Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Nancy unfolds her 71-year journey, delving into three significant relationships and the tumultuous experiences within each. Enduring emotional abandonment, financial instability, and a constant sense of being invisible and invalidated, she shares the poignant struggle of feeling like a solitary voice crying out, yet unheard.

However, amidst this turmoil, her narrative takes a turn when she encounters Janna. With her, Nancy discovers the language to articulate her life's journey and, notably, finds solace in connecting with other women who echo similar stories, offering her the support she longed for.

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Why are women conditioned to endure pain? Natalie reveals the multitude of reasons she persisted through painful sexual experiences with her husband for 27 years of their marriage. It wasn’t until she discovered Wanting It More that she realized the detrimental extent of what she was subjecting her body and mind to in order to fulfill societal expectations of being a good wife and meeting her husband's needs.

Due to inadequate sexual education and a lack of support, she remained unaware that experiencing pain wasn’t normal until recently. Janna and Natalie delve into the various factors contributing to why women tolerate pain, why they hesitate to seek assistance, and the toll it takes on their relationships. Natalie also shares what she’s learned about genuine intimacy and connection, highlighting significant improvements in her relationship with her husband.

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David’s wife spent years expressing her dissatisfaction with their sex life, repeatedly sharing her feelings, but David remained skeptical. Despite her efforts, he couldn't accept her perspective. Influenced by adult entertainment and misinformation, he believed he was doing everything right, yet she didn't respond as expected, leading him to conclude there was something wrong with her. Throughout their 22 years together, he doubted her words.

Then he stumbled upon Janna’s podcast. Hearing women articulate the same sentiments as his wife and men voicing feelings of shame and unworthiness resonated deeply with him. Finally, he acknowledged the truth of his wife's concerns. He became open to listening and learning.

David reflects on how the misinformation ingrained in his childhood seemed more credible than his wife's expressions. Learning from Janna, he's finally found a pathway to genuine connection and pleasure in his marriage at the age of 65.

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Michele bravely opens up about her tumultuous journey through relationships as a woman in her late 50s. She recounts the harrowing experiences of enduring compulsive lying, cheating, porn and sex addiction, abuse, and a pervasive lack of consent. Amidst the darkness, she discovered a beacon of hope in Janna, whose guidance led Michele on a transformative path towards healing and empowerment.

Michele sheds light on her arduous quest for safety and fulfillment in her current relationship. With Janna's support, she embarks on a profound journey of self-discovery, reclaiming agency over her own desires and experiences. This episode sheds light on the complexities of navigating trauma and rebuilding trust in the pursuit of authentic intimacy and self-empowerment.

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We delve into Raina's journey of rediscovering her desire for sex within her marriage. Despite a healthy upbringing with decent sexual education, positive body image, and safe and secure sexual experiences, Raina found herself losing interest in intimacy with her husband after getting married.

After starting a personal journey which she affectionately calls ‘Raina’s Religious Rebellion’ she began exploring how some of the concepts taught by her church around sex in marriage were harmful. This knowledge allowed her to get mad but didn’t offer real solutions. She started therapy to confront her sexual misgivings, which gave her the why but didn’t fully explain her feelings of low desire. She also had an unexpected hysterectomy, which made her body feel foreign and strange. It wasn’t until Janna’s program that she was able to put all the pieces of her sexual history together and have it make sense, providing her with a comprehensive understanding of her feelings.

Raina shares her ongoing efforts to reconnect with her husband through curious, playful, and meaningful steps, allowing her desire to gradually return. She also talks about her recent hysterectomy, the intricacies of recovery, and her ongoing healing to this day.

REFERENCES:

Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers: Sex, God & the Conservative Church

Sheila Gregoire: The Great Sex Rescue

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When Lisa took the Wanting It More program a couple of years ago, she never imagined the valuable lessons she learned to improve her low libido would also come in handy when confronting a medical issue.

Lisa talks in detail about her struggles with body image anxiety and gynecological exams that accompanied her journey to the diagnosis of Lichen Sclerosus, a rare skin disease that causes itchy and painful patches on the vulva. She shares her insights on coping with the diagnosis, navigating the intricacies of the medical system as a woman, and finding solace from the education she received in WIM. She speaks candidly about how this journey has impacted her body confidence and her intimate relationship with her husband, offering hope and inspiration to those facing similar challenges.

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Kyle’s career in law enforcement defined him as a safe person, dedicating his life to keeping his community and those who live in it safe from harm. Imagine his surprise when he learned the root cause behind his dwindling sex life was because his wife felt unsafe around him. It took him several weeks of coaching with Janna to really understand the meaning of the word unsafe in the context of Wanting It More - his wife felt unsafe to share her true feelings without negative consequences like guilt, shame, or blame. It wasn’t about her physical safety that was causing her low sexual desire; it was the lack of emotional safety.

Through guidance from Janna and reflection on his upbringing, Kyle recognized the impact of societal norms on his behavior. Embracing accountability and growth through the Wanting It More program, Kyle transformed his approach, prioritizing emotional connection and mutual respect. His commitment revitalized their communication and reignited passion, underscoring the transformative power of fostering emotional safety within relationships and highlighting that change, rooted in empathy and dedication, can lead to profound intimacy and fulfillment in marriage.

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We delve into Laura's journey as a 40-year-old mother of three, navigating the intersection of her strong Christian faith and her sexuality. Growing up with little education about sex, Laura found herself prioritizing her partner's desires in the bedroom while neglecting her own. Struggling to balance her intuition with the teachings of her faith community, she grappled with conflicting messages about love, forgiveness, and sexual morality.

However, a turning point came when Janna encouraged her to trust her intuition in the bedroom, mirroring how she had relied on it in her spiritual practice. Through this newfound perspective, Laura learned to challenge societal norms, embracing her worthiness and agency in her sexual experiences and breaking free from societal expectations to embrace her authentic self. This episode show’s how trusting one's inner voice can lead to greater fulfillment and empowerment in all aspects of life.

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In this podcast episode we meet Nate, a devout Christian and father whose misconceptions about intimacy led to strain in his marriage of 15 years. Raised on media for his sexual education, Nate found himself bewildered by the disparity between his expectations and reality in the bedroom. It wasn't until he and his wife took the Wanting It More program that they uncovered years of unspoken discomfort and miscommunication, prompting Nate to reevaluate the absence of crucial teachings on sexual safety and consent within his Christian upbringing.

Nate's journey underscores the vital role of open communication and understanding in relationships. Through introspection and dialogue, he learned to prioritize his wife's comfort and safety, reshaping his Christian beliefs to embrace a more inclusive and empathetic approach to love and intimacy. Join us as we explore Nate's inspiring story, shedding light on the transformative power of honest conversations and the intersection of spirituality and personal growth.

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Thilla shares her journey as a first-generation Canadian, shaped by her Sri Lankan heritage and North American upbringing. Raised in a family where discussions about sex were taboo and dating was reserved for an arranged marriage, she faced immense pressure and conflicting messages from both cultures. These challenges left her grappling with feelings of shame and guilt surrounding anything sexual.

The pressure intensified after marriage, with cultural expectations focused on starting a family. Struggling with fertility issues, Thilla's desire for sex waned, prompting her to find Janna and the Wanting It More program. Through this journey, she learned to untangle the complex narratives surrounding sex from both cultures, recognizing their negative impact on her sexual desires.

WIM provided Thilla with invaluable insights, enabling her to reshape her approach to sex. By delving into specific details, she reflects on her transformative journey and how she now embraces a healthier perspective on sexuality, liberated from the weight of cultural expectations.

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