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“Dating Roundup #7: Back to Basics” by Zvi


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There's quite a lot in the queue since last time, so this is the first large chunk of it, which focuses on apps and otherwise finding an initial connection, and some things that directly impact that.

Table of Contents

  1. You’re Single Because You Have No Friends To Date.
  2. You’re Single Because You Aren’t Willing To Be Dungeon Master.
  3. You’re Single Because You Didn’t Listen To My Friend's Podcast.
  4. You’re Single Because You Flunk The Eye Contact Test.
  5. You’re Single Because The Women Don’t Hit On The Men.
  6. You’re Single Because When A Woman Did Hit On You, You Choked.
  7. You’re Single Because You Don’t Know The Flirtation Escalation Ladder.
  8. You’re Single Because You Will Actually Never Open.
  9. You’re Single Because We Let Tinder Win.
  10. You’re Single Because The Apps Are Bad On Purpose To Make You Click.
  11. [...]

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    Outline:

    (00:22) You're Single Because You Have No Friends To Date

    (02:49) You're Single Because You Aren't Willing To Be Dungeon Master

    (04:35) You're Single Because You Didn't Listen To My Friend's Podcast

    (06:20) You're Single Because You Flunk The Eye Contact Test

    (07:45) You're Single Because The Women Don't Hit On The Men

    (12:27) You're Single Because When A Woman Did Hit On You, You Choked

    (17:14) You're Single Because You Don't Know The Flirtation Escalation Ladder

    (24:58) You're Single Because You Will Actually Never Open

    (28:11) You're Single Because We Let Tinder Win

    (29:43) You're Single Because The Apps Are Bad On Purpose To Make You Click

    (30:55) You're Single Because You Present Super Weird

    (35:09) You're Single Because You Have The Wrong Hobbies

    (37:00) You're Single Because You Do The Wrong Kind Of Magic

    (38:17) You're Single And All That Rejection Really Sucks

    (41:54) You're Single Because Dating Apps Are Designed Like TikTok

    (45:26) You're Single And Here's Aella With a Tea Update

    (45:40) You're Single Because You Don't Have a Date Me Doc

    (47:12) You're Single Because You Didn't Hire a Matchmaker

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    First published:

    September 1st, 2025

    Source:

    https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/ZHYenMdmXEKR9YLwY/dating-roundup-7-back-to-basics

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