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Dr. Kristin Neff | Defeat Your Inner Critic With Self-Compassion


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In today’s episode, we cover self-compassion with Dr Kristin Neff. Kristin received her doctorate from the University of California at Berkeley, is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, and is releasing her new book Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power and Thrive.

Self-compassion is the key to stop your inner critic in its tracks, but what is self-compassion, why is it important to be happy, and what can you do to develop a strong sense of self-compassion?

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  • Introduction – 0:00
    • What are the three elements of self-compassion and how can you use self-compassion to improve your daily life?
    • What are the warning signs you need self-compassion and what ways can you apply self-compassion?
    • Why is it easier to show compassion toward others and not ourselves?
      • Exercises to Strengthen Self-Compassion – 18:22
      • What simple exercises can you use right now to show yourself more compassion and stop being so hard on yourself?
        • What can you do to work on mindfulness?
          • Setting and Maintaining Boundaries – 27:10
          • Why are boundaries important in developing your self-compassion?
            • How can you set boundaries and learn how to say no while showing compassion and self-compassion?
              • Perfectionism and Self-Compassion – 39:00
              • What can you do to manage your perfectionism with self-compassion so you can stop beating yourself up over mistakes and failures?
              • If you struggle with accepting your mistakes and failures, self-compassion is your key to developing a healthy relationship with your imperfect self. We all make mistakes, but for some reason we are much better at showing compassion to the people we care about than ourselves. Cultivating a practice of self-compassion can change that and allow you to be kind to yourself while still pushing yourself to keep improving.

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                Fierce Self-Compassion by Dr Kristin Neff

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