There's a big promise out there that we often hear in our culture...if you wait until marriage to have sex it will be the most united and amazing experience of your life!

Yet, for many couples, the opposite tends to be true. Sex can feel awkward, weird, and unsatisfying. The lesson from youth that sex is bad is hard to suddenly shake once "I do" is said. The same feelings of shame and guilt around sex follow us into marriage and don't go away.

This was Derek's experience, a devout Catholic who says he followed all the rules and expected his married sex life to “be on fire”...but it wasn’t. Sex felt awkward, he and his wife couldn’t find a rhythm, and their sex life ended up feeling transactional. 

My conversation with Derek is eye-opening as to why it can be so hard to look at the meaning and purpose of sex in a new light. 

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Do you have a hard time saying no to your husband's sexual advances for fear of hurting his feelings? So many women I teach say they feel internal pressure and duty to give in and get it over with when it comes to sex with their husband. 

No wonder so many women aren’t enjoying the sexual experience!

Here’s what took me a long time to figure out: saying “no” empowers you to say “yes” to the things you actually enjoy (even if you don’t know what that is yet).

Listen to my conversation with 44-year-old Jo to find out how she learned to put her comfort and safety in the bedroom first in order to enjoy a satisfying sexual experience with her husband.

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Struggling to find the importance of sex in marriage after 60? I’m talking to Diane, a teacher and musician in her sixties with three grown children. Despite being an educator, Diane admits to knowing nothing about sexual relationships in her youth and “assuming the guys knew what they were doing.”

In this incredibly tender and inspiring episode, we talk about her journey with duty sex for almost 33 years in her marriage and the courageous steps she and her husband have taken to start talking about sex for the first time.

If you're in the empty nest years, I encourage you to listen to Diane talk about why it’s never too late to make the necessary changes to enjoy this time of life with your partner.

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Today we’re talking about foreplay and why I don’t think more foreplay, typically prescribed to women with low libido, is the answer to enjoying sex more.

I believe it does more harm to women than good. Curious to know why?

Listen in as I discuss three reasons why the goal to increase sexual arousal through foreplay is problematic. I also offer tips on what to try instead to help you focus on what your mind and body actually need to authentically enjoy the sexual experience with your husband.

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This episode is for the men listening out there! I often get emails from husbands asking me for advice on what they can do to help their wife enjoy sex more. Maybe they’ve listened to my podcast or read my website, so these men already understand it’s not about labelling her with “low libido” or getting her to fix herself. They understand there is a much larger societal issue behind her lack of desire, but they have no idea how to approach her with this information.

I’m offering valuable advice on how to become a safe, supportive, and encouraging husband. It’s hard but necessary to acknowledge the role you play in your marriage and what you’ve brought in from the terrible education received from porn, media and locker room talk. I’ll help you answer the tough questions swirling in your head.

This work takes a lot of courage and a whole bunch of relearning, but I've witnessed many men change their ways to become a better lover and I know you can too.

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Have you heard the advice to "spice things up" to keep your sex life alive? Get kinky, say dirty words, try new positions, watch porn. I tried all of these things and more in my marriage to increase my low sex drive but I was left feeling empty, unsatisfied and unaligned with myself.  

I believe the key to more connected intimacy is becoming more of who you are in the sexual experience, not pretending to be someone you aren't. In this episode, I discuss why chasing increased physical sensations doesn’t work in the long term to enjoy sex more and the courage and truth-telling that genuine intimacy requires.

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For the first time, I'm offering support to husbands in my Wanting It More program, and I'm learning a lot about why men find it hard to understand (and even believe) their wife's low desire for sex compared to their own. This is especially true when women haven't been honest about what they enjoy (and especially about what they don't enjoy) in the bedroom.

In this episode, I'm sharing real examples of what men say they’re learning about how their wife's sexual desire works and how using these new concepts are making their marriage stronger.

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The examples we're shown of sex in movies and tv are ridiculous! I'm here to tell you that's not what real sex looks or sounds like (these are actors acting after all).

Are you curious to know what connected sex actually looks like? In my Wanting It More program, I get vulnerable and share my own sexual experience with my program participants to help them understand a new way of conducting an intimate experience based on their specific needs. I mean, where else are you going to learn this stuff?

In this episode, I share a hypothetical example of what one of my own sexual experiences might look like. My hope is that you'll begin to understand there's an entirely different way of increasing your sexual interest by using vulnerability, consent, boundaries, and honest communication.

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We're missing out on true joy and connection with our partners and ourselves when we focus on the formulaic goals of sex. It's not all about orgasm! It's about getting curious to create and follow your own rules for your sexual wellness. 

Laura and I chat about some of my best tips for creating a non-goal-oriented and mindful sexual connection.

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I challenge a lot of what society teaches men and women about sex, and sometimes husbands have a hard time with my content. I've been bullied, threatened, and personally attacked online by men who are struggling to see their important role in helping their wives feel more comfortable in the bedroom.  

That's why I was pleasantly surprised when Charles reached out to me on Instagram to share how the podcast was helping him in his relationship with his wife (without her involvement in my program or content). So, I invited him onto the podcast to explore what his journey has looked like. He talks about reevaluating the religious and cultural messages about sex he received growing up and the confusion they created in his life, as well as his long battle with pornography addiction and the decades of turmoil it caused in his relationship.

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