Divorce and Separation

So happy to welcome Bella Duncan back to the podcast to talk kids and divorce. Bella is an empowered 'kid of divorce' who is determined to make changes for the better and join the positive divorce and separation movement.

Growing up in two homes, she experienced firsthand many of the issues a child from divorced parents will face. As a young adult, she was inspired to create a helpful resource to help kids of divorce feel seen, heard, and less alone. Her blog, 'A Kid With Two Homes', shines light on what divorce, separation, or what family conflict can look like, from a kid's perspective.

Parents this is for you.

Bella and Nikki dive into -

• Parents using their children as messengers.
• Putting your children in the centre rather than the middle.
• Responsibility - what is and is not your children's responsibility.
• Communication.
• What can parents do to ease the load for their children when they are moving between two homes.
• Remaining present with your children.
• How your words and actions can have an impact.

This episode is sponsored by The Separation Summit. If you are looking to separate in a better way, a healthier way, a smarter way, then The Separation Summit has been specifically designed for you.

The Separation Summit is Australia's first digital event that showcases the ways, days and stages to a kind separation. This 1-day summit invites global experts, legal advisors, and divorce survivors, to offer an informed, heart-felt and collaborative event. Taking the mess out of messy.

Buy your ticket here.

Host: Nikki Parkinson. Divorce and Separation Hub Website.

Guest: Bella Duncan, A Kid With Two Homes. Website. LinkedIn. Instagram. Email.

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Nikki Parkinson speaks to Bec Chappell, passionate communicator, Marketing Strategist extraordinaire, and lover of finding solutions.

This hearty chat offers spades of grace, humility and a touch of sparkly hope. The kind of hope that we have all wished (or wishing) for during a 1am meltdown.

As the pandemic rolled into our lives in early 2020, Bec was facing the biggest year of loss, and later liberation, that could have once floored her. One night, Bec's now ex, turned to her and said, "I don't want to be together". Her response was brave and true, "I am not going to force you to love me".

During this time, Bec lost her job and was losing her marriage. In a matter of months her world came crashing down. The final blow after months of ghosting by her ex-husband; "I have feelings for someone else".

She could have given up, but instead, Bec decided to take control over her life and heart before it destroyed her any further.

It's a story of hearbreak and an epic comeback.

This episode is sponsored by The Separation Summit. If you are looking to separate in a better way, a healthier way, a smarter way, then The Separation Summit has been specifically designed for you.

The Separation Summit is Australia's first digital event that showcases the ways, days and stages to a kind separation. This 1-day summit invites global experts, legal advisors, and divorce survivors, to offer an informed, heart-felt and collaborative event. Taking the mess out of messy.

Buy your ticket here.

Connect with Bec on Instagram and Website.

Join our community of like-minded people @thedivorcehub on Instagram and Facebook and LinkedIn.

Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Bill Eddy joins Nikki Parkinson in this episode to talk high conflict divorces.

As an attorney, Bill was a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Centre in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years' experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics.

Bill has a popular blog on the Psychology Today website with over 3.5 million views, and is the author and co-author of twenty books on high conflict personalities, including two award winners, including, 'BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns' and 'SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder'.

Bill Eddy is very well versed on the topic of high conflict divorces.

Nikki and Bill discuss -

• What is the definition of a 'High Conflict' person?
• The 'Fugetaboutit' approach.
• EAR Statements.
• BIFF Methods.

Bill answers your questions -

• How do you deal with a narcissistic person, when using the family court system as a weapon? and

• How do you deal with parental alienation?

This episode is full of so many great tips when you are dealing with a high conflict person or going through a high conflict divorce.

This episode is sponsored by The Separation Summit. If you are looking to separate in a better way, a healthier way, a smarter way, then The Separation Summit has been specifically designed for you.

The Separation Summit is Australia's first digital event that showcases the ways, days and stages to a kind separation. This 1-day summit invites global experts, legal advisors, and divorce survivors, to offer an informed, heart-felt and collaborative event. Taking the mess out of messy.

Buy your ticket here.

Connect with Billy Eddy at The High Conflict Institute.

Join our community of like-minded people @thedivorcehub on Instagram and Facebook and LinkedIn.

Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Nikki Parkinson speaks to Laura Mazza, Melbourne mummy blogger Single mum, Mental Health Social worker, advice columnist for Kidspot, and self-confessed 'Queen of the Overshare' about her divorce story.

Like so many soon-to-be newlyweds, Laura was hoping for a happy-ever-after. Her ex-husband bought a house in trendy North Melbourne, and it made sense to get married and have babies. However, Laura being the brilliant non-conformist that she is, wanted to get pregnant first, and elope second.

Craving a quieter life, Laura and her family moved to the beautiful Mornington Peninsula, Victoria and found a beachside home for a quieter life. However, it wasn't long after the big move, where Laura felt the early signs of disconnect from her husband and believed he had stopped loving her.

After battling mental health and PostNatal Depression, her confidence and courage was at an all time low. Convinced that her marriage was on the rocks, Laura analysed everything. Listen in to this candid, raw, and insanely inspirational chat, where Laura shares her divorce story, openly and candidly.

This episode is sponsored by The Separation Summit. If you are looking to separate in a better way, a healthier way, a smarter way, then The Separation Summit has been specifically designed for you.

The Separation Summit is Australia's first digital event that showcases the ways, days and stages to a kind separation. This 1-day summit invites global experts, legal advisors, and divorce survivors, to offer an informed, heart-felt and collaborative event. Taking the mess out of messy.

Buy your ticket here.

Connect with Laura on Instagram and Facebook.

Join our community of like-minded people @thedivorcehub on Instagram and Facebook and LinkedIn.

Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Mia Northrop joins Nikki Parkinson to chat divorce admin hacks. Afterall don't we all want to be organised? My hand is firmly in the air.

Together with Dinah Rowe-Roberts, working parents Mia and Dinah have marshalled their professional expertise in innovation, finance, design thinking and operations to research best practices, trial the tech and craft the most efficient processes to optimise their own life admin. Enter their book Life Admin Hacks.

The result? No more overwhelm, way more spare time and thousands of dollars saved.

Afterall, what can be more overwhelming than a divorce and separation. However, as a lover of a good list, Mia shares the tools and techniques on how divorce prep can neatly end a marriage, and nail co-parenting the organised way.

After settling both her children into a steady high-school regime, Mia and her ex-husband leant into their separation by consciously and kindly uncoupling.

So, how did Mia maintain stability in ending her marriage? Listen in she's about to tell you just that.

This episode is sponsored by The Separation Summit. If you are looking to separate in a better way, a healthier way, a smarter way, then The Separation Summit has been specifically designed for you.

The Separation Summit is Australia's first digital event that showcases the ways, days and stages to a kind separation. This 1-day summit invites global experts, legal advisors, and divorce survivors, to offer an informed, heart-felt and collaborative event. Taking the mess out of messy.

Buy your ticket here.

Connect with Mia here -

Website

Instagram

Join our community of like-minded people @thedivorcehub on Instagram and Facebook and LinkedIn.

Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Two years ago, Madeleine West hit 'Restart' on her life. She packed up her life in Melbourne and moved to Byron Bay, split up with her partner of 15 years and the father of her six kids and she started life again.

During this honest chat, Madeleine opens up about how she divorced her husband when the world was watching, why remembering the love-story can help the ending, and that it's never too late to change everything.

It was a love story that started with houses, children, enterprises, and dreams, and at some point, became utterly unstuck. When Madeleine's 16 year relationship ended, she decided to repurpose her love into an ending that needed care, consideration and respect.

Achieving a 'happy separation', through a 'consciously uncoupling' process required Madeleine to dig deep into the existing compassion she had for her children's father if she was going to remain remotely unscathed.

There's no mistaking, divoce is a horrible and horrendous experience. The loss of self-control and direction, with no firm guide, leads many down a rocky path.

Taboo topics need to be shared, and stories need to be told. If we get up close and personal with our fears, and the stigmas surrounding separation, we invite self-respect into our lives. We offer respect to our previous partners, our children and ignite a sense of hope, that we can all move through this together.

Now, Madeleine is (re)discovering her new identity.

These steps have been taken before you, so listen (read) up!

What are your finances?

What do you need to live a life, to the one that you currently live?

What do I need to financially safe-guard my life?

I needed an honest assessment. So, ask yourself:

• What am I going to do?
• What is this going to cost me?
• Does your legal team fully understand your circumstances?
• Does your legal team offer kindness and compassion?
• Do you need a therapist?
• Do you need a retreat?
• Do you need a glass of wine?

Give yourself a chance at consciously uncoupling over a toxic divorce.

Connect with Madeleine here -

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Cathrine Mahoney joins Nikki Parkinson to talk suviving divorce and her new book Currently Between Husbands. Think Bridget Jones meets Eat Pray Love.

Cathrine Mahoney is an English, curly-haired Capricorn. A publicist by trade, who never leaves the house without a red lip on. She has called Sydney home for the past 20 years after moving from the UK in 2000, in part on the advice of a horoscope column. She has one son (that she knows of) called Louis, whom she loves to bits and enjoys embarrassing daily, that she shares with her ex-husband, former rugby league player and TV commentator Andrew Johns.

Cathrine is a self-confessed over-sharer who's only filter is the one she uses on her Instagram photos. She is constantly using 'Doctor Google' and is convinced she is hitting early menopause (but, as her actual doctor reassures her, it is just the scorching hot Australian summer that's making her feel like a red-hot mess and not 'the change' . . . yet).

Nikki and Cath dive into the beginning of the end, the messy bits, the good bits, the hard bits and all the inbetween bits to survive divorce.

Strap in - there is most definitely life after divorce and plenty of laughs in between.

Host: Nikki Parkinson. Divorce and Separation Hub Website.

Guest: Cathrine Mahoney

Connect with Cath here -

Website

Instagram

Buy Currently Between Husbands HERE.

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Dr Delia McCabe joins Nikki Parkinson to discuss why men and women experience stress differently and the science behind it. Dr McCabe is a Neuroscientist, Psychologist, Speaker and Author.

Delia shifted her focus from conventional talking therapy, after completing her Masters in Psychology. She had discovered that what we eat impacts brain function directly, and came to understand that until the brain is properly nourished no amount of talking can support optimal cognitive functioning.

Nikki and Dr McCabe dive into -

• Why men and women experience stress differently.
• How can we offer the nutrient's to our stressed out bodies.
• How can stress stop us from healing from a relationship breakdown.
• Why men appear to move on quicker than women.
• And so much more including why it's okay to eat chocolate for breakfast - yes you heard that right.

Host: Nikki Parkinson. Divorce and Separation Hub Website.

Guest: Dr Delia McCabe

Website https://www.lighterbrighteryou.life

Instagram @lighterbrighteryou Facebook @lighterbrighteryou

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

Dr Rebecca Ray joins Nikki Parkinson to discuss boundaris after a break up.

Dr Rebecca Ray is a Clinical Psychologist, Author and Speaker. She uses a science-backed, heart and hard truth approach to help big-picture-thinking woman and creators live a life that's fulfilling, unapologetic, and free.

Nikki and Rebecca dive into -

• What are boundaries?
• Creating boundaries as you move through your divorce and separation.
• Reframing boundaries - are they lines of connection or dividing lines?
• Transitioning from your old relationship to the new.
• How we can communicate boundaries.
• How we can enforce boundaries and deal with conflict.
• Where to start.
• Why self-compassion changes everything.

Rebecca has been a Clinical Psychologist for the best part of two decades. She is the author of Setting Boundaries, Breakthrough, The Art of Self-Kindness, The Universe Listens to Brave and Be Happy: 35 Powerful Methods for Personal Growth and Well-Being. Rebecca can be found interacting with her community online about using courage and brain potential to make a meaningful difference in the world, while going gently on ourselves.

Host: Nikki Parkinson. Divorce and Separation Hub Website.

Guest: Dr Rebecca Ray.

Website https://rebeccaray.com.au/ Instagram @drrebeccaray Facebook @drrebeccaray Podcast Hello Rebecca Ray

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Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.

WARNING: This episode discusses suicide. If you or anyone you know needs help, reach out and talk to somebody.

Divorce and Separation is the second highest contributing factor in suicide in men. It's time to raise the awareness and support men through this season in their life and remind them and us that #itaintweaktospeak.

Today's guest is Sam Webb. Sam is well known in Australia for his appearances on TV. Most people will recognise Sam as an actor on Neighbours or for his appearance on Australian Survivor, a host on Nine's Great Escapes and was one of the subject leaders on the feature film documentary, Suicide: The Ripple Effect which won top awards in the United States.

In 2013 Sam's life took a u-turn when his good friend Dwayne Lally took his life. Together Sam and Casey Lyons co-founded the mental health organisation and charity, LIVIN. The core of their mission is to end the stigma around mental health through education, fashion and community.

Nikki and Sam dive into -

• The difference in stigma between men and women's mental health.
• How we as a community/society can encourage men to talk about their mental health.
• Ways of getting the men in our lives to seek support.
• What it's like inside a male brain when your mental health is suffering.
• Tips for partners of men when you are concerned about their mental health.
• Tips for parents to support their young men.

Crisis lines Lifeline on 13 11 14 Kids Helpline on 1800 551 800 MensLine Australia on 1300 789 978 Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36 Headspace on 1800 650 890 QLife on 1800 184 527

Host: Nikki Parkinson. Divorce and Separation Hub Website.

Guest: Sam Webb, Actor, International Speaker and Co-founder of Livin.

You can check out Sam's featured Ted Talk from New York City here.

You can connect with Sam - Website www.livin.org www.samwebb.com.au Instagram @samwebb @livinorg Facebook @samwebbau @livinorg LinkedIn @samwebbau @livinorg

Join our community of like-minded people @thedivorcehub on Instagram and Facebook.

Executive Producer and Editor: Tiffany Richmond. You can contact Tiffany via her website and on Instagram @tiff__richmond.