We all need co-regulation.

Me.  You.

When our kids are getting dysregulated quickly, flipping their lids a lot, or having mountain reactions out of mole-hill sized problems, what they need is more connection and co-regulation.

This is true for grown-ups, too!

There is nothing wrong with you because you flip your lid.  Your not a bad parent.  You don't need to doubt your integrity.  You want to stay regulated and present, and you are trying. 

If you know how you want to parent but are struggling to actually parent that way, you need more connection and co-regulation.  If your brain stays more integrated and less likely to 'flip it's lid' you'll be able to use all those parenting tools you have stored in your upstairs thinking brain! (In the course, Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain, I call it the Owl brain).

In this episode, I normalize the need for co-regulation (nothing to feel ashamed about in being human!) and explore how co-regulation can be active or passive. 

Turn to the people who offer you co-regulation! 

And if you need support in intentionally cultivating your circle of support, we are waiting for you over in The Club.   

Offering connection and co-regulation is the explicit purpose of The Club.  Sure, we offer parenting tools too, and create a space to really explore the model of providing regulation, connection, and felt-safety to support our kid with their challenging behaviors.  But The Club is so much more than that.  It's a space for you to be seen, felt, and known.  It's a space to undo aloneness. 

CLICK HERE to read about The Club and join the waitlist for the next time we welcome new members

The Club is welcoming new members starting next Tuesday! Set yourself a calendar reminder and then head to RobynGobbel.com/TheClub on Tuesday so you can get instant access to a community, resources, and the change to pick Robyn's brain!

Applications for the 2026 cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program are now open! You MUST be on the waiting list to apply! Get on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/immersion

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