In today’s episode, we cover anger management with Dr. Isabelle Leboeuf and Chris Fraser. Dr. Leboeuf integrates hypnotherapy, cognitive behavioural therapy, and compassion-focused therapy in her private practice in the North of France. Chris has been helping children, individuals, and families to be the best versions of themselves for over 25 years, and co-authored the book Freedom: How Teens Can Use Mindful Compassion to Thrive in a Chaotic World and Grow a Purpose-driven Life.

 

Anger is an emotion we all experience throughout life, but how we respond to it makes all the difference in the world, so what even is anger, how should we look at it, and what are some healthy strategies for dealing with intense emotions like anger?

  

What to Listen For

Relationship between self-compassion and anger – 2:06

Is there a difference between the anger we feel toward others versus the anger we feel toward ourselves?

 

Healthy strategies to process and work through anger – 11:00

What exercises should you use to work through anger and what should you avoid doing when you’re angry?

What is the difference between compassion and self-compassion?

What three words can you tell yourself to alleviate strong feelings of anger or frustration you’re experiencing?

 

Is self-compassion just being easy on yourself?  – 20:25 

What are the three components of self-compassion? 

 

Defining and discovering core values – 29:00 

How can you use negative and positive emotions to help you figure out what your core values are?

 

Learning from compassion-focused therapy – 35:18 

What can you learn from compassion-focused therapy to equip you with the tools to better handle intense emotional states so you don’t do something in the moment that you’ll regret?

 

A full human life is arguably one in which you experience the entire spectrum of human emotions, positive and negative. Negative in this case can be interpreted as the opposite of what we think of as positive emotions, but it doesn’t mean a negative emotion is bad or should be avoided. As a society, we generally look down on or seek to avoid negative emotions such as anger and frustration, which can then lead us to not teach kids how to properly manage their anger. And a lack of anger management within an entire population will spell disaster for an entire generation that is not equipped to process and deal with their emotions in a healthy manner.

 

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Resources from this Episode

Freedom: How Teens Can Use Mindful Compassion to Thrive in a Chaotic World and Grow a Purpose-driven Life by Chris Fraser

Dr. Isabelle’s website

Compassionate Mind Collaborative website

 

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