Have you ever found yourself holding feelings about a relationship… that technically isn’t even yours?

Like your partner shares something about their other partner…and suddenly you f eel protective… or tense… or a little off around someone you didn’t have an issue with before?

Yeah… that’s usually a communication triangle.

In this episode, I’m breaking down how triangulation actually shows up in non-monogamy, why it’s so easy to fall into, and how it can quietly create tension and distortion in your relationships.

We talk about the difference between venting and processing, the “emotional telephone” effect, and how to stop carrying emotional weight that was never yours to hold.

And I share one of my favorite grounding practices for this:
 ✨ stay in your lane, stay in your truth ✨

Because when communication gets cleaner, your relationships get lighter, clearer, and way more sustainable.

💜 In this episode, we get into:

• What communication triangles actually are (and how to spot them)
• Why triangulation happens so easily in polyamory
• How emotional “telephone” creates misunderstanding and tension
• The difference between venting and processing (with real examples)
• How we accidentally recruit partners into conflict
• A simple practice to clean up your communication: stay in your lane, stay in your truth
• How to stop carrying emotional dynamics that aren’t yours

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