Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Elle believed she was grappling with low libido as she reached the age of 50, having been married for 25 years with three children in college. Intimacy in her relationship had become a burdensome task, postponed for weeks at a time until guilt finally compelled her to engage. She considered this ebb in desire as a typical aspect of this stage in life.

It wasn't until Janna helped Elle compassionately delve into her personal history that the true roots of her low sex drive emerged. Unearthing childhood sexual abuse, the lingering effects of birth trauma, the relentless exhaustion and overwhelm from parenthood, and 22 years of untreated pelvic pain, Elle began to see the multifaceted layers of her struggle.

In our culture, women are often conditioned to endure pain, making it challenging to recognize when something is truly amiss. Elle shares her journey of self-discovery, articulating why she refrained from labeling her distress as pain for so many years. Now, with newfound awareness, she is bravely navigating a redefined understanding of intimacy with her husband, infused with compassion and hope for a more fulfilling connection.

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Janna dives into a question she receives often from women looking into her Wanting It More program: "Will this work for me if I don't feel anything during sex?"

A powerful misconception exists in our culture that something is wrong with a woman if she doesn't experience intense sensations during intercourse. Many of these women are labeled with “low libido” or “low sex drive.” Janna challenges the notion that sex is primarily focused on penetration, emphasizing the importance of understanding the clitoris with its extensive network of nerves and unique sensitivity.

She argues the essence of the intimate experience lies in pleasure and connection rather than adhering to a narrow view centered around genital engagement. She teaches a more inclusive understanding of pleasure that extends beyond the genitalia, emphasizing the significance of mutual connection and safety in fostering truly satisfying sexual experiences.

Janna shares personal experiences of overcoming years of feeling broken in the realm of sexuality, offering hope and encouragement for listeners to embrace their own unique journey towards fulfilling intimacy.

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Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

Everyone talks about getting more rest, but what does it truly mean to rest? Is it just about lying still and doing nothing? Join Janna and her good friend, Dr. Laura Froyen, as they dive into the world of rest in this delightful conversation.

They explore various types of rest – physical, emotional, mental, social, spiritual, sensory, and creative – unraveling the true essence of what rest aims to achieve. They recall rest experiences that can be not only rejuvenating and enlivening but also surprisingly active, creating a pathway to reconnect with yourself.

Janna and Dr. Laura will encourage you to ponder: How do you rest? What does your rest feel like? And most importantly, how do you feel after a good rest? Let's unravel the secrets of truly fulfilling rest together!

Dr. Laura Froyen: https://www.laurafroyen.com/

The Balanced Parent Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-balanced-parent-podcast/id1510139224

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Ellen bravely opens up about her journey with Vaginismus, a condition she discovered on her wedding night when she and her husband tried to have intercourse for the first time. A moment that should have been filled with joy and excitement left Ellen feeling gutted and cheated, particularly because she and her husband had eagerly waited until marriage to share this experience.

Vaginismus is a complex and often misunderstood medical condition that causes the muscles of the vagina to involuntarily tense or spasm upon penetration.

Over the years Ellen persisted in attempting intercourse, but each try brought pain and discomfort. Confounded by her body's response and overwhelmed by shame, she grappled in silence, feeling as though her body was broken.

However, through her challenging journey and the invaluable insights gained since then, Ellen has made remarkable strides in accepting and embracing her body just as it is. She graciously shares a detailed and practical account of how intimacy with her husband has evolved, offering a beacon of hope and understanding for women dealing with Vaginismus. Her story sheds light on the possibilities of finding comfort and fulfillment in intimate relationships despite the condition.

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Janna talks to the author of one of her most recommended books, "Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy."

In this captivating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist specializing in sex and gender issues, they discuss her research of the Christian Conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. This shift has had serious negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to have meaningful and healthy sexual relationships.

Whether you come from a religious background or not, this discussion will help you understand the global influence of this narrative on our lives and how we can start the healing process.

Find out more about Dr. Tina Schermer Seller and her books here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/

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The dream of having a family can quickly darken in the face of fertility issues. Sex suddenly becomes a highly monitored business, filled with immense pressure and  crushing timelines.

33 year-old Bridget endured three tumultuous years of IVF treatments, invasive medical procedures, severe sickness, and the trauma of pregnancy losses, all while living through the stress and isolation of Covid. The experience left her feeling utterly broken, both physically and mentally, and traumatized with severe PTSD.

Through it all, Bridget eventually delivered two healthy babies, but her views toward sex were understandably negative. She had no sexual interest or desire, and felt sex to be an endless chore and duty.

Listen to how Janna helped Bridget redefined the meaning of sex in her marriage and what Bridget’s husband has learned about his approach to his wife. There are so many valuable takeaways in this episode to help navigate the valid state of low sexual desire.

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When asked, "What do you like to do for pleasure?", Crissie’s response was, "That's a hard question for me.”

Many women will relate to Crissie’s do-everything-for-everyone-except-myself mentality. This 40-year-old mother of four spent years consumed with providing for the needs of her young family. Figuring out her own needs, wants and enjoyments were at the very bottom of her to-do list, especially when it came to intimacy with her husband.

Taking WIM gave Crissie space to ask herself for the first time what is was that she truly enjoyed, in and out of the bedroom. Although her journey of self-discovery will never end, listen to what Crissie has learned so far about how to ask for what she wants without feeling guilty.

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If you've ever dealt with painful or uncomfortable sex, this episode is a must listen.

For years, Anna tolerated the trauma of painful intercourse. She describes the pain as feeling like rug burn for hours afterward.

She was eventually diagnosed with vaginismus. Although she found pelvic floor therapy helpful, she didn't feel understood by her therapist and was left feeling even more sexually broken. Her sexual experiences were shadowed in anxiety, fear, shame, and guilt.

Her experience in Wanting It More allowed Anna to process through her sexual history to thoroughly understand what brought her to this point, and how to fix it going forward.

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Alyssa is a 31-year-old high school educator who’s been married to her high school sweetheart for 9 years.

When she became sexually active in high school, she was terrified of pregnancy. Even though she was using birth control, she was so anxious for weeks afterward that it was hard to function.

Once she was married and decided to start a family, Alyssa experienced two back-to- back miscarriages. Although she was told by the medical professionals treating her that this experience was routine and normal, it left her traumatized, fearful and grieving. She describes losing all trust in her body and shutting down sexually for years afterward.

Listen as Alyssa talks about how Wanting It More helped her learn to use her intuition to reconnect with her body and her husband again in a safe and meaningful way.

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Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

On the final day of our latest Wanting It More  round, I gathered all the wonderful husbands and wives together for a warm farewell Zoom call. During this heartwarming session, I posed the question, "What's been your most significant takeaway from this journey?"

Their honest responses moved me to tears. At just eight weeks into their Wanting It More adventure, these couples have already made remarkable strides in rekindling their intimacy. While this path isn't without its challenges, witnessing their progress in real time continually reinforces why I'm dedicated to this mission—to empower women with low desire by showing them the path to want and enjoy sex more.

If you're contemplating whether Wanting It More is the right fit for you, please don't hesitate to reach out. Simply drop me an email at [email protected], and let's schedule a brief, 15-minute Zoom chat. Feel free to ask any questions you may have, and I promise to provide you with candid and honest answers. Your journey to a more fulfilling intimate life may be just around the corner!

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.