Sometimes our kids look completely calm- even smug — while doing something that definitely isn’t a behavior of connection.

But…they’re not melting down. They’re not screaming. They seem totally in control.

Seems kinda like owl brain, yeah? 

But- it’s not. It’s protection mode, even if the behavior seems calm. 

In this episode, we’ll talk about how kids can use their thinking brain in the service of their protective brain. They might plan, plot, and problem-solve… but they aren’t integrating. They aren’t considering other people, or long-term consequences. They’re thinking, but they’re not connected.

In this Episode You’ll Learn

• Why calm doesn’t always mean regulated (and what’s really going on in those moments).
• How “clever” misbehavior can actually be protection mode — even when it looks smart or controlled.
• How a child can plan into the future- and still be in protection mode. 
• What to do after the Owl Brain returns — how to hold accountability, repair, and make success inevitable next time.

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