Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

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It takes emotional maturity to show up honestly in your life and expose what you really think, feel, and desire–especially when those thoughts and feelings diverge from the norms of your larger social group. The fear of not belonging can keep us from acknowledging who we really are.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Carter of the Heart and Soul podcast to discuss the complexity of making room for your own thoughts and desires when you also belong to a family or larger group, and how unyielding expectations can interfere with self-acceptance, body acceptance, and honest relationships with others. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

The importance of acknowledging our honest thoughts and desires

Perfectionism

Body Image 

Developing compassion towards our limitations and the limitations of others

Resentment 

Reconciling our desire to belong to ourselves and our desire to be in close relationship with another is a complicated process. 

Making room in a relationship for two complete people, each with their own values, opinions, and priorities, is a complicated, painful, and remarkably worthwhile process–a process that will foster spiritual, emotional, and psychological development if we let it.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr.Finlayson-Fife joins the Barbie Does Dating podcast discuss the complexities and joy that come from our most important and meaningful relationships. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

*Differentiation in relationships

*Finding connection despite differences

*Negative patterns that interfere with growth & intimacy

*How fear of rejection and fear of commitment relate to perfectionism, 

low desire, and disinterest in dating 

*The importance of using invalidating information to confront ourselves and grow

*The benefits of being in a loving and committed relationship

Loving sexuality in marriage provides a refuge from the suffering and difficulty that is inherent to living.

When sexuality is mature, based in love and acceptance, it has the power to sustain us, rejuvenate our souls, and expand our capacity for joy.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why podcast to talk about how we can develop sexual maturity and use our sexuality to create more partnership and connection in our marriages. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

*Female orgasm

*Sexual response cycles for men and women (they’re different!)

*Masturbation and sexual awareness

*Fantasy

*Surrender and pleasure

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Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

*Love and Truth, two foundational elements of all good marriages

*Discomfort and its role in personal and relational growth

*Harmful meaning frames

*Creating and maintaining friendship in marriage 

*Resentment and what it can teach us about ourselves

*Red flags in relationships

 It’s been a rough year for Nate and Nora. 

Their marriage has been a relatively peaceful and comfortable one, but now things are different. Navigating Nate’s faith transition has been difficult for both of them. Nate is seemingly sprinting down this new path and Nora, while she makes efforts to understand, needs more time and patience than Nate is willing to provide. While recent changes have brought some newfound beauty and depth to their relationship, she often finds herself craving the stability and certainty of the past.

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps and Kristi Bassett for a frank discussion about anxiety. During the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers an important distinction between fear and anxiety and gives practical tips on how we can each learn to better cope with the uncertainties of life. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

*Fear vs Anxiety 

*How to increase our tolerance for anxiety and uncertainty 

*Supporting family members with anxiety 

*Anxiety medication 

In this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Raini Hamilton to talk about the important role conflict plays in intimate relationships and how couples can use conflict to grow closer together and expand their lives and relationship. 

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Conflict vs Contempt

* Our need for both connection and autonomy

* Effective communication during conflict

* Losing strategies

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Listen to the full episode to learn more about 

* What inspired Dr. Jennifer’s dissertation topic 

* Growth from stepping into a paradigm you don’t agree 

* Satan’s playground–it’s not sex…

* Updates about Dr. Jennifer’s upcoming book

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Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Overfunctioning vs underfunctioning

* Self-confronting about our behaviors

* Negative impacts of overfunctioning and underfunctioning

* Specialization within a marriage

* Overfunctioning as a parent

Listen to the full episode to learn more about:

* Spontaneous Desire vs Responsive Desire

* Escaping exposure and responsibility through resentment

* Duty sex

* False narratives that limit growth

* Discomfort for growth

* Modesty as a form of self-respect