It’s a question that lingers long after the relationship ends—why did they seem to hate me so much, especially when I started to stand up for myself?

You were never cruel. You didn’t lie. You only wanted clarity, honesty, connection. But suddenly, the smiles vanished. The warmth turned cold. And the person who once seemed so drawn to you began to treat you with disdain, contempt, even rage.

In this episode, Lynn unpacks what few people say out loud: the narcissist’s hatred may not be random. It may not even be about you. But it always reveals something—about their need to dominate, their fear of exposure, and their deep resentment toward the parts of you they could never fully control.

What if the very things they claimed to love about you were also the things they resented?

What if your independence was never safe in their world?

What if their hatred wasn’t about you being “too much”—but about you being enough?

This conversation doesn’t offer simple explanations. It’s not designed to soothe. It’s meant to illuminate. To peel back the layers of confusion. And to help you stop internalizing behavior that was never yours to carry.

If you’ve ever wondered how love could sour into hatred so fast—or why your strength seemed to provoke their cruelty—this episode is one you’ll feel in your body.

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