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Don't Dance With WALTER!


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Although he’s always eager to take you for a twirl on the dance floor, Walter isn’t the dance partner you want. His toxic tango can cause you to constantly trip up in your relationships. So who is this Walter guy? WALTER is an acronym representing the unhealthy communication behaviors we often fall into despite our best intentions.

In this week’s episode, Amie and Alana share examples from their own lives of times they’ve danced with Walter, and they give you ideas of how you can ditch Walter for good and learn to relate to others in healthier ways.

Listen to learn:

  • What WALTER stands for

  • Examples of dancing with Walter to avoid

  • What the window of tolerance is 

  • The benefits of staying in the window of tolerance

  • What to do when Walter keeps asking you to dance

  • Referenced in this episode:

    • Window of Tolerance PDF

    • Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman

    • Believing in You - In this course Amie teaches you how to work with your brain instead of against it. Learn key principles, tools, and concepts that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again. Learn more HERE

    • Coming up!

      • Honoring Our Bodies Through Awareness and Nutrition - Join this FREE webinar hosted by Jori Pena to learn more about nutrition and how trauma affects the body. Gain insight on connecting to your body, nutrition, body scans, meditation, and more! Webinar will be on January 23, 2024. Register HERE

      • More from Choose Recovery Services

        • Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma, and is free for the first 6 weeks.

          • Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. 

            • Help. Her. Heal for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.

              • ⁠Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.

                • Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.

                  • Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

                    • Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.

                      • Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.

                        • Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

                          • Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey hosts this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.

                            • ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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