

• Why you think you know what your ex is thinking is a mistake for mediation

• Why it's a bad idea to assume your ex thinks like you leading up to mediation.

• When you understand what they care about you can have success in mediation

• What is the shuttle process?

• Why the shuttle process helps in mediation with a narcissist

• How you can ask the mediator to help you with the narcissistic attacks during the mediation. 

• How to let your mediator know about their behaviour

• The three things a narcissist will care most about in their agreement with you.

• Does it matter if the mediator knows they are narcissists?

• How you can use the mediation to help tailor your affidavit for trial

• The cat and mouse game sometimes used in mediation by a narcissist

• How to avoid the game playing in mediation with a narcissist

• Which issue do you deal with first in mediation with a narcissist?

• Can you make suggestions to the mediator?

• How to agree on the agenda for the day

• How to make sure your narcissistic ex doesn’t run the agenda for the day.

• Why you should avoid using the word narcissist when going through family court unless they are officially diagnosed. 

• What should you do to show to the mediator or the judge that  your ex has narcissistic behaviours?

• How to “rebrand” your offer in negotiation so that your narcissistic ex will agree to it. 

• Do’s and Don’ts of mediation with a narcissist 

• Why you need to be mentally fit to get the most out of the mediation.

• What is the current mediation success rate?

• Is the family court full of narcissists? 

• Why taking proof and documentation to a mediation is a good idea.

• What the mediator will do to help you in a mediation with a narcissist

• Is a shuttle process a good idea with a narcissist?

• How to be aware of old patterns and how to stay out of them during negotiations with your ex.

If you need emergency help you can also contact:

• WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE 

• LEGAL AID

• Lifeline 13 11 14

• Mensline Australia 1300 789 978

• Kids Help Line 1800 551 800

• Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123

• Relationships Australia 

• Police on 000

• DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill

• DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636

• National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732

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Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.