When life is overwhelming and your kid's behavior makes no sense — and feels like it's getting worse — even the best resources get hard to use. You're too dysregulated to sort through 270 episodes or an almost 300-page book to figure out where to start. Of course you are.

This episode breaks down why you freeze in the face of new information, or end up just begging someone to tell you what to do — plus a personal story about learning that the hard way, and the actual order to work through instead.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• Why "I don't even know where to start" is a regulation problem wearing a content problem's clothes
• Why more information stopped being the answer at a certain point, and what had to happen instead
• The exact order to work through first — and which of three free roadmaps actually matches where you are right now 

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Start Here Podcast: The 6-episode series built to go first → RobynGobbel.com/starthere
• Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior — free masterclass + ebook → RobynGobbel.com/masterclass
• The Owl/Watchdog/Possum, Stress-Brain-Behavior, and Parent Regulation roadmaps → RobynGobbel.com/downloadroadmaps

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/WhereDoIStart

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