Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

I'm answering the most frequent questions I get about my online program, Wanting It More, which is now open for registration for the Oct./Nov. round.

I think it’s THE best online program out there for helping women with low libido want and enjoy sex more, while also supporting their husbands so they can create a nourishing, fun, connecting sex life as a team with nobody being blamed other than culture.

In this episode I'll answer:

- What resources are included? What’s the weekly schedule? What’s included for husband support?

- What can I expect the outcomes of the program to be?

- Does my husband need to participate?

- How do I convince my husband a program aboout sex is worth it?

- What's the time commitment of WIM?

- Can’t I just do this on my own with the podcast and free class?

If you're on the fence about whether or not Wanting It More is the right program for you, email me at [email protected] to book a 15 minute Zoom call. You can ask all your questions and I'll be very honest in return. 

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

Everything Stuart learned about sex was from what he saw in media. Therefore, he understood sex to be a passionate, dramatic, climatic, sweaty event that occurs frequently and is mind blowing every time. Not surprisingly, this is not the type of sex life that Stuart had in his 12 year marriage.

In this extremely honest conversation with Janna, Stuart describes the slow decline of sex in his marriage, the round and round conversations with his wife that went nowhere, and how they both felt guilty, broken, and at fault for a problem they had no idea how to fix.

When he and his wife discovered Janna’s free class, he was blown away by the content and realized a lot of people were dealing with this issue and he wasn’t alone. Listen to why Stuart says taking Wanting It More “was the best thing to happen to our marriage since our children.”

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

Helen’s biggest realization during Wanting It More was owning the fact that she wasn’t taking responsibility for her own pleasure.

Her lack of enjoyment in the sexual experience wasn’t all about her husband and what he was or wasn’t doing for her.

She was allowing things to happen in the bedroom that she didn’t enjoy that created feelings of boredom, frustration, annoyance, even pain, but she didn’t know what to do when something didn’t feel good anymore (or never felt good in the first place).

Listen as Janna and Helen discuss her commitment to her own sexual pleasure and the life-changing idea to never again doing anything that doesn’t feel good ever again.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

Jenn grew up in a conservative Christian household and received her sex education from church events and camps (based on purity culture with the message that sex before marriage is a HUGE sin) and her high school sex ed class (which left her terrified of pregnancy and STDs). 

Not surprisingly, this education left her with a lot of shame around sex and her sexual interest in general.

Married for seven years, the shame spiral continued with her husband and she felt confused and broken…until Wanting It More.

Listen as Janna and Jenn discuss the one thing that made a huge difference in reducing Jenn's anxiety about sex.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

There's a big promise out there that we often hear in our culture...if you wait until marriage to have sex it will be the most united and amazing experience of your life!

Yet, for many couples, the opposite tends to be true. Sex can feel awkward, weird, and unsatisfying. The lesson from youth that sex is bad is hard to suddenly shake once "I do" is said. The same feelings of shame and guilt around sex follow us into marriage and don't go away.

This was Derek's experience, a devout Catholic who says he followed all the rules and expected his married sex life to “be on fire”...but it wasn’t. Sex felt awkward, he and his wife couldn’t find a rhythm, and their sex life ended up feeling transactional. 

My conversation with Derek is eye-opening as to why it can be so hard to look at the meaning and purpose of sex in a new light. 

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

Do you have a hard time saying no to your husband's sexual advances for fear of hurting his feelings? So many women I teach say they feel internal pressure and duty to give in and get it over with when it comes to sex with their husband. 

No wonder so many women aren’t enjoying the sexual experience!

Here’s what took me a long time to figure out: saying “no” empowers you to say “yes” to the things you actually enjoy (even if you don’t know what that is yet).

Listen to my conversation with 44-year-old Jo to find out how she learned to put her comfort and safety in the bedroom first in order to enjoy a satisfying sexual experience with her husband.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

Struggling to find the importance of sex in marriage after 60? I’m talking to Diane, a teacher and musician in her sixties with three grown children. Despite being an educator, Diane admits to knowing nothing about sexual relationships in her youth and “assuming the guys knew what they were doing.”

In this incredibly tender and inspiring episode, we talk about her journey with duty sex for almost 33 years in her marriage and the courageous steps she and her husband have taken to start talking about sex for the first time.

If you're in the empty nest years, I encourage you to listen to Diane talk about why it’s never too late to make the necessary changes to enjoy this time of life with your partner.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

Today we’re talking about foreplay and why I don’t think more foreplay, typically prescribed to women with low libido, is the answer to enjoying sex more.

I believe it does more harm to women than good. Curious to know why?

Listen in as I discuss three reasons why the goal to increase sexual arousal through foreplay is problematic. I also offer tips on what to try instead to help you focus on what your mind and body actually need to authentically enjoy the sexual experience with your husband.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

This episode is for the men listening out there! I often get emails from husbands asking me for advice on what they can do to help their wife enjoy sex more. Maybe they’ve listened to my podcast or read my website, so these men already understand it’s not about labelling her with “low libido” or getting her to fix herself. They understand there is a much larger societal issue behind her lack of desire, but they have no idea how to approach her with this information.

I’m offering valuable advice on how to become a safe, supportive, and encouraging husband. It’s hard but necessary to acknowledge the role you play in your marriage and what you’ve brought in from the terrible education received from porn, media and locker room talk. I’ll help you answer the tough questions swirling in your head.

This work takes a lot of courage and a whole bunch of relearning, but I've witnessed many men change their ways to become a better lover and I know you can too.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.

Have you heard the advice to "spice things up" to keep your sex life alive? Get kinky, say dirty words, try new positions, watch porn. I tried all of these things and more in my marriage to increase my low sex drive but I was left feeling empty, unsatisfied and unaligned with myself.  

I believe the key to more connected intimacy is becoming more of who you are in the sexual experience, not pretending to be someone you aren't. In this episode, I discuss why chasing increased physical sensations doesn’t work in the long term to enjoy sex more and the courage and truth-telling that genuine intimacy requires.

Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.

Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Ready to learn as a couple? Learn about Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together.