On this episode, I wanted to talk about how we all fall victim to the Buddhist concept of the Second Arrow and detail how we can recognize and make the extra suffering truly optional. I go through my own experiences with self-blame and negativity and show how you can free yourself from these damaging thoughts and feelings.Get full show notes and more information here: <a href="https://victoriaalbina.com/15" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://victoriaalbina.com/15</a>Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.<a href="https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book">EEO Pre-Sale </a>

On this episode, I wanted to talk about how we all fall victim to the Buddhist concept of the Second Arrow and detail how we can recognize and make the extra suffering truly optional. I go through my own experiences with self-blame and negativity and show how you can free yourself from these damaging thoughts and feelings. Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/15 Mentioned in this episode: Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing! Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out. EEO Pre-Sale

On this episode, I wanted to talk about how we all fall victim to the Buddhist concept of the Second Arrow and detail how we can recognize and make the extra suffering truly optional. I go through my own experiences with self-blame and negativity and show how you can free yourself from these damaging thoughts and feelings.Get full show notes and more information here:&nbsp;<a href="https://victoriaalbina.com/15" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://victoriaalbina.com/15</a>Mentioned in this episode:Grab my book, End Emotional Outsourcing!Please support my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing, by ordering a copy and reviewing it on Amazon or GoodReads! You can leave a review even if you bought it somewhere else. Bring your screenshot to: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/ for gifts and raffle goodies. Thank you for helping this work ripple out.<a href="https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/book" rel="noopener noreferrer">EEO Pre-Sale </a>

Ep #15: Choosing Suffering

You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be.

The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode.

Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough.

This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience.
If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else.

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You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be. The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode. Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough. This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience. If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else. New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.

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