If you have anxious attachment, this episode is for you.

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You might not be double-texting.

You might not be chasing in obvious ways.

You might even look secure on the outside.

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And yet… you’re still not being chosen.

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In this episode, I’m breaking down the subtle, unconscious ways people with anxious attachment are still chasing love without realising it - and why simply “acting secure” doesn’t change your relationship outcomes.

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I share my own personal stories, client patterns, and the six chasing archetypes I see over and over again in people who want love, stability, and commitment - but keep recreating the same painful dynamics.

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We cover:

• The difference between secure behaviour and anxious survival strategies

• How anxious attachment shows up as fixing, proving, pleasing, performing, waiting, or hyper-independence

• Why you can stop chasing on the surface and still sabotage love underneath

• How self-concept and subconscious beliefs determine who chooses you

• Why being “low maintenance”, overly understanding, or hyper-independent is still chasing

• How these patterns keep recreating partners who don’t fully choose you

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If you’ve ever thought: “Why am I still not chosen even though I’m doing everything right?”

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This episode will help you see exactly what’s happening - clearly, honestly, and without blame.

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Find out your dominant chasing archetype

Most people don’t just have one - but there is usually one that runs the show underneath.

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👉 Take the free Chasing to Chosen Quiz here

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When you know how you’re chasing, it becomes much easier to stop sabotaging love without realising it.

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Ready to shift from chasing to being chosen?

If you recognise yourself in this episode, the work to change these patterns is inside my Chasing to Chosen Masterclass.

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👉 Watch the Chasing to Chosen Masterclass here

And if you’re trying to manifest love, shift a current relationship, or attract someone new - make sure you listen to next week’s episode. Hit FOLLOW so you don't miss it!

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If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full.

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Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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