Grow the Good

Embracing Life Transitions with Grace and Self-Compassion with Ilene Schaffer


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Transitions are inevitable. Whether it’s becoming a parent, shifting careers, retiring, or simply navigating unexpected change. But why do transitions feel so unsettling, and how can we meet them with more self-compassion and patience?

In this episode of Grow the Good, I sit down with my friend and fellow MAPP grad, Ilene Schaffer, to explore the psychology of transitions. With more than 25 years of experience in counseling psychology, Ilene shares her wisdom on navigating endings, sitting with uncertainty in the “neutral zone,” and creating intentional new beginnings.

We talk about what it means to let go of old identities, how to clarify your non-negotiables, and why patience and self-compassion are the keys to moving through life’s changes with resilience.

Top 5 Takeaways:

  1. Self-compassion is essential in transitions, whether the change is chosen or not.
  2. The “neutral zone” between endings and beginnings is where reflection and growth take place.
  3. Defining non-negotiables helps guide decisions during uncertain times.
  4. Patience is vital; most transitions take 6–9 months to fully adjust.
  5. Fulfillment isn’t about balance, it’s about intentional choices aligned with your values.

Tune in to learn more from Ilene, and hopefully, approach your next transition with a little bit more ease. 

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The Grow the Good Podcast is produced by Palm Tree Pod Co. 

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