While it's tempting to blame the external stuff, oftentimes it's really the internal work that's holding us back. We're chatting this week with our 'Most Dateable' winner Brian all about how he's evolved over the last year mostly due to therapy. We discuss how the importance of getting to the bottom of our deep-rooted wounds, how we can take ownership of how we show up, and why vulnerability is so damn hard yet so damn important.

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From algorithms to getting more matches, we're chatting with the founder of Coffee Meets Bagel, Dawoon Kang, about everything you need to know to set yourself up for success on dating apps. We discuss how to maximize your matches, ways you can have a less frustrating experience, and why the best thing for business is to get you off the app.

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From date talk to the dreaded 'why are you still single' question, we're chatting with storytelling expert Corey Rosen about how to craft your story in a way that bonds you with others. We discuss how to be an engaging conversationalist on dates, techniques to help with active listening, and how to own your story to make you more DATEABLE!

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When you're getting showered with gifts, attention or affection, we want to feel like it's the real deal. But how do you know that this isn't narcissistic behavior disguised as grand gestures? Have no fear, we're breaking down what love bombing really is with Dr. Diane aka Back to Love Doc. We discuss the signs to watch out for, how attachment style plays into the equation, and how to be smart but not skeptical when dating.

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From video dates to finding love in the time of Corona, we're chatting with the rest of our community hosts Janis, Tony, Suanie, and Ryan about their post-pandemic plans and how they've evolved during the last year. We discuss becoming the person you want to date, bringing vulnerability into every dating interaction no matter how small or large, and putting all the self-work into finding someone who is right for you.

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As you swipe through profiles with vax cards, we can feel the end starting to near. But how have we all changed from the last year? Join us as we chat with our community hosts Shieldy, Jason, Gisela, Brian, and Caitlin about their experiences dating in the pandemic and how they are emerging from it all. We discuss becoming so comfortable with ourselves that we attract the right partner, not feeling as alone even if you’re single, and embracing an open-minded attitude that truly makes you dateable.

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We have been told that marriage is the end game...maybe...but also maybe not. We're hearing from our guest Alice about exiting her marriage and never being happier. We discuss when it's time to stop trying to make a relationship work, rediscovering yourself and your sex life, and how to define your own rules when it comes to co-parenting and running your life.

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We often hear 'dating is like a job' or 'dating sucks'....but it doesn't have to! We're chatting with positive psychology coach and play expert Jeff Harry about how to see dating as play and have more fun in the process. We discuss how shared experiences form deeper connections, why playful doesn’t have to mean surface level, and how anyone can turn on their playful side at a comfort level that works for you.

Follow Jeff at @jeffharryplays and learn more about him at his website: https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com

Read his article about how to see dating like play: https://jeffharryplays.medium.com/how-to-see-dating-as-play-7e8bf36c077c

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Who should pay on the first date? Is there ever a time where ghosting is OK? Is there a polite way to break-up? We're finding out as we dive into modern dating etiquette with an expert in the space, Myka Meier. We discuss why etiquette goes beyond just rules to follow, how changing gender dynamics challenge traditional roles, and some universal tips of how to bring your a-game while dating.

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Turns out the patriarchy isn't just harmful to women but also to freakin' men as we learn from talking to Joseph about his experience not fitting into 'bro culture' yet still falling victim to masculine values that ultimately hurt his relationships. We discuss why 'locker room' talk can be so problematic, the challenges that come with suppressing emotions and not asking for help, and how to redefine masculinity to become a better man.

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