Are you or your partner anxious when it comes to an attachment style?  What is the anxious attachment style you might ask?  An anxious attachment style is a type of insecure attachment that causes people to feel a deep need for validation and reassurance from others often preventing that individual from living a secure life relationally. People with an anxious attachment style may:

• Fear rejection and abandonment
• Come across as clingy or needy
• Have difficulty setting boundaries
• Have trouble accepting other people's boundaries
• Have big reactions to small conflicts
• Overanalyze or overthink their partner's behaviors
• Become jealous or possessive easily

The anxious attachment style usually developed in childhood as a coping mechanism when a child's primary caregiver is inconsistent in meeting their needs. This can leave the child feeling insecure and fearful of abandonment. In adult relationships, people with an anxious attachment style may become overly dependent on their partner for validation and reassurance.  

How this plays out in dealing with infidelity is vital to understand how you can help yourself heal as well as your partner.  Without an understanding of our attachment styles, relational recovery can be even harder due to the unseen forces working against the couple's attempt to communicate, lean in and display mutual empathy.  

 

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