Parents aren’t the only ones providing co-regulation — we need it too. In fact, connection is a biological imperative for every nervous system, including yours. When you’re raising kids with big, baffling behaviors, the imbalance in reciprocity can be exhausting, isolating, and even grief-inducing. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to do this alone, and there are real, meaningful ways to find the connection your nervous system longs for.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why co-regulation isn’t just for kids — it’s essential for parents too
• How predictability and cues of safety help you know where to find connection
• Why imbalance and grief in parenting make sense — and what to do with them
• How communities (even online ones!) can be powerful sources of connection and safety

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast:

• When Connection Isn’t Safe- Oppositional Series Part 3 {EP 158}
• When Connection Isn’t Safe- Oppositional Series Part 4 {EP 159}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/biologicalimperative

Underneath every behavior is something happening in the body, specifically in the nervous system. When we support the body first, behavior often begins to shift. Even for kids who don't have a sensory processing disorder! 

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