Coming Up for Air

When I went through my breakup I wanted to know that it got better and if certain thoughts and feelings became easier. Now 3 years on I wanted to share with you how life looks and feels. I share some tips and some reflections that I have had recently. 

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I want to talk about something that a lot of us go through… but few of us talk about out loud. The day you were supposed to get married… but didn’t. The day you thought would be your anniversary… but became something else entirely. I talk about how to cope mentally and physically in this episode. I actually went away to Greece, but I talk about if I didn't - what I would have done instead. 

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On this episode I am talking about losing your firsts your first house, your first engagement, your first big love… and how to heal when the dream you built with someone else falls apart.

Maybe your ex left. Maybe you had to walk away even when your heart didn’t want to. Maybe the life you thought you'd live just… evaporated. I go through how I felt losing the first time I got engaged and my first house with someone. 

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 Seeing your ex move on can feel like a setback, even if the breakup is old. In this episode, we talk about why it hurts, how to cope, and what it really takes to move forward. From practical steps to mindset shifts, this is a straight-talking, compassionate guide to letting go and choosing yourself again. If you’re stuck in the pain of watching someone else start over, this one’s for you.

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In todays episode I am talking about one of the hardest lessons to learn but also one of the most liberating: Let people show you who they are — and stop making excuses when they do.I know this can feel harsh. When someone you love hurts you or disappoints you, your brain wants to make sense of it. Your heart wants to protect the connection. And your nervous system wants to avoid the truth. But what if the most loving thing you could do for yourself… was stop translating their behaviour into something it’s not?

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In this episode we’re diving into something I know so many of us struggle with the fear of being single. Whether it’s fresh after a breakup or something that’s been lingering in the background for a while, that fear can feel all-consuming. But today, I want to help you reframe it, understand where it’s coming from, and give you the tools and mindset shifts to move through it feeling stronger, clearer, and more grounded in yourself. 

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I saw this quote on the back of a toilet door - details in the episode. It really resonated with me because for ages I have said I am starting from scratch and it is so normal to think so but in this episode I talk about why you arent, and why your experience will be like your blue print that you carry into a new relationship. 

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Breakups are horrible but the first swipe post-split? That’s a whole other level of weird. In this episode, I dive into the emotional rollercoaster of re-joining the world of dating apps after a breakup. Whether you're downloading Tinder for the fifth time or dipping a toe into Hinge, I talk about what it means to start over digitally. From ghosting fears to unexpected confidence boosts, I share personal stories, red flags to watch for, and tips on navigating modern dating when you're still healing. It’s raw, real, and maybe even a little funny.

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In this episode I talk about not giving up on yourself. It's so easy to think that one bad day or one difficult conversation is setting you back on your breakup healing. It's not. You have to allow these things to push you and move you forward. I felt like giving up on myself so many times. I am so glad that I learnt that there are lessons in mistakes and blessings in the breaking.

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Most breakup advice out there focuses on surface-level things: "block them," "keep busy," "treat yourself." But true mental detachment is deeper. It's not just about erasing someone from your phone — it’s about reclaiming the mental real estate they’re still renting in your mind, often without paying.In this episode. I’m sharing mindset shifts you might not have heard before and daily practices that aren't just distractions — they’re deep reprogramming tools to help you actually move on.

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