What if dysregulation isn’t the problem? 

I know I know- that’s really hard to wrap our brain around! At least, it was for me. 

In this episode, I continue the conversation from last week’s interview with Deb Dana and take a deeper dive into one of her most powerful insights: that dysregulation is simply part of being human—and it’s the absence of repair that becomes the real challenge.

But I think for parents of kids with big, baffling behaviors, we need to pause and explore that a little more. Because- in your home- dysregulation is a real problem!!!

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why dysregulation is a natural part of being human, and how polyvagal theory reframes it with compassion and hope
• The difference between dysregulation itself and the behaviors that can emerge from it
• How offering repair—even when it isn’t received—can create powerful shifts in your child’s nervous system and in your own

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Polyvagal Theory as a Path to Hope: Regulation, Repair, and Connection with guest Deb Dana {EP 233}
• The Club – my online parent community with resources, events, and connections!!!!
• The Attachment Series - eBook
• Free Resource Library 

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/polyvagalhope

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