CONTAINMENT BY OTHER NAMES

Containment is the inner feeling we have when we are feeling grounded, coherent, stable, calm, collected.

Loss of that inner Containment makes us feel discombobulated, triggered, upset, unfocused, frazzled, emotional and many other darker emotions that are often associated with old pain and narrative.

When loss of Containment occurs, our tendency is to try and track down its origin to the many different things that may be happening on the outside in our circumstances of the moment. Or we may try and track the current upset down to old pain and pattern and wounds.  Often times, this attempt to trace back the origin of our loss of Containment is not a fruitful undertaking.

When we are upset, the best thing is to come out of that upset first.  When we are feeling Un-Containted, the thing that really needs to happen next is that we need to find our way back into Containment.  Attempting to solve problems while we are Un-Contained is a bad idea.  Attempting to have conversations about our relationship with our partner while we are Un-Contained usually only aggravates the situation.

In Man-Woman relating, I feel Men have the opportunity to offer this Containment to their women when she experiences a loss of Containment.  If we could build our understanding of this phenomenon and learn how to solve it with greater skill, we could resolve a lot of ancillary problems that often get attached to the painful experience of the loss of Containment, especially in the feminine.

Some of the feelings women often describe when they are experiencing loss of their energetic Containment: 

PERCEPTIONS AND FEELINGS DIRECTED TOWARDS HER MAN:

1. Feeling Abandoned by him.
2. Feeling Dropped by him.
3. Not being able to feel her man.
4. Feeling he is not present.
5. Feeling she doesn’t have his attention.
6. Feeling not seen by her man.
7. Feeling he is not taking her seriously.
8. Feeling he doesn’t get it.
9. Feeling alone even in his company.
10. Feeling not heard.
11. Feeling disconnected.
12. Feeling he does not make her a priority.
13. Feeling neglected.
14. Feeling she is not important to him.
15. Feeling he is choosing other people and things over her.

INNER FEELINGS THAT TRIGGER LOSS OF CONTAINMENT

1. Feeling overwhelmed.
2. Feeling alone.
3. Feeling she has to handle everything herself.
4. Feeling nobody has her back.
5. Feeling unchosen.
6. Feeling unworthy.
7. Feeling things are only going to get worse.
8. Feeling panicked.
9. Feeling anxious.
10. Feeling her life situation and choices are in error.

These issues may be something real that need to be addressed in your life or your relationship , or they may not be.  But if these feelings are being experienced DURING the loss of energetic Containment, then the best, first step is to restore Containment.  Visit the relational issues afterwards.  

Often times, these feelings are emotional distortions that are a symptom of loss of Containment.  In which case, resorting Containment is the main thing that needs to happen.

-- Om Rupani
www.OmRupani.org

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