Whether you're in a romantic relationship or not, learning to create psychological safety for yourself after trauma is a huge principle of healing.

When we talk about betrayal and all the loss that comes with betrayal trauma, we include the loss of your central nervous system to PTSD, the loss of trust, the loss of your self esteem, the loss of emotional regulation, and the loss of safety.

Many of us don’t even know that we’re in charge of our own safety, and since we didn’t have it in place before the betrayal happened, our next best option is to put it in place now.

In the recovery world, it’s often asserted that the partner who’s caused the betrayal needs to create safety. And that’s true… to an extent. But the second we rely on an external source to be the answer, we give away our power. The truth is, you don’t have to wait on your partner to take action to feel safe. You already have the power to start creating the safety you need.

Mentioned in the show:  Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes, PhD

Ongoing Courses:

Am I In An Abusive Relationship? - Free, self-paced workshop to help you identify key red flags that might be showing up in your relationship.

Road To Recovery - Join Luke and Alana Gordon, Founders of Choose Recovery Services and Program Directors for the Men of Moroni and The Worth Group for a free monthly couples webinar. Navigating the relational aspects on the road to recovery can be complex and confusing.

Choose 180 Male Support Group - Led by Luke Gordon

In 180 we help men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with other men, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deep self respect.

Upcoming Events:

Body Love Workshop- Monday October 3rd @ 6:00pm PT

Join this FREE upcoming workshop where Amie walks you through some basic steps to lean to love your body again after betrayal.

Believing In You- Group Coaching Program - GET YOUR SPOT FOR NEXT ROUND IN JANUARY!!

Take your healing to the NEXT LEVEL in Amie's group coaching program where you will gain more awareness that will help you heal in ways you didn't even know you needed. For more information on what this class entails click the link to find out more.

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