April 29, 2025

“Dating Roundup #4: An App for That” by Zvi

31 minutes

Previously: #1, #2, #3.

As time goes by, the fundamental things in life are still the same, and yet they change quite a lot with the times. But they don’t yet change so fast that the previous three editions of this are invalid. AI isn’t transforming the world that quickly, not yet.

In the meantime, there's always more to say, and I both find it enjoyable and am hopeful that it might help some of you out there, so here we are once again.

Meanwhile, I am sorry to report that many of you are still single.

I spent sufficiently long between updates and got sufficient material that this one is being split into conceptual sections.

This one will focus in particular on the awfulness that are dating apps, and directly related considerations.

You’re Single Because Dating Apps (Still) Suck

Hinge puts a limit on number of open conversations [...]

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Outline:

(00:58) You're Single Because Dating Apps (Still) Suck

(07:12) You're Single Because Your Friends Are Insufficiently Supportive

(08:21) You're Single Because You Do Not Seek a Mentor for Basic App Skills

(09:39) You're Single Because Other People Lack Very Basic Skills

(11:01) You're Single Because Your Opens Aren't Effortful

(12:04) You're Single Because Dating Apps Are Out of Balance

(13:37) You're Single Because Look at the Odds

(15:30) You're Single Because You Won't Even Pay For Super Likes

(18:19) You're Single Because of Dating App Game Theory

(19:22) You're Single Because DateMe Docs Don't Scale

(23:33) You're Single For Lack of Very Basic Dating Strategy

(26:42) You're Single Because You Have an Android Phone

(29:14) You're Single and I'm Here to Help

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First published:

April 29th, 2025

Source:

https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/6QK7GZaAdM4vn7LrE/dating-roundup-4-an-app-for-that

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