“Codependency is a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed. The codependent person, known as ‘the giver,’ feels worthless unless they are needed by — and making sacrifices for — the enabler, otherwise known as ‘the taker.' — Dr Exelburg, Verywellmind

Do you often feel you are giving more than your partner in relationships? Do you find yourself walking on eggshells, always being the one who apologizes first, feeling sorry for the other person even when they hurt you, or struggling to find time for yourself? These are all signs of a codependent relationship! In this episode, Shelly covers the definition of codependency, what research shows about the potential causes of it, and advice for overcoming codependent tendencies. 

We talk about how situationships are often inherently codependent, with one person being the "giver" and the other the "taker." Shelly talks about experiences she's had in past situationships that felt codependent in hindsight. 

Some of the key tips for overcoming codependency we cover in this episode include: 

• Work on self-awareness and learning more about the patterns you have in relationships 
• Become the president of your own fan club
• Stand up for yourself and set boundaries 
• Take steps towards separation and independence 

Articles referenced in this episode:

• Codependency: How To Recognize The Signs
• What Is Codependency?

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