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“Dating Roundup #11: Going Too Meta” by Zvi


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If there's several things this blog endorses, one of them would be going meta.

It's time. The big picture awaits.

You’re Single Because You Live In The Wrong Place

The most important meta question is location, location, location.

This is the periodic reminder that dating dynamics are very different in different locations, and gender ratios are far more uneven than they appear because a lot of people pair off and aren’t in the pool.

If you are a man seeking to date women, New York City is the place to be.

Churrasco Suadade: when I’m out I notice that tables at restaurants and bars in manhattan are probably around 80-95% women, it's a new dynamic that no one is talking about.

Fixed Income Guy: Are you at all the poor people places? All the finance guy hang outs are 80% dudes.

I mention Fixed Income Guy to mock him, as in why are you spending a lot more money to hang out with 80% dudes and largely finance dudes at that? I mean, sure, if that's what you want.

Darrell Owens: Oh this is new? Coming from the Bay Area [...]

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Outline:

(00:20) You're Single Because You Live In The Wrong Place

(02:04) You're Single Because You're Not Okay Making Less Money Than She Does, You Fool

(03:19) You're Single Because You Work Out The Wrong Amount

(07:32) You're Single Because You Don't Know You Are Hot

(09:27) You're Single Because Age Gap Discourse Is Crazy

(10:04) Dating Apps Are Bad For Mental Health

(13:13) You're Single Because You Listened To E-Girl Advice

(14:13) You're Single Because You Didn't Hire Blaine Anderson

(15:52) You're Single Because You Think Zizek Mocked Date Me Docs

(18:36) You're Still Single Because You Don't Appreciate Relationships

(20:50) You're Not Single And Haven't Been For a While

(22:25) You Are Still Single As Evidenced By Would

(24:02) You're Single Because You Lack Motivation

(25:03) You're Single Because Of Robin Hanson

(26:00) You're Single Because You Did This Instead Of Going To Therapy

(26:58) The Lighter Side

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First published:

January 23rd, 2026

Source:

https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/7y6YA8o6oisAzDSgk/dating-roundup-11-going-too-meta

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