Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Celeste truly felt like she found her soul mate when she married her husband. She loved him deeply and could be her authentic self in their marriage...except during sex. She couldn’t understand how she could love someone so much yet dislike the sexual experience so intensely. She could never find the right words to express her feelings and would often cry after sex because she felt confused, frustrated, and broken.

Raised in a culture that discouraged asking for help, it took her years to finally talk to her husband about seeking guidance about low sex drive from Janna. Together, they took the leap into the Doing It Together program, which opened the gates to the communication they had both been searching for, leading to transformative change in their relationship.

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At 51, Heather is finally discovering what truly brings her pleasure in sexual experiences by asking herself, “What do I need?” Although she was once a curious and precocious sexual being, her desire diminished during marriage when sex became an expectation and duty. The traditional formula of what sex should be didn't work for her and depleted her natural libido, but she couldn’t articulate why. 

It wasn't until she and her husband participated in the Doing It Together program that she realized she had been missing the nuances of true intimacy and neglecting the acts that brought her real pleasure and enjoyment. Listen to how Heather learned to unfollow the "media sex formula" rules, give specific directions, set boundaries, and savor the wide range of possibilities in the buffet of the sexual experience.

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It's our 100th episode! To celebrate, I'm announcing a big change: a name change. As I've evolved over the years and learned from the couples I've served, so has my program. After adding an entire men's coaching and education program to Wanting It More, I realized the name needed to reflect a broader perspective. I was no longer exclusively speaking to women with low libido; I was teaching couples to work together to achieve fulfilling sex lives in their marriages.

So, as of today, the Wanting It More program and this podcast will now be called Doing It Together. I will continue to share the stories of men and women to help you better understand your own journey and to ultimately know that you aren't broken, you never were, and there's a better way forward.

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Crystal is a self-defined good girl. Since childhood, she was expected to, and praised for, doing as she was told and not rocking the boat. While this behavior was effective in her formative years, her passive nature had consequences on multiple levels in her 25-year marriage, including in the bedroom.

Crystal shares her struggle with speaking up for herself or asking for help, and how her lack of assertiveness resulted in years of emotional and physical suffering. She sought help for her low sexual desire through multiple doctors and therapists, but nothing worked until she found Janna. She describes Janna’s program as having "transformed" her marriage, and she explains why she thinks the lessons she and her husband learned are essential for a successful marriage.

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Tyler and his wife struggled with intimacy throughout their 11 years of marriage. After meeting at 16 and waiting until marriage four years later, they both expected that the sexual experience would bring joy and fun to their lives, but it did not. His wife was plagued by pain, and after having two children, the exhaustion and stress of their lives dimmed all expressions of genuine connection and intimacy.

Tyler thought that doing more around the house would help, but this only turned the experience into a transaction, which felt inauthentic and forced. After many failed attempts to fix their problem, his wife found Janna’s podcast and realized they weren’t alone in their struggle. Tyler shares the difficulties they both faced unlearning a lifetime of inaccurate information and how they are rebuilding their connection today.

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Emma vividly remembers losing her libido during her honeymoon. She and her husband had waited until marriage to have intercourse for the first time, and both were eagerly anticipating it. Initially, the experience was wonderful, but soon her desire vanished and never returned.

For years, she tried everything she could think of to "fix" herself. She believed she was fundamentally broken or that something was wrong with her clitoris. She visited doctors and sex therapists, read countless books, and followed all the advice she could find online. Desperate to save her marriage, she decided to take one last chance on Janna and her program. Emma shares her story of how she finally regained her libido and what she and her husband learned that restored their intimacy.

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At 56, Samantha felt like her libido was lost without a map. She had faced medical issues, including adenomyosis and a full hysterectomy, but she knew her diminished desire went deeper than just these physical challenges. Intimacy with her husband had once been enjoyable, but her desire had gradually faded away without explanation. The advice from doctors was bewildering and often repulsive, leaving her feeling more frustrated.

Then, she stumbled upon Janna and her program on social media. It was a revelation. Samantha realized she wasn't alone; many women shared her experience. Janna's program provided the vocabulary Samantha needed to articulate her feelings, and her husband learned ways to help rekindle her desire. Finally, Samantha began to see a path to rediscovering her intimacy.

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How and why do men separate the effects of their pornography use from their marriage? Andreas and Janna extensively discuss the rapid development of his addictive use of adult entertainment throughout his life, the reasons why he used it, his hundreds of failed attempts to quit, and what finally worked to become sober and save his marriage.

Andreas also shares what he’s learned about emotional dysregulation, the importance of boundaries and personal connections in sobriety, the role of his faith, and truth-telling. 

If you would like to reach out to Andreas, you can email him at [email protected].

Michelle Mays Episode 46 Reference: https://wantingitmorepodcast.com/46-healing-from-betrayal-trauma-with-michelle-mays/

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Colin grew up with two therapist parents, one of whom was a sex therapist. He learned a lot about emotions, sex, safety, consent, and talking openly from them. These things were really important to him and shaped his core values as he became a man. His wife also thought he was very caring, gentle, and understanding. But despite this, their sex life got worse over the 20 years they were married, and neither of them knew why.

Colin talks with Janna about the big things he painfully realized that were missing from his sexual education. It was hard for him to accept these truths, but now he sees hope for a better relationship with his wife and more fulfilling intimacy in the future.

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Kelly loved her husband of 20 years, but she noticed a change in her feelings toward intimacy over time, and she couldn't understand why. After some of their friends surprised them with divorce news, her husband worried about their own relationship, even though Kelly felt secure. 

He thought the solution was for him to become more attractive, so he started working out, buying new clothes, and even got a tattoo. However, Kelly felt his efforts had the opposite effect, making her feel “like a fly trapped in a spider's web.” The more he tried to be appealing, the less interested she became. But why was that? 

Thankfully, Janna shared her insights with Kelly and she finally discovered the missing pieces of the puzzle, understanding the real reasons behind her low desire. Now, she and her husband are finding positive and healthy ways to reignite their intimacy.

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