Partner betrayal is SO complex compared to other forms of trauma. The lying, manipulation, scapegoating and gaslighting create a cycle of shame of wanting to simultaneously connect and disconnect from a cheating partner.  My husband of 14 years admitted to a porn addiction that I was unaware of (after years in therapy/coaching trying to fix my "low libido"). 

When I came across the work of Michelle Mays on YouTube after one late night of desperate Googling, I knew I had to have her on the podcast. If you've had this experience, I hope this episode brings you validation, relief, and hope.

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My podcast guest this week, Joy, shared that when she first started her relationship (at 17!), she was expecting they would be that disgustingly in-love couple with constant PDA, but that's not what happened.  In fact, despite having a supportive, loving, and fun relationship, she quickly found that her fear of getting pregnant turned into the discomfort of having or talking about sex altogether. 

When Joy joined my Wanting It More program, they hadn't shared a sexual experience in almost 20 years.  I hope you enjoy our conversation. Remember, it's never, ever too late to make the change you've been wanting to in your sex life.

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As a husband, are you confused about why non-sexual intimacy (like playful touch and general affection) and physical intimacy have dwindled in your marriage?  

In this follow-up to Episode 43, I get to chat with Thia's husband, Eugene, about the pressure and personal responsibility he felt to fix their sex life and the many changes he tried that didn’t work. 

Since taking the Wanting It More program together, he's now aware of his many misconceptions about sexual intimacy in marriage. Listen as he describes his new role in supporting his wife in a way that works for them both.

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Thia and Eugene are a couple from South Africa who are currently living in the UK with three children. After waiting to have sex until their wedding night and having some positive experiences early on, their intimate life started to dwindle.

Thia wasn't sure if she was even able to have an orgasm (it can be hard to tell!) and Eugene was running out of ways to help his wife enjoy the experience.  Their sex life was becoming infrequent, routine and obligatory.

After taking Wanting It More, they've discovered a whole new playful, intimate, fun, and enjoyable sex life which is a delight to hear about (yes, they both go into very helpful detail in their separate episodes.)

These conversations are sure to warm your heart as they did mine. Don't miss my conversation with Eugene in follow-up Episode 44.

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Amber spent years searching for help for her low sexual desire with no answers. She spoke to her university counsellor, her mom, read books and sought help from her church. 

In a moment of desperation she reached out to her physician and was given this response: "Look, it's just one of those things. You simply have to do it. It'll make him a better husband and father."  

I can personally relate to this lonely experience. I searched for years for answers to my low sex drive from similar sources as Amber- books, workshops, therapists, and doctors and found nothing that helped me in the long term.  Thankfully, Amber's story has a happy ending but my heart breaks for the hundreds of thousands of women out there who are searching for a solution and finding nothing except, "Just do it, it's good for your marriage." 

There is a better answer to help women experiencing low libido and I'll hope you'll listen to find out what it is.

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In this follow-up conversation to Episode 40, I talk with Erin's husband Rob about his ‘old ways’ of thinking about sex and how his views have drastically transformed since taking Wanting It More.  

Learning about my concepts of safety in the bedroom originally floored him, but incorporating these vital ideas has ultimately made all the difference in their marriage and sexual relationship.   

If you're confused about what safety in the bedroom means, I hope you'll have a listen to a man's perspective on the subject.

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I'm always speaking to women and their husbands about the need for safety with physical touch in and out of the sexual experience. In our culture, women are bombarded with unwanted sexual attention in media, in schools, in homes, and out in the streets.  We don't even know that feeling safe is a possibility!  

This week, I talk to Erin and her husband, Rob in separate conversations, about how they have moved towards a safer sexual experience together. You can listen to Rob's conversation in Episode 41.

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As sexually loud as our culture can be, so many women (and men) experience the silence around helpful information on sex and pleasure as we prepare for marriage.  

This week I talk to Keira about growing up in a Christian household and the guilt, shame and dirty feelings she held on to for years. 

We also discuss her experience with painful intercourse and the dramatic turning point that helped her rethink her body and the meaning of intimacy in marriage in an entirely new light.  

Regardless if purity culture was part of your upbringing or not, I encourage you to listen to this episode as most of us were raised in a culture that was hush-hush about sex with little helpful education.

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I don't believe that making the choice to explore a sexual connection AND enjoy the experience is connected to physical attraction to your spouse in any way (aka, you don't need to be turned on by his body.)  

This also includes you if you DO find him hunky and still don't want and/or enjoy sex with him.  

This doesn't mean anything about you or your marriage.  

Curious to know why?  

I'm choosing to be honest in hopes that it will calm some fears on this hotly debated topic.

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In all the ways I’ve opened my life in service of educating the world about healthy sex, this may be the most vulnerable I’ve ever been.  

If pleasure and connection are the purpose of good sex, could we be creative with how we explored those intentions through texting?  I won’t lie, it did feel a little strange and I had some cultural shame to overcome but it was an incredible learning experience. It was so good that my husband and I are going to read out our text conversation in this week’s episode.  

If there is anything I’m passionate about, it’s making conversations about sex more accessible, real and honest.  And, goodness gracious, this is an honest podcast episode. 

Here’s to being real, continuing to learn and reducing the ridiculous shame culture has heaped on intimacy. I hope this episode brings you some laughs, relief and some real human-to-human connection.

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