We have been conditioned to be polite over safe. To make others comfortable even when our bodies are signaling danger. To be small, sweet, accommodating.

That conditioning increases risk for women, especially survivors of coercive control. What kept you safer inside an abusive relationship can make you more vulnerable outside of it.

I unpack why love bombing is better understood as grooming. It is not just gifts or grand gestures. It is learning your values and vulnerabilities so they can be used later.

We also talk about:

• Trusting your body’s warning signals
• Seeing trauma responses as data
• Practicing strategic rudeness when something feels off
• Using the broken record approach in communication
• Naming patterns clearly with an ex or even professionals
• Teaching your children discernment instead of forced politeness

Your discomfort matters.
Your instincts matter.
And awareness is the first step in breaking this conditioning for you and your kids.

If this episode brings something up for you, I would love to hear from you.

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