Clarity on Fire

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.

This month we answered questions from:

• Ashley, who's wondering how long is too long to stay at a bridge job?
• Diana, who listened to last month's Side Chat and is curious—where's the line is between unreasonable and irresponsible when it comes to quitting your job?
• JoAnn, who really wants to reduce her hours at work but is afraid her supervisor won't be happy. How can she ask to do less even though she doesn't have a "good reason" for asking?

Leave a comment after you've listened to share how our advice for these listeners resonated with you!

Want to submit a question for our July episode of Dear Krachel? Fill out this form and you might hear us tackle your Q!

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You should definitely come check us out on Patreon!

• Join the $3/month tier (The Spark) for access to occasional bonus episodes and other special content. Think of this like our virtual "tip jar." If you're not interested in the community aspect, but appreciate our work and want to send a little love our way every month, plus get access to bonus content, this is for you!
• Join the $6/month tier (The Flame) for occasional bonus content and … access to monthly patron-only Zoom meetups (hosted by our Community Ambassador, Madison), quarterly Zoom hangouts with Krachel, and access to a private Discord server where conversations are going on every week.

For those of you who join "The Flame" tier, get excited because we're doing a book club later this month (date to be announced soon) on Outrageous Openness and E-Squared! Read one or both, do some experiments, and join the group as we talk about the results of inviting the Universe to take the lead.

Become a patron, here. And then introduce yourself in Discord, so you can start making friends with other COF people!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

How to work less, live more, and make great money with Katie Mongelli (July 2018) - https://clarityonfire.com/work-less-make-money-katie-mongelli/

Blog: Why everything can get easier when you get a bridge job (June 2019) - https://clarityonfire.com/bridge-job/

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Honing your intuition is one of the most important parts of getting clear on who you are, what you want, and where you're headed. Without it, you're like a GPS with bad reception–you're not going to get very clear guidance, and you may end up driving in circles.

But honing your intuition can take time and practice, so sometimes it's nice to piggyback off of another GPS you can trust, even if it's just long enough to check your directions.

So, in that spirit, here's another Message from the Universe episode for you! Tune in if you need a little clarity, guidance, or just a fun pick-me-up.

Today we pulled a few cards from The Enchanted Map deck by Colette Baron-Reid. One or all has a message for you — come find out what it is! ☺

And be sure to listen to the very end of this episode, because the Universe came through in a big (and hilarious) way.

Click here to see the cards, as well as read the description of each! And after you listen, come leave a comment to share how this one spoke to you.

LAST DAY OF 1:1 COACHING ENROLLMENT!

Today (Friday, May 28th) is the LAST day of coaching enrollment! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• This is for people interested in getting started ASAP (within the next 4 weeks).
• If you're not ready now then you can add your name to the wait list, and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability in the future.
• We'll probably be opening enrollment again in September/October.
• You don't have to be 100% certain that this is right for you — but serious enough to want to discuss it.

If you're seriously considering coaching, read this page and then click "sign me up" to talk to one of us about the possibility.

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One of our favorite lines in Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone is in the very first chapter, when Vernon Dursley is introduced:

"He hurried to his car and set off for home, hoping he was imagining things, which he had never hoped before, because he didn't approve of imagination."

Can you imagine how differently Harry's life would have gone if he'd decided to be more of a Dursley than a Potter? If he'd dedicated his life to being normal and rational and reasonable? We're imagining something like:

"Harry decided it wasn't particularly sensible to leave his life at Number 4 Privet Drive behind to attend a school where they study ridiculous subjects like flying and potions making. He lived in the cupboard under the stairs until he was old enough to start an internship at Grunnings, where he learned how to fill orders for drills. He wasn't happy, but he was practical, and that's what mattered! The end."

One of the biggest cons we've pulled on ourselves is believing that being reasonable is actually safe and productive. In this month's brand-new Side Chat, we're dispelling (dispelling … get it) you of that notion. We're talking about…

• Rachel's realization that being "reasonable" actually caused trauma that it took about 15 years to heal from.
• All the things we think we need to be practical and rational about, but that are actually just holding us down.
• The difference between being "unreasonable" and "irresponsible."

Leave a comment after you've listened to share what you're going to let yourself be "unreasonable" about!

1:1 COACHING IS BACK!

Coaching enrollment is happening NOW! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• Instead of taking on clients whenever, we take them on a few times per year, in waves.
• Continuing until Friday, May 28, we're accepting sign-up forms for potential new clients.
• We're taking on about 10-15 people, max, and some of those spots are already gone!
• This is for people interested in getting started ASAP (within the next 4 weeks).
• If you're not ready now then you can add your name to the wait list, and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability in the future.
• You don't have to be 100% certain that this is right for you — but serious enough to want to discuss it.

If you're seriously considering coaching, read this page and then click "sign me up" to talk to one of us about the possibility.

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I don't know about you, but I (hi, Kristen here!) have been feeling extra overwhelmed lately. There's just always so much to do!

And yes, most of it is all stuff I want to put my time and energy into, but it still feels like a lot of doing. I've been feeling a strong urge to sloooow down the pace of life lately and stop trying to make everything happen all at once.

The beautiful part about being is coach is that, sometimes as you're helping a client find solutions to the problems in their lives, you end up finding your own solutions along the way too.

That's what happened recently with my client Carolyn, who's been trying out a "feminine energy experiment," where she focuses less on doing and more on attracting. And I've gotta say, her results have been pretty amazing so far!

So naturally, I had to bring her on the podcast and have her share her journey with you. ;)

This is one of those conversations I keep mentally coming back to, and it's inspired me to do my own feminine energy experiment to help calm my growing overwhelm. I have a feeling you'll be inspired to try your own experiment too after you hear how it's gone for Carolyn!

Listen in as Kristen asks Carolyn about...

• What feminine energy means to her, and how different it is from how most of us typically operate in the world.
• What she did (and, more importantly, didn't do) during her feminine energy experiment.
• The results of her experiment (you won't believe some of the stories!) and why she's decided to continue her experiment indefinitely.
• Her advice for how you can try your own experiment with feminine energy.

After you've listened, leave us a comment to share how Carolyn's story resonated with you!

MORE ABOUT CAROLYN CANONICA

Carolyn is an avid world traveler, hiker, and yogi. Her other passions include reading, writing, philosophy, psychology, and deepening her spirituality. She is an oncology Physician Assistant by trade and lives in Brooklyn, NY.

1:1 COACHING ENROLLMENT IS OPEN NOW!

We're accepting sign-up forms for new clients starting today through Friday, May 28! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We'll be taking on about 10-15 people in this new wave.
• This is for people interested in getting started in May or June.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you're not ready now, or you've found us in-between "official" enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability.

Check out the details and fill out the form on this page, and we'll talk to you soon!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Magic 8-Ball: Masculine vs. Feminine Energy (March 2020) - https://clarityonfire.com/masculine-feminine-energy

Bonus Book Club! Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver (November 2018) - https://clarityonfire.com/outrageous-openness-tosha-silver/

Bonus Book Club! E-Squared by Pam Grout (January 2020) - https://clarityonfire.com/e-squared-pam-grout/

Finding a new job in 24 hours with Christina Hart (January 2021) - https://clarityonfire.com/new-job-24-hours-christina-hart

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Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.

This month we answered questions from:

• Samantha, who listened to our last Side Chat about wants vs. needs and started wondering about how that idea applies to money—when is it a need, and when does it become a want? And are you allowed to think that a large amount of money is actually a need?
• So Many Books, So Little Time, who's very overwhelmed by all the things she wants to do, but doesn't have time for now that she's working a 9-5 again. How do you even begin to choose which books, podcasts, shows, courses, and YouTube videos to check out, and which to ignore?
• Amelia, who listened to some of our past Bonus Book Club episodes (linked below!) and was inspired to experiment with the Law of Attraction. She's mind-blown with the results! But now that she's realized how powerful her thoughts and intentions are, she wants to stop thinking things like, "I'll never meet someone!" How do you stop fixating on things that you don't want to happen?

Leave a comment after you've listened to share how our advice for these listeners resonated with you!

Want to submit a question for our June episode of Dear Krachel? Fill out this form and you might hear us tackle your Q!

1:1 COACHING IS COMING BACK!

One-on-one coaching will be open for enrollment again on Friday, May 14! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We'll be taking on about 10-15 people in this new wave.
• This is for people interested in getting started in May or June.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you're not ready now, or you've found us in-between "official" enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability.

If you're seriously considering coaching, check out this page for all the details so you know what to expect!

COMMUNITY UPDATES!

We're doing our first quarterly Zoom with Krachel for our Patreon members next Wednesday, May 12th at 1pm Eastern! This inaugural hangout will be "ask us anything" style. ☺

Unlike monthly community meetups, this will be recorded. So, if you're a Flame tier member, you can enjoy the replay if you aren't able to attend live! Become a patron, here!

LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT

Bonus Book Club! The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho (August 2018) - https://clarityonfire.com/alchemist-paulo-coelho/

Bonus Book Club! Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver (November 2018) - https://clarityonfire.com/outrageous-openness-tosha-silver/

Bonus Book Club! It's Not Your Money by Tosha Silver (March 2019) - https://clarityonfire.com/not-your-money-tosha-silver/

Bonus Book Club! E-Squared by Pam Grout (January 2020) - https://clarityonfire.com/e-squared-pam-grout/

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First and foremost–May the Fourth be with you.

Secondly–WHEW, do we have a litany of important news to share!

Listen in today as we break down some major events happening in the Clarity on Fire world. The teasers include…

• Why we're significantly changing how we do 1:1 coaching for the first time since we started 9 years ago … and what that means if you're interested in working with us this time around.
• A book announcement many of you have been waiting years for.
• A major life change for Rachel, and the things she's cooking up for you behind the scenes as a result.
• … and a story about a snake scaring the crap out of Kristen, just for fun.

If you miss this one, you'll be about as informed as someone Obi Wan Kenobi just mind erased with the Force (I will NOT apologize for this example on Star Wars day), so do yourself a favor and listen in.

1:1 COACHING IS COMING BACK!

One-on-one coaching will be open for enrollment again on Friday, May 14! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We'll be taking on about 10-15 people in this new wave.
• This is for people interested in getting started in May or June.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you're not ready now, or you've found us in-between "official" enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability.

If you're seriously considering coaching, check out this page for all the details so you know what to expect!

COMMUNITY UPDATES!

We're doing our first quarterly Zoom with Krachel for our Patreon members next Wednesday, May 12th at 1pm Eastern! This inaugural hangout will be "ask us anything" style. ☺

Unlike monthly community meetups, this will be recorded. So, if you're a Flame tier member, you can enjoy the replay if you aren't able to attend live! Become a patron, here!

LINKS

Leave us a comment on this episode - https://clarityonfire.com/three-pieces-big-news

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Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it's time for another book club episode of the podcast!

Whenever there are five Fridays in a month, we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can't get enough of. In this episode, we're diving into a brand-new book: Radiant Rest by Tracee Stanley.

The last couple books we've talked about (The Artist's Way and The Body Keeps the Score) were INTENSE. So, this book, which is all about yoga nidra—aka, the yoga of sleep—was the perfect, soothing antidote to the reading we've done lately. ;)

And given how exhausted, burnt out, and stretched to the limit most of us are after the last year, we need to prioritize rest more than ever! So, listen in as we talk about…

• What yoga nidra is, and the science of how it works
• How you can literally enter into a deep sleep state while still conscious and aware!
• The differences between meditation and yoga nidra
• Why we often resist resting (and even feel guilty for it)
• Our experiences after trying out the practices that Tracee introduces in the book

After you listen, come leave a comment to share how this conversation resonated with you!

1:1 COACHING IS COMING BACK!

One-on-one coaching will be open for enrollment again on Friday, May 14! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We'll be taking on about 10-15 people in this new wave.
• This is for people interested in getting started in May or June.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you're not ready now, or you've found us in-between "official" enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability.

If you're seriously considering coaching, check out this page for all the details so you know what to expect!

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Full transparency, one of our biggest pet peeves is when people hear the "career" part of "life & career coaches" and assume we help people scour job boards and edit their résumés.

There's nothing wrong with that—it's just not what we do.

If you've found us, you may very well want a new job. You might find yourself pursuing job boards and staring at your résumé, wondering how to polish it so that you can be noticed by a company with an awesome work culture.

But those aren't the steps that come first. You can't find career fulfillment if you have no idea who you are, what you want, or how to even recognize the right thing if it showed up. That's our bread and butter.

So, thank goodness for AJ Mizes, who actually loves all the stuff that we don't! On this month's interview with an expert, AJ and Rachel got into…

• How 88% of people get hired these days (…newsflash, it's not sending endless online applications).
• Job searching and interviewing in a time of COVID—what's changed, and a few things you probably haven't thought of yet.
• Questions to ask in an interview to help you identify whether an employer is going to be healthy or toxic.
• Red and green flags to look out for in a potential boss.
• The one thing you absolutely MUST be doing if you want to stand out and get hired for a dream job.

We learned SO much from AJ in just an hour—you're going to get a lot out of this, too. After you listen, come leave a comment to share which of his strategies you're going to implement!

MORE ABOUT AJ

A.J. is a talent and human potential aficionado with over a decade of experience within Career Coaching and Human Resources, and has been featured in NBC, CBS, FOX, The International Business Times, and Yahoo! News. He is currently CEO of The Human Reach, a human potential institute guiding high-achieving professionals to land their dream careers in record time, and coaching Silicon Valley leaders to be thoughtful, effective leaders. His most previous role was as a Facebook Global HR Leader. He has supported global teams of over 3,000 people and launched many innovative leadership programs that are still in full swing at Facebook today.

Follow him on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube.

1:1 COACHING IS COMING BACK!

One-on-one coaching will be open for enrollment again on Friday, May 14! A few pointers to keep in mind:

• We'll be taking on about 10-15 people in this new wave.
• This is for people interested in getting started in May or June.
• You don't have to know for sure that you want to move ahead with coaching. You just have to be serious enough about it to want to have a conversation.
• If you're not ready now, or you've found us in-between "official" enrollment periods, then you can add your name to the wait list and we'll contact you if and when we have an availability.

If you're seriously considering coaching, check out this page for all the details so you know what to expect!

COMMUNITY UPDATES!

We've got a LOT happening in our Patreon community this month! Join our $6/month "Flame" tier for access to…

Monthly community meetups on Zoom. Our next one is happening on Sunday, April 25 from 2:00-3:30pm EST. And we're bringing on an expert for you! Fellow community member Francisca will guide us into expanding and exploring our breath with a 90-minute Conscious Connection breathwork practice to clear energy and release tension.

This meetup will be 90 minutes so that we have plenty of space for breathwork and social connection, before and after the main event.

Quarterly Zooms with Krachel! Our first one is happening on Wednesday, May 12 at 1pm EST. Unlike community meetups, this will be recorded. So, if you're a Flame tier member, you can enjoy the replay if you aren't able to attend live! More to come on this one closer to the day of, though we're planning on doing an "ask us anything" themed session for our inaugural event!

Our private Discord Server, which is a space for our community to chat every day and connect! Sharing our feelings, recommending books and podcasts, talking about career and life challenges–it's all happening on Discord. Become a patron, here!

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So … I was in a therapy session and my therapist said something that filled me with, as I told Kristen during this episode, "The wrath of hell."

Why? Because she, unintentionally, broke one of the cardinal rules of anyone who's in a therapy/coaching/healing profession: Make the person in front of you feel seen and heard.

I brought her my very raw, tender emotions about something that was deeply troubling me, and in her attempt to help, she used an analogy that made me feel very unseen and unheard–and worse than that, almost made me feel gaslit and belittled. Cue rage erupting from me akin to the fires of hell.

But, in classic fashion, my rage gave me an opportunity to coach myself (it turns out, of the two of us I'm probably the better coach for me anyway). And in getting to the bottom of why I was so triggered, I made a HUGE realization:

I was angry because she had treated one of my needs as if it was a want. So, I decided we definitely need to have a Side Chat about this! Listen in as Kristen and I talk about…

• The analogy she used that made me feel like she was diminishing my needs.
• How, in an attempt to be evolved, we often end up gaslighting ourselves out of having needs.
• Why treating needs as needs, rather than wants, makes room for you to have ALL the uncomfortable emotions, without feeling guilty about it.
• Why it's totally normal to be attached to your needs, and how you definitely don't have to worry that being attached will mess up your ability to receive what you want.

After you listen, come leave a comment to share something you've been treating as a want, that might actually be a need!

COMMUNITY UPDATES!

We've got a LOT happening in our Patreon community this month! Join our $6/month "Flame" tier for access to…

Monthly community meetups on Zoom. Our next one is happening on Sunday, April 25 from 2:00-3:30pm EST. And we're bringing on an expert for you! Fellow community member Francisca will guide us into expanding and exploring our breath with a 90-minute Conscious Connection breathwork practice to clear energy and release tension.

Here's a teaser: "Conscious Connected Breathing is a powerful, active three-part breathing practice that consists of a large inhale into the diaphragm, another inhale into the chest, and a soft exhale. This amazing practice has helped people experience more joy, less stress, reduced tension, increased focus, relief, clarity, and connection to their intuition."

This meetup will be 90 minutes so that we have plenty of space for breathwork and social connection, before and after the main event.

Quarterly Zooms with Krachel! Our first one is happening on Wednesday, May 12 at 1pm EST. Unlike community meetups, this will be recorded. So, if you're a Flame tier member, you can enjoy the replay if you aren't able to attend live! More to come on this one closer to the day of, though we're planning on doing an "ask us anything" themed session for our inaugural event!

Our private Discord Server, which is a space for our community to chat every day and connect! Sharing our feelings, recommending books and podcasts, talking about career and life challenges–it's all happening on Discord.

Become a patron, here!

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One of the hardest lessons I have to learn over and over again is that you will never be done.

Ugh. It would just be WAY more convenient if life was arranged into predictable milestones that I could work toward at a reasonable pace and achieve with stunning regularity, thank-you-very-much!!

And I also love control! When getting what I want depends on how much I'm perfecting myself and my actions, then at least I can make things happen.

Sadly for me, and probably you too, life refuses to comply with my wishes. And yet … sometimes, that's incredibly good news. Which is why I brought on my client, Solange, for this month's interview with a normal person. It turns out that you can get things that feel too good to be true, without being "done" or the most perfect version of yourself!

Listen in as Solange and I talk about…

• The incredibly hard place she was in a few years ago, and how she got stuck in a very bland, unfulfilling job.
• That time, only a few weeks into coaching, when Solange was shocked by getting something she'd just told me she wasn't sure was possible for her.
• How she let go of the fixation on needing her career to be predictable and linear, and started flexing her creativity again (and writing her first novel).
• How life can be both unbelievably good and very much a work in progress, at the same time.

After you listen, come leave a comment to share how Solange's story resonated with you!

JOIN THE CLARITY ON FIRE COMMUNITY!

A lot is happening over on Patreon!

• Join the $3/month tier (The Spark) for access to occasional bonus episodes and other special content. Think of this like our virtual "tip jar." If you're not interested in the community aspect, but appreciate our work and want to send a little love our way every month, plus get access to bonus content, this is for you!
• Join the $6/month tier (The Flame) for occasional bonus content and access to monthly patron-only Zoom meetups (hosted by our Community Ambassador, Madison), quarterly Zoom hangs with Krachel, and a forum where members chat in depth!

For those of you who join "The Flame" tier, there's going to be a breathwork workshop later this month hosted by our friend and Patreon member, Francisca Hernandez! Dates and more info will be posted in Patreon.

Become a patron, here!

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