MORE ALIVE PODCAST | with Andrea Crowder

Ep. 125 The Spine of a Queen: How to Handle Conflict Without Collapsing (Or Bracing)


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You know that feeling when you're about to have a hard conversation and your whole body tenses up? Your shoulders shrink, your jaw clenches, or you come out swinging with boundaries because you're terrified of losing connection?

That's what Andrea calls "Princess OS"—your girlhood blueprint for how to receive love. And it's fucking up every difficult conversation you're trying to have.

In this raw, visceral episode, Andrea breaks down what happened when she moved in with her man and her entire nervous system went haywire. She shares the exact moment in the Denver airport when everything changed—when she discovered that conflict resolution isn't about scripts or steps. It's about biology.

This is the science behind why your tone keeps getting called out. Why people can't hear you even when you're being "calm." Why you hit stalemate after stalemate in relationships and business. And exactly how to hold what Andrea calls "The Spine of a Queen"—staying in your heart even when you're scared shitless.

 

The Four Things Andrea Does Before Any Difficult Conversation:

  1. Play out the conversation first and look for collapse - Where does your spine shrink? Where do you brace?
  2. Breathe and notice where your body says "we're not okay" - That's your old blueprint screaming
  3. Correct your posture literally - Stand tall, shoulders back
  4. Get into your heart and stay there even when afraid - This is checkmate, motherfucker
  5.  

    Introducing: Spine of a Queen

    Andrea's 12-month mastermind for 25 women starting January 2026 ($25,000 investment). Real-time trigger clearing, blueprint updating, and learning to hold sovereign presence in every area of life—business, relationships, visibility, money, all of it.

    Four core pillars:

    • The art of divine timing
    • Integrating the biology of the magnetic woman
    • Becoming future fluent
    • Vessel for innovation
    • By the end, you'll need new messaging because you'll be a different person. (Andrea's bringing in a messaging expert for this reason.)

      DM Andrea the word "SPINE" on Instagram to learn more.


      Key Moments:

      "The person who understands themselves the best will be the person that leads the emotional tone of the room."

      "We're not afraid of somebody telling us a difficult truth. We're afraid of what the truth might cost us."

      "If you're using tears to try to get them to create an external sense of safety, that's control. That's manipulation. We've all done it."

      "Authority doesn't need to speak that loud. Authority just speaks with fucking certainty."

      "When you say thank you from like the mushy gushy part of your heart, you fork the other person. They want nothing else."

      "Every 0.2 seconds we are sending biological cues that either tell people to open up or wall up. Lean in or lean away."

      "The spine of a queen is like: I trust myself. I trust this. I trust us. And I trust you. But you have to believe that spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically."

       

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