Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Join Janna in this conversation filled with healing and hope as we delve into a topic often brushed aside: pornography addiction. She sits down with Justin, who bravely shares his 25-year struggle with excessive porn use and the profound impact it had on his relationships and self-esteem.

Despite being told it's 'normal,' Justin's story sheds light on the dark realities of porn addiction and its detrimental effects on intimacy. He shares his journey from secrecy and shame to vulnerability and healing alongside his wife.

Justin shares:

Tune in for a compassionate and validating conversation that reminds us that healing is possible, and no one is alone in their struggles. Let's break the stigma and embrace hope together.

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In response to countless requests, we're diving into a topic close to many hearts: how to talk to kids about sex. Meet Christina, a recent graduate of the Wanting It More program, who felt compelled to provide her children with the sexual education she never received. Her journey is all about empowering her kids to navigate their body and intimacy with confidence, steering clear of the challenges she faced herself.

Join us as Christina shares her strategies for teaching life-changing concepts to her four children, aged 4 to 12. From using age-appropriate language to discuss bodies to navigating intimacy with her husband while the kids are around, Christina covers it all. She delves into the nuances of consent, encourages her children to trust their instincts, and tackles head-on the impact of media and pornography. This conversation is a beacon of empowerment for any parent navigating these vital discussions with their children.

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James had no reason to believe the ways he showed his wife affection, both sexual and non, was at all off-base. Afterall, he’d faithfully followed the rulebook he’d been taught in locker rooms and adult magazines throughout his 70 years and had success. He loved to look at and touch his wife to express his love and desire and happily assumed that his wife loved every ounce of his affection in return. He assumed any lack of sexual desire on her part was an issue for her to solve.

Once he met Janna, he quickly learned he’d been living his life happily misinformed.

James shares in detail his initial struggle learning and accepting the concept of safety, his eyes being opened to his wifes struggle to identify her true wants, and their new ability as a couple to honestly communicate with each other in and out of the bedroom.

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Join Janna and her special guest, Melissa, the WIM Community Coordinator, in this heart-to-heart conversation about the transformative Wanting It More program. Discover who this incredible program is tailor-made for, as they share their personal journeys of dealing with low libido in marriage. Explore the diverse issues the program can address, and be inspired by stories of past participants who have found success.

Janna and Melissa delve into the program's unique features and important dates. Plus, they address common questions that often arise. By the end of this episode, you'll have all the insights needed to make an informed decision on whether Wanting It More is the perfect fit for you and your partner.

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William had it in his head that he wasn’t the problem when it came to his wife’s low sexual desire. Afterall, he was doing everything he had been taught to do to satisfy his wife…the only problem was his teachers were other men, our toxic culture, and pornography.

William talks to Janna in detail about his experiences growing up as a person of colour, and the lessons he absorbed from media and culture on how to treat women and act like a man.

It wasn’t until he started learning from Janna and talking to other men inside the safe space of the Wanting It More program that he realized how off-base his misguided education had been. He talks in detail about how drastically but beautifully different his intimate experiences are now, and why the path he and his wife are on is where they needed to be all along.

AVR Resource Mentioned: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com/resources/f/empathy-breeds-connection

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Renee opens up to Janna about her six-year marriage to her white husband, exploring the intricacies of their age and ethnicity differences that created a soupy mix of misunderstandings around sexual desire, and her feelings of low libido.

Renee, a biracial woman, brings a compassionate and curious lens to her experiences and exploration of black culture, shedding light on the pervasive hypersexualized messages that saturate the music and language, contributing to a perfect storm of toxic masculinity.

As a strong, confident, and well-educated entrepreneur and feminist, she reflects on her adept ability to navigate societal pressures, but her inability to speak up in the bedroom. It is through the lens of Wanting It More that Renee discovers a profound realization—she had unknowingly been following cultural scripts throughout her entire sexual life, ignoring her own needs in order to fulfill the needs of others. This revelation sparks a hopeful journey of self-discovery, as Renee bravely shares her quest to unearth genuine pleasure and satisfaction in the bedroom beyond societal expectations and cultural norms.

Tune in for a conversation that navigates the intersection of culture, race, love, and personal fulfillment, leaving listeners inspired and hopeful for their own paths of exploration and understanding.

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From the early stages of her life, Rowen discovered immense fulfillment in the roles of people-pleasing and caretaking for those around her. However, she later realized that the price she paid for these roles was steep—it left her clueless about her own wants and needs.

As this pattern extended into her intimate relationship with her husband, her inability to assert herself resulted in exclusive attention to his needs, leaving her feeling alone and broken in her lack of desire for intimacy. Despite enduring long-term pelvic pain, her pleas for help were dismissed by professionals, and couples therapy seemed fixated on ensuring her husband's happiness.

It was only when Rowen embarked on a transformative journey with Janna that she experienced genuine change. Once she recognized her caretaking behaviour in the bedroom, Rowen emerged as the director of her sexual experiences. She now describes her sexual experineces as going “from a black and white movie into a full IMAX immersive experience.”

Tune in to hear Rowen's empowering story of reclaiming agency and steering her sexual narrative towards fulfillment and self-discovery.

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Kate and Janna unravel the complex dynamics of Kate’s 19-year marriage marked by a common tradition – the recurrent gift of lingerie.

Although intended as a sweet gesture, these presents took a toll on Kate, leaving her feeling embarrassed and awkward, along with dwindling her libido and decreasing her desire for sex. As the duo discusses the cultural implications of gifting lingerie, Kate's story becomes a powerful testament to self-empowerment, shedding light on how societal norms can hinder authentic connection.

In this episode, Kate and Janna navigate the delicate balance between intention and impact in intimate relationships. They explore the transformative journey of reclaiming one's sense of self, challenging established norms, and fostering genuine connection in the realm of intimacy.

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Throughout their 17 year union, the presence of pornography cast a shadow over Sandra and her husband’s relationship, steadily eroding its foundation. Initially, Sandra dismissed it, swayed by the notion that incorporating porn could add a spark to their connection. However, as time unfolded, she witnessed alarming shifts in her husband's behavior—his inability to heed her pleas for gentleness, defensiveness clouding his responses, emotions spiraling into dramatic extremes, an inability to distinguish between sex and love, and an insistence on using orgasms as a mood-management tool. Caught in a web of lies and betrayal, Sandra recognized the compulsive and addictive nature of her husband's porn consumption.

In this powerful podcast episode, Sandra shares her story of resilience and transformation, recounting how therapy and the Wanting It More model became the catalysts for rebuilding intimacy in their relationship. She delves into their journey of porn recovery, shedding light on the steps they took to recreate their sex life. Sandra explores the intricacies of navigating boundaries, revealing the specific measures she implemented to safeguard her well-being within the relationship. She also shares what their sex life looks like now and how her husband feels about intimacy since recovering from porn addiction.

Resourses: Sandra and her husband used the following resources to help them on their healing journey.

- Helping Couples Heal Podcast (interviews with Stan Tatkin, Omar Minwalla, and Carol Jurgensen Sheets): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/helping-couples-heal-podcast/id1462962051

- Omar Minwalla Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma Resource Library: https://minwallamodel.com/resource-library/We used ERCEM coaches to facilitate our disclosure. ERCEM is 

- Carol Jurgensen Sheets Workbooks: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com/products

- Dan Drake and Janice Caudill’s books to prepare for full therapeutic disclosure and emotional impact statement: https://intensivehope.com/resources/

- SPAA: http://spaa-recovery.org/

- Dr Paula Hall’s TED talk on pornography addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qf2e3XZ8Twhttps://www.paulahall.co.uk/books/

- The TINSA book connects addictive behavior to adverse developmental experiences: https://a.co/d/eYaltET

- Robert Augustus Masters, mature monogamyhttps://www.robertmasters.com/books-audiobooks/

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When Lee initially encountered Janna's messages about sex on her podcast, he felt victimized. It seemed to him as though blame for bad sex in marriage was being cast solely on men, leading him to internalize it as his personal responsibility. However, with time, he gradually grasped the profound message she aimed to convey – that the distorted notions about sex ingrained in our society are a product of our culture. Both he and his wife of 19 years were unwittingly influenced by these societal narratives.

The revelation came when they enrolled in Janna's course, where they gained a new vocabulary for discussing sex with each other. It was only then that they discovered the level of discomfort that had silently crept into their intimate moments. Armed with this understanding, they swiftly realized their previous approach to intimacy was detrimental for both of them.

Armed with this newfound awareness, Lee and his wife embarked on a journey toward healthier intimacy within their marriage. Lee now reflects on the lessons he has learned, describing the positive transformation in their sexual encounters and expressing a profound shift in his perception of the meaning of sex and connection within their relationship.

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