You’ve cheated. You’ve done the deed. Whether that’s sleeping with, having oral sex with, or hiding an emotional affair with a person outside of your relationship, you’ve done it: you’ve created the time and space to have an affair. Now you lie incessantly to cover it up. Your conscience is telling you that you’ve got a decision to make. Do you come clean, or do you deny, deny, deny the affair at all costs?

On this episode I welcome Marie Murphy who is a relationship coach with a PhD in the sociology of sexuality. Dr. Murphy uses a unique, individualized and non -

judgmental approach to help her clients answer the question:

Should you tell your partner if you've cheated on them?

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This is a classic case of what would you do? What would you do if just two weeks before your wedding you found out your partner was cheating on you? Would you confide in a family member or tell a friend? Would you confront the cheating partner or exist in uncertainty? Would you immediately cancel the wedding, or take time to consider your options? Would you even walk down the aisle?

This nightmare of a predicament happened to my guest Greyson Ferguson. Greyson is a betrayed partner who went on to write very candidly about his experience. Find out what happens to this totally unsuspecting fiancé, when just days before his wedding he finds out his bride-to-be is having an affair.

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Is it possible to be a beautiful, accomplished woman in your 30s, and have never once cheated on a partner - not even a secret emotional flirtation? My guest Joanne Nosuchinsky, co-host of the show “Mornin’ with Bill and Joanne” is that woman. Joanne has managed to remain faithful in her relationships even at times when a partner has cheated on her.

Conversely, her very good friend and co-host Bill Schulz has slept with “many married women” (his words not mine). I plan on asking Bill how many is many, and why he thinks they all slept with him. Bill says the married women he’s been with “don’t expect very much.”

(Umm… what does that mean?)

Bill, Joanne and I also play a game that tests their knowledge of modern dating terms and tactics.

It’s a show filled with LMAO moments, and some pretty surprising revelations from both Bill and Joanne.

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You can’t stand the sight of your spouse. You feel nothing but contempt for your partner. You’re obsessed with idea that someone who actually deserves you is out there. In your mind, nothing could be worse than living out the rest of your life with the person laying next to you, eating meals with you, vacationing with you, and yes - once or twice a year - having sex with you!

So you - like the 75 million plus people on Ashley Madison and other married but dating sites - give yourself permission to have an affair. You’re imagining the incredible sex, affection, and understanding you’re going to get from your affair partner. But what happens when the fantasy falls short, your affair ends miserably, and your spouse finds out you’re cheating?

Moreover, what if your affair is brought on, in part, by mania or compulsive tendencies? We’re not talking clinical research or medical advice here, but my guest and I do take a completely unscientific yet imaginative look at the relationship between mania and affairs.

Inna Swinton, author of the witty, captivating, and Kirkus lauded novel

“The Many Loves of Mila,” joins me to talk about how her protagonist discovers the role mania plays in her infidelity, and if her character’s struggles actually occur in real life.

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We’ve all heard scandalous stories of Christian conservative leaders who commit adultery. They cheat on their spouses with all kinds of secret lovers and hide it from their congregations, communities, neighbors, and friends — then lie about it to the world.

We can’t understand how and why these self professed beacons of morality can espouse the virtues of honesty and truth, yet act so deceptively. On this episode we speak to one of these Christian conservatives. She’s not a headliner, but she’s known and respected in the Christian conservative community.

Why, why is she having an affair? How does she live with herself? Does she really believe she’s going to get away with it? You’re about to find out ….

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Would you go see a psychic to find out if your partner was cheating on you? I would, and I’d want the answer the minute I walked through the door.

My guest today, world renown psychic, psychotherapist, lecturer, and best selling author Vincent Genna says “No,” that’s not the right approach when seeking guidance from a psychic.

Vincent Genna’s eagerly anticipated new book called

“The Secret That’s Holding You Back” is an eye opening, hopeful and optimistic look at how healing yourself from past pain can affect so many outcomes in your life including your career and relationships- it can even affect if your partner will cheat on you!

It was a challenge for me to embrace the full scope of Vincent’s assertions about optimism and the laws of attraction, and you’ll hear that in our point counterpoint. However, I have to admit by the time we got to the end of our conversation, I couldn’t help but question myself: can I improve my attitude to help bring out the most positive outcomes in my life- relationships and otherwise?

My best friend Suzy is my co-host on this episode. She’s here to weigh in because we are both fascinated by psychic ability, and she was thrilled to join in my conversation with the inimitable Vincent Genna.

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My guest Novi Brown stars on the hit series Tyler Perry’s Sistas on BET and on BET Her. She’s also the creator and host of the podcast Conversations & Constellations with Novi Brown. Novi talks about how knowing your astrological chart and understanding astrology overall can possibly help:

- predict cheating and betrayal in your future

-identify what signs may be more likely to cheat or be faithful

-show how the planets affect your love relationships, and

-guide you to make better choices about your romantic life

While Novi openly says “ I’m a student of life, so please do your own research…” (in other words, use her words to guide you while understanding your own free will) I have to admit, Novi nailed it when she talked about my astrological characteristics and pattens. We had a great time together! Join us in our fun and insightful conversation.

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It’s everyone woman’s biggest nightmare. You find out your best friend is having an affair with your husband. In one fell swoop you loose your partner, and the person you believed was your ride or die bestie.

You can’t believe the betrayal. It seems completely inexplicable, or is it? You may never think this situation is justified, but maybe you can comprehend how it can happen although you won’t ever sanction it.

Laura (not her real name), my guest to today is a great mom who is killing it in business. She’s pretty and smart, someone you could easily imagine being your best friend. Laura was also that mistress: the woman who had an affair with her best friend’s husband.

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Can your own mother set you up to live life as a betrayed partner? Fran ( not her real name) my guest today says “yes”. Fran says that her childhood and adolescent years spent under her mother’s roof primed her to become a betrayed partner. Considering 3 out of 4 of Fran’s most recent lovers cheated, I thought her theory about why her mom was to blame was one worth investigating.

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