Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch

Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week we’re in session with Wendy, who wonders whether a childhood friendship is worth saving after some conflict. We help her to move out of her comfort zone and tendency toward avoidance by opening up some difficult conversations she’s never had before--not just with her friend, but also with her husband.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week we’re in session with Emma, who wants to break her pattern of being drawn to older, unavailable men. We help her to see how her fear of rejection and loss after her father’s death serves to keep her safe but actually leaves her quite lonely.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week we’re in a mother-daughter couples session with Carol and Michelle, who have a long history of tension in their relationship. We help them explore the deeper issues underlying Carol’s sense of having done her best for her daughter despite suffering from depression, and Michelle’s sense of not being seen and heard by her mom.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. Shannon spent her childhood holiday seasons listening to her divorced parents fight about who would get more time with their kids. Now 32 and a year out from her own divorce, she's dreading her first holiday season without her spouse and managing her parents' disappointment if she doesn't travel to their respective homes during COVID. We help her to see the connection between issues in her marriage and her holiday dilemma, and offer her an empowering way to reclaim the holidays for herself this year.

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This week, a high school student struggles to manage the pressure to achieve without losing her sense of self. We help her to see that when you have balance in your life, it doesn't make you less productive. It actually makes you function better as a whole, and that this will be even more true as she grows into adulthood.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. Liam has just come out to his family as a transgender man and begun hormone replacement therapy. His sister is getting married soon and he promised to be her Maid of Honor, and while he no longer feels comfortable wearing a dress, he also doesn't want to make things awkward for his sister and the rest of the family. We discuss his struggle over his gender expression and help him to see that being true to himself is what will ultimately make everyone most comfortable.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. In Haley's mind, her sister Jill has always been the "perfect" one. When Jill visits their aging parents, she's like Mary Poppins, bringing sunshine and rainbows and even labeling their antiques. Haley is tired of never measuring up to Jill, but we help her to see that her problem is different from what she believes it to be—and that it's actually her greatest strength.

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Hey, Fellow Travelers. Jeff's parents have always been critical--making negative comments about everything from his appearance and intelligence to his being "too sensitive"—and as an adult, Jeff has tried not to let these hurtful words get to him. But now that he's a new father, he's worried about the impact that his parents' constant criticism will have on his child. We help him move past his fear of confronting his parents in his new role as a parent himself.

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We follow up on last week’s advice about who should bear the burden of maintaining connections with parents. We also respond to questions about a group text that’s spiraling into harsh words; a friendship worn thin by years of last-minute cancellations; and a new mother who fears her husband isn’t bonding with their baby. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Would you tell a friend that their kids are behaving badly?

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This week, we’re in session with Alexis, whose parents are pressuring her to get married and have children on their timeline instead of hers. We help her to set healthy boundaries with her family.

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