Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Sandra shares her incredible journey of transforming painful sexual experiences into a space of safety and pleasure. She recalls how, in the early days of her marriage, she and her husband were deeply connected and satisfied with their intimate life. However, after the traumatic birth of her fifth child, Sandra suffered a severe pelvic injury that left her in constant pain and made traditional intercourse nearly impossible. This created a fear of sex and a sense of rejection for her husband.

But everything changed with Janna’s program. Sandra and her husband discovered a whole new world of intimacy they had never explored before. Sandra dives into the details of their transformed experiences, their new intentions for their time together, and how they've achieved a satisfying, pain-free, and mindful connection. Hear how they’ve turned their challenges into a fulfilling and therapeutic journey.

Previous Episodes Mentioned:

Justin in Episode 82

Sandra in Episode 74

Justin & Sandra in Episode 104

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Janna chats with Michael Kaufman, the author of The Time Has Come: Why Men Must Join the Gender Equality Revolution. Michael, a renowned advisor, activist, and keynote speaker, shares his insights on how traditional male roles in the bedroom and beyond often don’t benefit women. They dive into why it's crucial for men to confront their own privilege and engage in open dialogues about gender equality.

Michael also discusses the rapid shifts in societal roles for both men and women. By listening to women's voices and addressing their own defensiveness, men can better contribute to a more equitable world. Tune in to hear Michael's innovative approaches for transforming men's lives and fostering positive change for a more equitable society.

REFERENCES:

Janna's Program: Doing It Together

Michael Kaufman: https://michaelkaufman.com/the-time-has-come/

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Janna speaks with Ericka about the use of alcohol and how it can become a crutch in intimate situations. Ericka started drinking in high school, initially finding that alcohol eased her anxiety and helped her feel more relaxed before sexual encounters. However, this pattern led to risky situations and a troubling reliance on alcohol to numb out her fears and concerns about sexual performance. The result was a disconnection from her true feelings and intuition.

Now four years sober, Ericka has created a valuable resource kit for women navigating intimacy and sobriety, available at sobrietycurious.com. She’s seen many women in online sobriety groups struggle with the question, "What do I do about sex now that I’m not drinking?" Listen as Ericka shares her journey to a healthier, more authentic way of rediscovering intimacy and self-worth without the haze of alcohol.

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We are rebroadcasting one of Janna's favorite episodes: her fascinating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist who specializes in sex and gender issues. Dr. Schermer Seller is the author of one of Janna's favorite and most recommended books, Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy.

In this episode, Dr. Schermer Seller discusses her research on the Christian conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. Her findings reveal that this shift has had significant negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to form meaningful and healthy sexual relationships.

Whether you come from a religious background or not, this discussion will help you understand the global influence of this narrative on our lives and how we can begin the healing process.

Find out more about Dr. Tina Schermer Seller and her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/

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We are rebroadcasting our very popular episode with betrayal trauma expert Michelle Mays. Partner betrayal is SO complex compared to other forms of trauma. The lying, manipulation, scapegoating and gaslighting create a cycle of shame of wanting to simultaneously connect and disconnect from a cheating partner. 

Michelle shares her own betrayal story and outlines the rationalization, minimization and justification used by cheating partners to make their behaviour ok. She also speaks to the vital importance of restoring the relationship with oneself after experiencing partner betrayal.

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We're re-airing one of our most popular episodes (Ep. 27) with Mandy Röscher, a Pelvic Health Physiotherapist based in Brisbane, Australia who specializes in chronic pelvic pain conditions. Painful experiences in the bedroom are unfortunately extremely common for women. Mandy share her extensive knowledge and training with us to shed some light on this rarely-discussed issue.

We tackle the common myths about pelvic pain, explaining how these misconceptions can make the experience even worse for those who suffer from it. Mandy stresses the importance of feeling safe both physically and emotionally while healing, pointing out that recovery is about more than just treating the body. She also breaks down the phrase "it's all in your head," clarifying that while pelvic pain has psychological aspects, it doesn't mean the pain isn't real. She shares her insights on the natural variety of female vulvas, based on her experience with hundreds of cases, to reassure everyone that there's no "normal" down there. Finally, Mandy dives into the different types of pelvic pain and what each one feels like, giving us a thorough understanding of this complex issue.

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

The Centers for Vulvovaginal Disorders: https://vulvodynia.com/publications

Brisbane Pelvic Physiotherapy: https://www.brisbanepelvicphysio.com.au/

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For 24 years, Jennie Delreeve has been a beacon of hope for women overcoming trauma and reversing pelvic organ prolapse naturally, helping them reclaim their active lifestyles. Jennie’s journey began with her own experience of prolapse, which plunged her into a cycle of shame and fear. She soon discovered that the mental tension she carried was significantly contributing to her condition. This realization led her to understand the necessity of healing both mind and body to achieve optimal health. 

Jennie shares real-life examples of how to genuinely navigate thoughts and emotions, truly feeling and believing in the process. She also reveals how this transformative approach can enhance sexual intimacy, offering a pathway to holistic healing and rejuvenation.

Find out more about Jennie here: https://www.unshakeableyou.com/

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Stacey, a 42-year-old physical therapist, described her sex life as feeling like she was on autopilot. Her experiences were neither particularly good nor bad but rather monotonous and formulaic. She sensed there was something more to discover. To her shock and surprise, she had no idea how much she had to learn until she met Janna.

Stacey shares what it was like to truly understand the intricate workings of her own body for the first time in her forties. She also reveals how developing a curiosity about herself has opened the door to more fulfilling intimacy and greater enjoyment in her life.

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In this special episode, Janna reunites with Justin and Sandra, a couple who have each appeared on the podcast separately before (Justin in Episode 82 and Sandra in Episode 74). Together, they tackle some of the most frequently asked questions from Janna’s community, such as:

• How do you cultivate emotional safety and connection in your relationship?
• How do you bring up and phrase issues that have hurt you?
• How do you navigate defensiveness?
• Is it realistic for men to be satisfied with a sex life that differs from cultural norms?
• What does a husband learn from watching porn, and how does it affect his relationship with his wife?
• How can you tell if porn is truly gone from a partner’s life and not just hidden?

Justin and Sandra share their wealth of knowledge gained from the intense work they’ve done to heal their relationship, offering valuable insights for other couples.

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Amanda, 35, has always enjoyed sex. She explored with confidence from an early age and used the term "great sex" to describe her intimate life with her husband. But everything changed when they had kids. As a mother of four, Amanda found that sex transformed from fun and fulfilling into a vicious cycle of guilt, pressure, rejection, and shame.

With Janna's help, Amanda and her husband rediscovered a mutually enjoyable experience. Listen as Amanda shares the lessons she learned, transforming their intimate relationship into a true place of pleasure.

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